Ok, I met this really great guy about 7 months ago. We get along great, have a lot in common, and the sex is OMG incredible. I've had plenty of relationships and i've never felt so much like he could be the one. He's told me he's madly in love with me, wants to make my babies, and thinks about me constantly. I'm totally crazy about this guy! The issue: when i met him he had just recently broken up w/ his gf, but was still living w/ her be/c they have a 2 yr old son. He's really devoted to his little boy. I however moved 3 hrs away to college, and since then they're back together. He refers to her as his 'problem' and assures me things will work out. But with all this we don't get to spend much time together; most of which is spent all over each other. It would be hard to say if he uses me for sex, be/c I'm definitely part of the initiation everytime i see him. Of course he tells me he the sex isnt all he loves, but it is a huge plus. I'm constantly missing him, and cant get close to anyonw where where i live. And I have 3 more yrs of school. My friends say I should drop him and move on. Is it possible I found mr. right and we just have obligations in our life that make it difficult, or am I just a dumb girl getting stiffed?

Oh, isn't that romantic? He says he "wants to make your babies."

You sound infatuated more than anything.

This is a bad situation to start off with, why would involve yourself with a guy who lives with his baby's momma? Your his side girlfriend/mistress/pussy. You are being used for sex, it happens all the time. Watch Oprah, read Dear Abby, the thousands of women that get stuck in your exact situation. "For the past 5 years he says he's going to leave her for me but he still goes home to her."

You're horrible misled if you honestly think you have a future with this guy. YOU ARE A FLING. He is Mr. Wrong from the second you found out he not only still lived with his girlfriend but is the father of a two year old boy AND that girlfriend is the mommy.

You're sounding more and more like a homewrecker. Staying with him would be an extremely selfish, hedonistic thing to do.

So what would happen if he left his girlfriend and child to be with you? Would you live in the dorms or in an apartment close to your campus?

What if this happened and you had his child? And then he found another side girlfriend? Would this make you happy?

I'm with Mojo on this one. You are in a terrible relationship.

Well, look on the bright side.

whats with this "used for sex" business? your both getting yours, whats the problem?

i'm not going to touch this with a 20 foot poll.

p.s.-its hard to take you serously when you talk like a 12 year old girl.

Yep, it's infatuation. You're just the extra pussy on the side that makes him smile when he wakes up next to his kid's mom. Does she know about you? Doubtful. Get out of it, you're in college, you should have no problem finding someone else.

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Too, darn bad you don't live in the same town. The best thing, otherwise, would be for

the three of you would be to discuss you all living together.

That way there would be more fine time for bumpin' sweet uglies. When her & him were gettin' their sweet lovin, you could watch the kid. It can be so annoying, to a couple, when they're all hot 'n heavy & the kid needs

something.

That's where you come in, all real handy like. And, like, you could spell each other off, when one of you didn't "feel like it". You two could help each other keep an eye on him.

And sometimes, when everything were just right. You all could has yourselves a dirty 'ol threesome.

This is what everyone tells me. But he works full time and is very busy, so if his chick moved out he wouldnt be able to take care of his kid on his own. Maybe it's all a lie, but he certainly acts like he doesnt like being with her. My plan at first was to go to college and have a great time, date, meet lots of people, etc, and keep in contact w/ him too (and then i'd have a fling back home too). Then if i don't find someone else during college, I can always go back to him, and once I'm done with college I wont put up w/ the gf bs be/c I'll be capable of that job. However, since I've been at school I haven't liked anyone that I've met, and none of them come close to being like him. I can't get him out of my head. Yes, I AM infatuated, very. I'm careful to admit I'm in love. However, dealing with this for the next 3 yrs sounds crazy. Plus, all the sweet things he says about me, could all be bs. My friend says he tells me those things to keep me on the side and from going to other guys (which he constantly protests). But what I don't understand, is that I was still giving him pussy when he wasn't saying those things. I thought most guys didnt like that stuff. So why would he lie about all that stuff, and go thru all the trouble of it, if all he wants is pussy and is getting it anyway?

Exactly what trouble is telling you these things causing him? He's telling you what you want to hear so you'll fuck him. At first he didn't have to, you just fucked him for free. By telling you what you want to hear he has you infatuated with him and can keep you thinking about him all the time.

The fact he doesn't need to say any of this shit and still does is about the only bit of evidence that could work in his favor, and that's negated by the possibility that he's saying it due to feeling guilty because he knows he's stringing you along.

What everyone else is saying is very possibly correct, but I'll put a more positive spin on it. He lives with this girl and their son. He actually does give a damn about you. If you were around more, he'd be with you 100%, no doubt.

That leaves one question unanswered: Why is he still living with her?

He does not need to do this. He could easily find his own place and share custody of the kid with her. The only possible defense he could have for himself is that he wants to see his son more than just on the weekends or whatever, but there's no rule that says a parent who works full time can only see their child on days off. He could go over whenever he wants. Him and the kid's mom obviously aren't completely on the outs if they can stand living together.

At the absolute least, given the infrequency of your visits home, he's banging her. Unless you're okay with that, he has to get das boot.