Okay, it's not that bad. I really try to keep most of my personal shit off of totse but I have started 2 or 3 threads the while I've been here. This is one of those threads.

Anyway, this new guy. Yeah, the one that you all think is crazy.

I tried, I did. You saw me defend him when he was a total dick. Took him back after he fucked his ex, and didn't get pissed when he cursed, screamed, and generally said some fucked up things.

I gave up. We didn't speak on Valentine's Day. I called him 10 at night asking why he didn't spend the day with me. I can't deal with my boyfriends having mood swings and giving me the cold shoulder WHEN I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. I broke up with him. I told him that I don't want to see him until all my feelings are gone and I've moved on. As friends we're great, and I'd hate to lose him as a friend.

That's all fine and great right? Wrong.

I'm still very close to my roommates (well his roommates now). I went over there yesterday and he treated me like shit. This upset me so I didn't answer his calls for the night. I don't hold grudges and when I get pissed I try to get it all out within a few minutes or hours. Talking to him, would have pissed me off more, I needed to cool down.

I check my messages in the morning, there's 9! He came to my house last night banging on my window. He called my friends until 2 am trying to figure out where I was. He threatened to get his ex girlfriend to beat my ass. Every other word is "fuck" and all he did was scream at the top of his lungs.

This disturbed me. I knew he was emotionally unstable but I didn't think he was totally off his rocker. Like I said, I never let my guard down enough to let him hurt me so none of this really upset me. What upset me was that he was acting like this and he thinks he's perfectly fine and happy.

We were having a somehwat civil (but tense) conversation about the past few weeks and our thoughts on the situation. When I stated I broke up with him, he says, "I broke up with you!" He twisted that much in his head, that he's trying to make it that he broke up with me. That's just crazy. I thought people only did that kind of stuff in movies. PSYCHO!

He's turning 22 in a few months and he acts like a child. His name-calling, screaming, threats, borderline stalkingis freaking me out. That's not the same guy I met a couple of months ago. He changed to Hyde!

On top of all this, I actually did end up meeeting him to give him his money. He's already got a new chick. I was in awe. She lives with him! I feel like a dumbass for playing along with his shit. Hindsight's 20/20.

That's Mojo's story about dating a bipolar, psychopathic, delusional, depressed emotional manipulator. I do pity him though. I told him to go see a shrink to help him with his problems. He's stuck in a cycle of self destruction and attempting to suck in everyone he meets.

I try to help someone and I get grief. Now I find myself thinking that everyone has hidden agendas, that people aren't telling the truth. He did affect me in a way and I don't like it. I hope it wears off.

(BTW, I've typed everything the way it happened. They say there's 3 sides to every story, yours, theirs, and the truth. This is a close to the truth as I can get.)

Ok, so everyone can tell me how crazy he is and how I'm better off kicking his ass out of my life. Thank you...

..I'm single.

That's some pretty bad shit. Kind of reminds me of that chick with a stalkeresque guy after her who posted here a few months ago. Isabel or something. But it is good that he's out of your life. And from what I've experienced, most people shouldn't be trusted and do have hidden agendas. There's no reason to feel bad about realizing that.

So, now that you're single...

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

..I'm single.

I see you live in south FL too, if you want to change that give me a call.

But seriously he is messed up, my advice is to try to get him the help he needs. If he won't take it you can't force it on him though, and if he keeps acting in ways that could lead to violence against you I would get a restraining order and start packing heat(never trust the cops to get there in time).

I thought you were a guy. I feel incredibly stupid...

Aww yes, I remember Isabel. Was that ",love Venus (hee hee)" chick?

The last thing I need is gun. It'll have prison written all over it.

Poor impulse control + gun = prison.

There's always a newb here and there that makes comments about how disgusting homosex is or how much they hate gay people.I think I'm been gay-bashed more than most gay men have.

From this post and the other post I read about this guy it sounds like he is a narcissist. (http://samvak.tripod.com/10.html)

You sound like a very intelligent and mature woman, Mojo. I doubt you'll have trouble finding another man if that is what you want. But in the meantime stay away from this guy and focus on what is right for you.

Nah, the "Love, Venus" chick is pretty_pennay or something dumb like that. Isabel was the chick who always had dumb threads trying to get people to tell her she's great and her boyfriend sucks that turned into everyone flaming her to hell. Actually, I think she left after that incident. But before that she had this whole deal where this guy she had gone on one date with was stalking her. Eventually she was at a club and he sort of attacked her or something like that. She went to UT, that's the only reason I remember her

u BITHC SHOULD BE SHOT AND KILLED I AM LIKE HIM AND PEOPLE LIKE U SHIT ME. hE HAS AN ILLNESS AND IF ITS BI POLAR IT MEANS HE HAS A CHEMICAL IMBALANCE ON THE BRAIN.

wHAT KIND OF HEARTLESS BITCH SAYS THIS SHIT ABOUT SOMEONE WHO IS SICK.

its the same as taking the piss out of a retard. Thats heartless cause they cant help it.

I hope he kills u. Stupid bitches like yourself dont understand the effects u have on people in his situation. Ever though he might actually really like u hence the reason he was knocking on your window. But he has trouble showing emotion.

I dont know this guy but what i know is when someone is diagnosed with an illness they need to be supported not shat all over by a childish little girl.

You are too immature to look over his problems and rather than pass judgement stop and think WHY HE DOES WHAT HE DOES.

I am so lucky to have my girlfriend she aint going no where and when ever i loose my cool she understands that without being doped up to the eyeballs all day i cant help it.

