My girlfriend was at a club on friday and she got off with another boy. i wasnt there. she told me but i dont think i can trust her anymore, so i dumped her. she wants another chance, should i go back out with her or tell her to fuck off. we went out for 2 months.

any advice?

king roper

What do you mean by "got off"? And she told you about it unprompted? Were the two of you 'exclusive'? Lot of variables here to consider. If it's going to bother you and you're not going to be able to let go of it, i.e. bringing it up everytime she does something to make you mad.. I'd say no. Otherwise, being that she admitted it to you she must feel at least a little remorse. If you can forgive her, and really care about her you could give her another chance with the understanding that she has to regain your trust.

It's my personal experience that if someone will fuck you over once, they'll do it again. I've never known anyone to disprove this either.

-Extant

thanks extant, im not going to bother with that bitch any more. to answer you question, we were exclusive and getting off means snogging and 'feeling' the other person.

kingroper

Can you be a little more detailed when you say she "got off" with another boy?

I don't even want to know. Stay broken up, if you still like her in a month give her a call. You're going to have to start from square one again but she needs time to think about what she wants. Forgive but don't forget: she'll have to earn your trust back.

She acted like a single woman in Friday. Maybe she doesn't want to be or can't handle being in a relationship right now. That doesn't mean she doesn't like you. It means she's got to figure out what she wants because "cheating" (if that's what it was?!) isn't kosher.

Oh, just saw your post. By that I'm judging she is what I like to call "expendable". Well, that was easy. Except I typed all that advice thinking maybe it was going to go to some use!

[This message has been edited by MrMojoRisin (edited 02-15-2004).]

lol. sorry MrMojoRisin. but good advice anyway. thanks.

king roper

Okay, if you were considered exclusive, she betrayed your trust, period. I think you're right in blowing her off. If a person puts that little value on a relationship you can bet they'll cheat on you over and over again. Best to cut your losses early, you said you were in this for two months? Good to find out now rather than be with her for a year and find out ya know? Of course it's painful... but such is life. You're a better person for leaving it behind. It's a learning experience and you'll grow from it. Best of luck to you.

-Extant

people are not perfect and everybody at some point makes mistakes... how do you yourself feel about giving her a chance? cause that's what truly cares

(if anyone said this before then my apologies, i was to much in a hurry to read all of the rest)