Well then, this will be a long post, so if your attention span is nil, move on.

Alrighty. So back in December I was out of state visiting family. A friend of my aunt was hanging around and we got to digging each other. Really digging each other. We fucked in their basement at the first opportunity. Bear in mind this is after about a 2 year dry spell in the sex department for me. We hang out once or twice more before I head back home. Now, we talk to each other almost every night for a couple weeks and she decides to come down for a weekend. She gets here, gets us a hotel room, and we fuck like rabbits for a few days. Some shit comes up I have to deal with so I ride with her back to my home state to take care of. On the way, she drops the words.... 'I love you.' Now, by this point I know I don't love her nor will I ever. In our mutual interest, I break it off the next day so she won't have to wonder about it when I'm a thousand miles away. My reasoning was the long distance thing, I didn't love her, and she has kids. I didn't want at all to deal with her kids, I've been in a family with a single parent dating around. Not much fun.

Now here's where it gets a little twisted. I like her as a friend. We have many similar interests and great conversations. We still continue to tease each other with sexual remarks, but it's kindof all in good fun. A couple days ago, I mentioned I had to come back into town for some business and we should grab some lunch and hang. So she starts telling me how she's going to use her feminine charms to get me in the sack, (not her exact words, but whatever.) and all I can do is give ambiguous responses, as I don't want to hurt her.

Now I know this girl is totally whipped on me, and honestly it's a little scary. But she's a great lay and I do want to get it on with her again, seeing as how I have no idea when I'll next get some.

So, should I or shouldn't I? And if I do, how do I make it clear that I don't want this to proceed into any kind of relationship?

Just gathering from conventional social wisdoms and personal observations here, and leaving my personal opiniion out of it.

If being a "decent human being" and/or living your life free of drama is important to you, then refrain from any physical contact and keep other contact to a minimum. She dropped the scary, unsolicited and premature "I love you" on you, which is a sign of neediness. Many women seem to think they can get a guy to "come around" but when it becomes clear they've invested their time and bodies into nothing, desperate measures such as surprise pregnancies have been known to happen. Even if you wear a condom; if she's desperate, she'll make it happen.

If the sex is so awesome you can deal with the drama and have no moral/ethical qualms, then sure, go for it. She's vulnerable and thus an easy target. Put the condom on yourself, remove it yourself and take it with you, then wash your dick really well. Don't ejaculate on her or in her mouth. That should cover you.

Well, confirmed. Thanks Deadlycindy.

It was suggested by more than one person she may try to trap me in a pregnancy.

I guess I'll actually have to look for sex elsewhere.

Good thing I seem to be rapidly maturing in the confidence department. I think I'll manage.

From what I can read into the situation is that you do actually ahve some strong feelings for her otherwiase you wouldnt be posting in this manner. Ok you might not love her but I think you might sooner than you think or are prepared to admit to yourself.

I think you shouldnt just fuck her though unslsess you are prepared to get more serious as it does sound like she is real serious about you and that can lead to serious complications. I mean even the most sane people can go a bit crazy when in love and thweir feelings arent being returned.

I dont really know all the details so I cant be sure. Anyway I will say this much, that me and my g/f are practically engaged though we wont actually meet in person til friday and I know thta it took us a bit of time to realise the feelings we had for one another. It probably took me a bit longer to realise than her but I know now that she is without a shadow of a doubt for me "The One"

I think you should if you decie to sleep with her give it a bit of time and see where it goes!

Actually, I've decided not to sleep with her. It would be great and all, but it wouldn't be fair to her and it would weigh on my conscience for weeks.

Damn morality.

Now I'm gonna have to tell her to knock off the sexy teasing and stop telling me what she'll wear when I'm around.

BTW, she started dressing more and more goth-ish after I told her I kinda dig it. This was all after I broke it off.