Alright, here's the deal. I'm 21, relatively attractive, funny, charming, intelligent, etc etc... And I'm only now starting to have sex. I've got plenty of confidence when dealing with women up to the point of actually having sex, since I'm inexperienced and honestly the endurance just ain't there. So when it gets time to do the damn thing, I get nervous, blah blah blah, you get the picture. I don't know what I expect ya'll to do for me, but some advice would be helpful. Thanks.

Drink a little liquid courage and take a Viagra to help get it up (nervousness is perhaps the worst impotence agent).

i dont know about the alcohol, as with me i either cum way too soon, or cant keep it hard. but it might be different per person.

and since this is your first time (or one of them i assume) dont feel too bad if you dont last all that long. im sure whoever your with will understand.

DONT take viagra or drink alcohol. As quick and easy as that may seem, stick to learning the ropes and gaining sexual confidence and you will do fine.

Let me tell you something wonderful. Most girls are not expecting to come from sex. Be willing to really work at pleasuring the girl. Give her oral and don't get tired. Make foreplay last a long time. If she is really feeling good about the foreplay, even short and mediocre sex is not that bad.

Do you have someone that you can practice with (Wow that sounds terribly immoral. If you don't, try to have as much safe sex as possible (what a shame right?). Sex, like most other things in life, is more practice than skill. Through having sex, you will be able to see what makes the girl feel good and what you can do to last longer etc. When you start to get better, your confidence will increase ten fold. You will end up with more endurance etc.

As stupid as it may seem, when you are on the day you plan to have sex, don't plan to have sex lol.

Just kinda let it happen that way you will be relaxed and at ease and won't be nervous.

That's what i did anyway and i managed to keep it up and last for 15 mins on my first time

i lasted for quite a while my first time but i had to finish the girl off with my hand. Now i don't have that problem, either i last long enough or i climax and just go back to it until she's had at least one orgasm.

However what can help in you case is, if you think you're going to get laid, masturbate an hour or so before the event, or 2 hours whatever. My current girlfriend gave me oral for my first orgasm and about an hour later we had sex for 45 minutes to an hour roughly, she came twice to my one orgasm.

Practice makes perfect.

let's make that we had sex for roughly 45 minutes to an hour. That way you won't think we had rough sex for an hour.

[This message has been edited by The Misfit (edited 02-14-2004).]

What can help you to relax is to get all fired up, then have her give you a massage. It can help to relax you.