It really sucks when you are in a friendly relationship where you're pseudo-dating with the option to see more people. Well, that in and of itself doesn't suck, but knowing that she is seeing another guy kinda sucks. But what's worse than that? How about knowing exactly who the other guy is? That's bad.

That's like I don't know what I was thinking when I agreed to this and I'm going to call her later and yell at her after she gets back from her fucking pseudo-date. Fucking immature bitch.

Yeah, I know I agreed to this beforehand, but I didn't think any other guys/girls would be people I know enough about to write an informal psychological profile.

The idea was if we saw other people that we wouldn't tell each other "Hey, I had fun at the movies last night ... with Tim!".

Motherfucker!

Pseudo-dating? How serious of a relationship is it? I mean do you guys hang out together as friends, or hold hands, kiss, etc.? Sounds like a friends with benifits type of relationship... but if you really like this girl, tell her that you want a real relationship with her

I wouldn't have agreed to it beforehand, man, but then, hindsight is 20/20. Personally, I just don't care for a non-monogamous relationship. I mean, if you're unattached, there's nothing wrong with a meaningless fuck at a party or something, but if you're pseudo-with-someone, you don't want them fucking other people. My old fuck-buddy wanted to get together in a more serious way, which I would have been down with, but she wanted to see other people too, so I took a pass. Might consider that in the future.

Condolences,

A&A

^It's really a friends-with-benefits situation.

EDIT: This was in response to mirrage_02.



[This message has been edited by Joeb (edited 02-19-2004).]

ok, the way you put it you really like this girl. Either you start dating other people yourself, because that is what you agreed to do when you became friends with benefits, or tell her you want a real relationship, where you are only seeing each other.

edit: yeah i just read the title of this post - VENTING - so I'm guessing you already know this but I totally agree that that is a messed up situation. She does seem really immature to not be able to handle a one on one relationship, or is just lookin for a way to fuck with you head heh :\

[This message has been edited by mirrage_02 (edited 02-19-2004).]

I called her after class today. I told her that knowing who the other guy was and knowing him well made me very uncomfortable.

Told her I wasn't cool with the thought of her seeing other people besides me and possibly fucking them, that I wanted a relationship where I didn't have to worry about whether she was with other people.

She said she didn't understand why it made me uncomfortable and that the other guy had asked her out, not the other way around. Apparently he doesn't know about us anyway.

She didn't seem to take me very seriously throughout the conversation. Didn't understand why I felt this way and when I made it clear I didn't want to see her anymore her response was "alright, whatever". Bitch.

I'd like to thank all the people who replied to my stupid posts and gave me advice about this. Thanks.

That sucks man. I know what you experience. I'd suggest you stop seeing her because you will go insane. You have/had feelings toward her and just seeing her with a close relative makes you feel fucked up in your head. It happened to me once and I stopped seeing the girl and my friend.

Good luck through this.