as i have posted here before, i am 16 and i dont know why i cant get aroused over girls. often when looking at porn i feel a sort of tingling like an orgasm is beginning (its not though, just a similar feeling), but i cant get an erection. it makes me wonder how will i ever be able to have sex (without viagra and all that crap). i mean, even if i did get an erection from playing around with it a bit it wouldnt last long enough. it takes me about half an hour to masturbate and often i have to stop and play a little to get the erection back up. i know its a good thing to be able to last a long time during sex, but its useless if i cant get aroused over girls. i am afraid to even get a girlfriend too because if they offer to give me a blow job or a hand job i wont be able to do it. this is so depressing :'(

Hey man, it looks like you might have some premature erection problems. Don't freak out about your sexuality.

The answer to this problem could be as simple as some medication!

If it's possible get an appointment with your local doctor, he could direct you to a specialist or help you himself.

If you're open with your parents then you should try and talk to them, it should take a great weight off your sholders.

All the best! C-W

hey, thanks for your reply. i dont have a premature erection problem though, the problem is that i DONT get an erection. i cant go to the doctor for this and i am no where near open with my parents. i have to solve it on my own which is why im posting on the net :/

thanks.

the only solution i can think of is your issue being medicaly related. since asking your old man seems to be out of the question, do you know of a freind, or anyone else (or walk) who could manage to get you to a doctor.



but as far as these forums, you can only get so much help

I meant premature with regards to age. If you can't talk to your parents then maybe a close friend's parents or your school councillor (who are totally confidiential if you want) would be some good places to seek advice.

Learn your penis man. I started jerkin when I was 13 (thats 6 years ago). Don't even think about sex until your 100% comfortable and experienced with your own body. Fuck this pure-pressure crap where 90% of guys have had sex by 18 and 99% of girls are whores and crave sex.

Hold off man and learn masturbation and try different things that you haven't already done. Use cream and jack off to a nude photo and think of a girl sucking your dick.

Man sometimes i dont get a boner when im looking at porn, it means nothing, it comes on a fter a little rubbing but when im with a chick like making out, after about a minute of intense making out you get the biggest boner. Try having a realy passionate kiss with a good looking girl (that can kiss) and if you dont get a boner, see your doctor or at least get some professional advice.

If you cant get turned in by girls then your most likly gay.

quote:Originally posted by LSA King:

Learn your penis man. I started jerkin when I was 13 (thats 6 years ago). Don't even think about sex until your 100% comfortable and experienced with your own body. Fuck this pure-pressure crap where 90% of guys have had sex by 18 and 99% of girls are whores and crave sex.

Hold off man and learn masturbation and try different things that you haven't already done. Use cream and jack off to a nude photo and think of a girl sucking your dick.

That's the first smart thing I've seen you say, LSA King. Kudos.

What you can do is put a peice of scotch tape lengthwise on your penis when you go to sleep (not too tight, but not falling off). If the tape is still attached in the morning there is something wrong. If it comes off, or is attached by only one side, then it might be performance anxiety.

quote:I meant premature with regards to age.

WTF are you talking about? Premature means "too soon" so premature erection would mean that you get hard too fast... WTF??? You then say its regarding age but then again, WTF? He is not too young to have an erection or an orgasm. I had my first orgasm at 12yo... At 16, if you never had an orgasm, THAT would be weird.

Well, for your erection problem, you won't need viagra here. Viagra is for those who can't get an erection even while beeing aroused. If you are not aroused, there it is normal that you don't get an erection.

If woman do not arouse you there are 3 possibilities:

1- You are mentally way younger than 16

2- You have a psychological and or physical problem

3- You are gay...

greemah have u tried jerkin off 2 some gay porn? Women mite not b ur thing.....

I can get an erection to g0@t$e and tub-g1rl so am I bisexual?

But yeah, you need to sit around with some music on for a while and toss your dick around in your hands and think about girls (and possibly guys too for you)giving you a blowjob.

It probably wont just pop up right away, give it time. Just rub your self all around. You gotta learn to pleasure yourself before you let someone else.

