Okay I'm sixteen and I've been going out with my sixteen yearold boyfriend for almost 9 months

We haven't given head to each other or had sex.

My boyfriend is actually okay with that... sometimes... like sometimes we sorta are getting in the heat of the moment... but i just realize what happens and i'm like... okay we gotta stop.. yeah and i can see on his face he's a lil pissed... but what can he do about it

So there is this guy who has been asking me out just as long as i've been going out with my guy. But basically the second guy, John, is so like shocked that me and my boyfriend haven't really done anything.

And he said we should at least be giving each other head... i was sorta confused john told me to give another guy head.. but then he said... ur always bad at giving it the first time.. so if you get that out of the way you'll be better later in life.. and he just said it in a way where he was thinking, "You'll be better for when it's my turn."

But i was like.. i don't think i'm ready, and he said to me... okay sex might be something you have to be ready for... but not head.. it's nothing

So is it nothing?

Like i'm not really sure if i want to do this... there's sorta two main reasons.. because i dunno it seems very ackward to just do.. because my bf hasn't had sex either.. so i'm just going to start pulling down his pants and give him a bj.. like i picture it and it just doesn't look right

and also.. i think me and my bf might break up in the near future, so that's why i sorta don't wanna do it

But basically... is head 'nothing' because i'm really confused about if i should do it or not

What do you mean "nothing"?

not a big deal

my god, could you be more immature? why do you have a boyfriend when you are too much of a baby to do anything remotely sexual?

Confuzzled_Chickie, I am guessing your a gay male?

quote:We haven't given head to each other or had sex.

I have no idea what your post is about nor if you stated whether your a guy or girl in your post but I am just giving others information.



[This message has been edited by paintballpunk (edited 02-22-2004).]

Ok, i know virginity is one thing some girls don't want to lose to the wrong person, but head? Holy shit, big deal. Just do it, because the more you practice, the better you get, so even if you don't stay with this boyfriend it still gets somewhere. Also, make sure he returns the favor.

~es

I'm with mrman383 on this one. What's the point of being with someone if you aren't willing to perform even basic sexual acts?

paintballpunk, you are an idiot. You're an idiot replying to a post he hasn't read. And you don't know that men can give head to women as well as the other way around? Idiot.

I won't say head is nothing, because that's something each person has to decide for themselves. I also understand if you don't want to do it because you think you and your boyfriend will break up soon.. but is it overly presumptuous to think you did the same thing, stopping things just when they're getting really hot, when you didn't feel a breakup was soon to come?

Giving good head, for both people, is usually (not always) a part of good sex, which is an important factor in a relationship. If you're not ready to go even that far, then I'm with these other guys. A breakup, followed by not hooking up with anyone for awhile, would probably be good for you.

Of course, you probably won't do that, but either you can learn it now or learn it the hard way- feeling like you have to do it is not fun, and eventually you're going to give in to the desires of one boyfriend or another before you're ready if you consistently have one. There'll be lots of dicks around in the future. You won't miss out terribly by waiting.

Don't do anything you are not comfortable with. And don't listen to these other people who tell you that you're immature, or whatever the hell else they're saying. If you're not ready, then you're not ready. To give head, you must realize that you completely trust this person (i.e. diseases, etc., plus since you're still in school that he won't be spreading any rumors or shit about you). So, in conclusion, giving head is a big deal, just as everything else is in life, so take it seriously and don't do it until you're ready.

9 months and your guy has gotten NOTHING?!?!?! Daaaaaaaamn. How old are you, like 12? Shit. That is frigidness (is that a word?) at it's worst.

Anything sexual can be either nothing or something, depending on how you look at it. Some people are completely comfortable having sex with someone they just met and some people wait for marrriage. One could argue that either way is the better one, its all a matter of your point of view.

You have to know your self, know your moral standards and what you feel comfortable with. You're the only one who can answer your question. Have you Talked to your boyfriend about it? You say you think he might be upset about it, you say you think you might be close to breaking up, and I'm not surprised. You're talking more about your sex life with your guy friend than with your boyfriend.

My advice? Don't do it, if you can't talk about it with him and feel good about it then you won't enjoy it, he won't enjoy it as much as he could, and you'll regret it.

what the fuck are you afraid of? suck his dick or i'll donkey punch ya

j/k

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with and don't want to do. If you're just afraid of it because you've never done it before, tell your boyfriend and ask him to guide you and show you what to do. I was awful the first few times but eventually got better. Maybe ask him to finger you at the same time? The more aroused you are, the more natural it will feel.

It's nothing. If you don't mean nothing.

Like if you were an Air Force pilot & you accidentaly bombed an orphanage full of nuns & kids. If it was an accident & you didn't mean nothing by it, it's nothing.

Like most people don't use protection for head or anal. No matter how many different people they do it with. 'Cause it's nothing, now pregnancy, that's something.

Pregnancy, that's something & too much. Herpes or chlamydia or gonnorehea, they're nothing, especially if you have no symptoms, & if you didn't mean to get them.

Herpes, is nothing if you don't mean nothing by it. Like if it's an accident & nobody meant nothing by it. If you don't mean nothing then it don't mean nothing & it don't matter.

quote:Originally posted by mrman383:

my god, could you be more immature? why do you have a boyfriend when you are too much of a baby to do anything remotely sexual?

shes only immature if shes acting in a way below what is expected of those her age. and since you just dont know how old she is, you cant judge.

if she is 17, she is quite immature

if she is around 14, she is completley normal

[/drphil]

and the word chickie is in her username

shes obviously not that old



[This message has been edited by afrodeeziak87 (edited 02-22-2004).]

I don't think you're immature for not wanting to give this dude head. Some chicks just don't want to do that. I don't because that just seems physically uncomfortable (with the jaw and whatnot) so I've never done it.

You are immature, however, for making a thread about this. Are you retarded or something? What the hell would other people's opinions have to do with you sucking off your boyfriend? Actually, my main problem is that you come off sounding like a 12 year old girl who doesn't really know what relationships are. I just hate people like you, to be quite honest. Get out of the relationship, then hang yourself.

She's not frigid or immature. Those in this thread who said something to that effect have called other young women "sluts" for actually putting out. Why be consistent when you can be judgemental? Why be helpful when you can stoop to name calling?

People are ready for different things at different times. Oral sex is still sex. It's just not intercourse. As has been said, it requires trust and being comfortable with someone. Teenagers have widely varying definitions of "relationships" and "bf/gf" and what it means to be "involved." If after 9 months the appropriate level of fondness and trust hasn't been established, it doesn't have to anyone's fault, it's just the way it is.

According to Bill Clinton, it's nothing.

But I dunno, if it was me, I would've counted it.

But anyway, yeah. Why be with this guy and start getting all romantic and shit with him, go so far with him, and then just abruptly stop at a certain point?

Just try it next time or something.

(DISCLAIMER - Don't actually do anything with him. Statutory rape is bad.)

Johns a fag. he should bitch slap you and ride you into the horizon

I think it is something. I mean it requires trust. You wouldn't want to let just anyone stick there mouth around you're dick. As a general rule; I don't let things that can bite through a prime rib around my penis without alot of trust.

Hey sweet chickie, remember ladies 1st. Maybe

he should go down, then you.

Though, y'know, sometimes a man has gotta swallow his pride...sometimes a woman has got

to swallow a man's pride.