I hope this guy ties u up so u can whatch him rape your mother.

Ohh that be good but fuck i dont get to watch it.

I pity your heartlessness and selfishness.

What u are saying is no matter how sick someone is U ARE THE QUEEN AND HOW DARE ANYONE RAISE THERE VOICE TO U. GET OVER YOURSELF AND GROW UP

THIS IS NOT MY LIFE THIS IS NOT MY HOME THIS IS NOT ME I HATE THIS.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

He threatened to get his ex girlfriend to beat my ass.

Haha.

Wow, after the last one I had thought, well...

But now I see that for someone who continually states that she doesn't get upset by the things that this fellow does, she surely goes on and on and on about these things.

Why get pissed off if he doesn't or cannot upset you.

luvbuds, i think you need help. You seem to be projecting your situation on to someone else here. From what i understand the bipolar was a comment, not a diagnosis.... chill out.

Mojo, good on you! Its always hard to end something, even if it wasnt a long term romance thing.

Hope you are ok and he leaves you alone. I hope that this new girl figures out whats going on before its too late.

stay safe!

Luvbuds, first off, I've been diagnosed (by a psychiatrist) as bipolar. SO SHUT THE FUCK UP! Just because your diagnosed with a mental illness doesn't mean you have license to be an insane dickhead.

I treated him like a fucking king until we broke up. I avoided arguments and NEVER voiced my feelings when he HURT me and said FUCKED UP things. I (tried) to take them with a grain of salt and not let them get me down. He treated me like shit, bitched at every little flaw. Bipolar is no excuse.

Dgen, I'm not crying over this. The situation just disturbs me. He's had an affect on my life deeper then most people because I did let him closer than most. Honestly, I wish it would have worked out, I wish we could stay together. Maybe that's why I talk about it? Because I regret that it didn't work out?

The chick he's with now. I've known her a few weeks and I don't like her. Makes no difference to me is he uses her, otherwise I would try to help. He admitted to me already that he jumps from relationship to relationship, he hasn't been single in over 4 years. The day we started going out he broke up with his girfriend (I didn't know he had a girlfriend until after the fact). When we broke up he went back to his ex. I broke up with him on Saturday and he's got a new live-in hoe. Complete chaos.

Thank god I'm out.

quote:Originally posted by GlitterPunk112358:

Nah, the "Love, Venus" chick is pretty_pennay or something dumb like that.

That is pretty pinay.

I don't know why there is such huge gender confusions on totse. Mr Mojo is a gay male right?

I hope Cloaked Dagger knew this when he wrote :

quote:I see you live in south FL too, if you want to change that give me a call.



[This message has been edited by evilduck (edited 02-20-2004).]

Mojo's a chick. Yes, thank god you're out. What a fucknut. Glad to see you're out of there.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

..I'm single.

Turn that frown upsidedown .

There are people like who you describe, and when it comes down to the wire it doesn't matter what clinical explanation science offers for their behavior, e.g. bi-polar, which used to be called manic depressive. The end results still hurt the same. If you've put up with his shit for any length of time, and not blown up, actually tried to help.. and he's cussing at you left and right while you're being (trying to be) understanding and supportive.. you've done all anyone could be expected to do, more actually, to try and hold a relationship together.

It's unfortunate he's had such an impact on you, to the point where you had hoped it would work out, but I'm sure he's got, or had some good qualities (when he's not being Norman Bates), or you wouldn't have been attracted to him in the first place. People don't change easily Mojo... he's the same guy you met, just he couldn't keep up the facade very long. He has to take on these 'roles' to keep getting into these relationships, think about how popular he'd be in the beginning screaming "FUCK YOU FUCK YOU, FUCKIN' WHORE.. FUCKIN' BITCH.." etcetera..., not an attractive come-on. Why does he self-destruct? Who knows. Psychologists make careers out of people like him, decent girls like yourself don't need the drama so you're better off without him, even as a friend.

If anything, it seems you're a pretty good judge of character fairly soon into the relationship by your previous posts, reading between the lines told me you knew exactly where this was heading a week ago but being a giving person you were grasping for input as to why you should give him the benefit of the doubt. That's my take on the situation.

Best of luck to you, I hope you find someone more deserving of your humanitarian aspect of viewing your fellow suitors and find happiness without being victimized like this dude has done...

-Extant

Observation:

Three things- having gone through the experience, not being turned into a wreck by it, and having it only last a couple of months- probably outweigh all the negatives. Maybe not right now, but down the road, and probably not that far either. This outcome is probably better than any other- possibly including never getting with him in the first place.

Extant, your words mean a lot to me, thank you. Now that I've had time to assess the situation with my emotions disconnected I've realized it's his loss. That makes things SO much easier to deal with.

Spiffy, you've always provided me with food for thought and can verbalize (more eloquently than even I can) my thoughts.

I hope I help as much as what you guys have helped me in the past few months. (I've been feeling mushy all day.)

You are better off. If you are on meds, stay on them, or end up like that ass clown ex of yours. Delve into what you really enjoy, ie: painting, camping or whatever, live for you. You don't need anyone to make you complete. I dated a bip[olar once, goddamn she is fine. She broke up with her boyfriend to be with me. I fucked her every which way then told her to go back to the lil' ex of hers. Yeah, I was a louse, but ya see, you are getting a louse's insight as to the workings of a fucked up mind...........Wait a minute....I am not bipolar, oh fuck me, I set myself up..........Then you must understand me. Going to bed now. My wife is calling.