anybody else have this problem -- My girlfriend is so tight that I can barely finger her. Before I even start to penetrate, she screams out in pain and begins to cry. I put a condom on my finger and used extra lubrication, but still it hurt her too much. We are thinking of having sex soon, and she says not to worry about it, but if I can't even stick one finger in her, how are we going to have sex? I'm wondering if it gets easier over time? Should I just do a little more each time? Thanks in advance.

edit: kind of mixed up some words that made it hard to understand my question...

[This message has been edited by mirrage_02 (edited 02-18-2004).]

Are you sure you have correct aim?

How old is she?

I go to a school of the arts, and I've heard rumors of dancers being that tight. 18 year old girls, so tight they can't use tampons.

thanks for the quick reply... yeah I'm pretty sure. This is the first girl I've ever fingered though I'll admit... I did tried different angles and still couldn't do it...

edit again: just wanted to add that she is 15 and really tiny. Only about 5 feet tall and small figure... maybe that could be the problem?

[This message has been edited by mirrage_02 (edited 02-18-2004).]

I'd say it has everything to do with it. Still, if she wants to have sex, just alert her that you are worried that you may hurt her.

hey man, just have a huge cock. smile

Obviously you just don't turn her on enough.

Or as mojo said, you're trying to finger her urethra.

What happens when she fingers herself?

Can she get a finger or two in her cooch?

i know your problem.. crappy ain't it, sex won't be a problem, it will hurt like hell the first time though so use loads of lubricant, don't be to subtile, cause slow hurts more and doesn't quite work.... ohw.. en think of a way to make the pain less (my girl got really fokin drunk first time, helped some)

Umm yeah you suck. Umm first of shes probably not that horny, You need FOREPLAY, and lots of it. My gf is 15 and she is 5'1" The first day I met her I fingered her. (we are really confortable with each other, I didnt even know her neame) Yeah but When i fingered her she was really tight, at first it hurt, but then she really really liked it. Lick your finger and get it really wet. It it dries out, then lick it again. ( Girls really like it when you lick your finger after its been in her pussy.)

Maybe you should eat her out before you try to finger her. I found out that eating pussy is really really fun.

Oh well Its your problem not mine.

Or your could stick a unicorns horn in there, (literary reference)

alright thanks for the responses... i was pretty nervous so it was most likely turning her off. big lack of experience on my part. what sucks is I asked her what she liked when she does it herself, and to kind of guide my hand, but she told me she's never done it herself. Thought maybe she was just embarrassed about telling me, but then thought why would she lie if it would make it 10 times better for both of us? ah well. thanks again..

[This message has been edited by mirrage_02 (edited 02-19-2004).]

Because girls are conditioned to pretend they don't enjoy sex.

I'm guessing a car jack is out of the question.

The way you finger a girl is pretty simple:

Finger the clit first so she gets nice and wet...Then aim for the really wet bit!

As for sex...Do it in the dark and you can say "I can't see anything...Put it in for me!"

Easy!

Actually you gotta get her turned on BEFORE you finger the clit, or it'll just hurt her.

Please tell me 02 is not your graduating year, like most people use in their names....

quote:Or your could stick a unicorns horn in there, (literary reference)

not wanted on the voyage? yeah. that emma got it hard.

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no Newrage.. my graduating year is 2006... I'm 15

just a guess, but you may want to spend a LOT more time warming her up first, and maybe try to get her off a few times without penetration. if nothing else, at least to get your confidence up a bit. have you thought of going down on her?

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Are you sure you have correct aim?

lol