i have a big fear of becoming gay, or anyone thinking im gay.....and it bothers me so much that i have a hard time relaxing, or hanging out with my friends, without being paranoid of doing something gay, or something hinting that im gay.

if anyone ever has had the same problem, do you know anyway of getting over this fear?

its taking control of my life and its shitty.

appreciate any help.

thanks

I doubt your gay first of all. And second you need to get a grip and stop worring so much about what people think.

There's always a chance that you are bi or gay. Also a chance you just haven't explored your sexuality much and are therefor uncomfortable to the point that you don't honestly know if you're straight, bi, or gay.

One thing to know though: With how fucked up the world is these days, there's no such thing as acting gay OTHER than fucking someone of the same sex.

Any sexual abuse as a child? Any bad experiences around a gay person? Or an actual irrational fear?

more or less an irratinal fear

Sometimes people are just afraid of random shit

Get over it then. It's damned near impossible to 'act' gay, so don't worry about a damned thing. If you're not gay, you're not, if you are, you are. Doesn't matter.

thanks, thats what i've been thinkin of late, but for some reason the fear is still there

If you consider yourself straight, but you happen to be drunk/high/whatever some time, and you perform a sexual act with another dude, does that automatically mean you're gay? Or just bisexual?

The thing is, if you're not truly gay, then you can't really "accidentally" do or say something gay. And even if that happens, doesn't mean you're gay if you know you're straight.

2 words.

Closet Homo

Whoa, my Gaydar is going fucking insane on this guy. Boy, you got issues you need to address.

Gutter's got it. This guy clearly craves the cock. Shame on society for repressing the emotions of our oppo-swinging friend.

FREE YOURSELF YOU FRUITY HERO

I bet if you look at your friends they will be doing just as many things that could be interpreted as being gay. That should either comfort you or make you more uncomfortable.

It sure is cramped in that closet. Come on out and give my cock a long hard suck, boy.

lookimacat, if given a choice would you...

A. Eat out a hot wet pussy?

B. Suck a nice big boner

When you jack off do you think about...

A. Pumping your dick in between the legs of a pretty girl?

B. Sliding your dick into the anus of a guy?

When you get dressed in the morning do you call what you have on....

A. Clothes

B. An "outfit"?

basically you're a repressed homosexual and the best way to deal with it is to go to a gay bar and give someone sweet man love.

go now

quote:Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

Get over it then. It's damned near impossible to 'act' gay, so don't worry about a damned thing. If you're not gay, you're not, if you are, you are. Doesn't matter.

I am bi so I am a lesbian and not a lesbian at the same time. My girlfriend really finds it quite amusing

As a gay genuis I can tell you that over 60% of homophobes are closet cases. This means that you are most likely at least bi if not gay, your fear stems from societys general view of gay guys, as a kid you probally lived in a homophobic enviroment, or at least were subjected to it in some way. Perhaps heard about gay bashings or something? Any ways you need to expore your sexuality more, either with porn or actual people is up to you.

Jeff

EDIT:spelling, I may be able to read, but I cant spell very well.

[This message has been edited by silentdark (edited 02-18-2004).]

I agree, though if you didn't understand him, he meant:

Go get sum bum fun!

Homosexaphobia!!