Sometimes it takes me almost 3 seconds to get an erection. I know its sad

quote:Originally posted by deptstoremook:

That's the first smart thing I've seen you say, LSA King. Kudos.



LOL uhh thanks .

quote:Originally posted by casperc:

If you cant get turned in by girls then your most likly gay.

I second that...

or maybe third thanks to n0s?

w0rd yo comin' straight outta da Br0nx guy..yo but still reppin c0mpt0n guy i keeps it reeel. So yo i been wit da bitches many times guy and i know when to bust in der mout or not guy. Yo seriously guy just walk up to some bitch and be like you links me some brains B ... and as she unzips your pants guy you won't need viagra yo. If dis man still cant gitz a hard guy just be like yo get yo damn ugly face outta here or i'll bust a cap on yo bitch azz. Yo and if she bites guy...just bust in her twat guy... and dont pay child support

-cho guy

Taste your own urine (only a bit, obviously). If it tastes extremely salty, you should see a doctor on a blood vessel issue.

quote:Originally posted by Stryder:

w0rd yo comin' straight outta da Br0nx guy..yo but still reppin c0mpt0n guy i keeps it reeel. So yo i been wit da bitches many times guy and i know when to bust in der mout or not guy. Yo seriously guy just walk up to some bitch and be like you links me some brains B ... and as she unzips your pants guy you won't need viagra yo. If dis man still cant gitz a hard guy just be like yo get yo damn ugly face outta here or i'll bust a cap on yo bitch azz. Yo and if she bites guy...just bust in her twat guy... and dont pay child support

-cho guy



I don't get it...

quote:Originally posted by LollerScat:

Taste your own urine (only a bit, obviously). If it tastes extremely salty, you should see a doctor on a blood vessel issue.

explain please?

I hate to say it, but maybe you are gay. I do not mean this to be funny and there is nothing wrong with it. I would still tell your father and see a doctor... Good luck!

P.S. Dont worry about girls giving handjobs, just say NO

EDIT: I have the exact opposite problem, I cant stop getting hard ons. I get one just from looking at some woman in my class...

[This message has been edited by bilzo (edited 02-12-2004).]

thanks for all your replys everyone.

i know for a fact that im not gay, i have thought of that as a possibility before so i looked at some gay porn but i felt absolutely nothing, where as if i look at naked chicks i do feel more and i actually think they look sexy unlike guys which i think just look weird.

i know that the problem isnt that i physically cant get an erection, because i often get them for no reason at school and when im lying in bed and when i just play around with my dick and stuff.

i see what you mean by a "premature erection problem" (as in an erection problem that i have before i should). i guess thats a possibility and i want to get some viagra to see if i get an erection while looking at girls with that in my system. problem is i dont know how to get it other than a doctor.

the first erection i can remember is when i was 11, its just the first time i ever jacked off was when i turned 16. i probably could have done it previously, its just i never bothered continuing with it (i didnt know it took so long). so yes i have had orgasms before.

Yo man Strizzy straight outta da hizzy. Ya herd meh... im all up in yo grill. Yooo if you don't get mah posts then you need to be cock slapped "B" if you want me to BUST in yo eye guy yo bess shutthe FUCK up bitch. Before you get ROUGHED the fuck up..

Yooo

-Yo deez mans are fucked (not me guy next mans)

quote:Originally posted by Stryder:

Yo man Strizzy straight outta da hizzy. Ya herd meh... im all up in yo grill. Yooo if you don't get mah posts then you need to be cock slapped "B" if you want me to BUST in yo eye guy yo bess shutthe FUCK up bitch. Before you get ROUGHED the fuck up..

Yooo

-Yo deez mans are fucked (not me guy next mans)

Honestly, just...shut up.

If you can get a hard on when you play with your dick, you shouldnt have to worry too much. A girl will always do a little grinding and rubbing when your soft.

~es

quote:Originally posted by Evolution of A Saint:

Honestly, just...shut up.

If you can get a hard on when you play with your dick, you shouldnt have to worry too much. A girl will always do a little grinding and rubbing when your soft.

~es

yoooo dis bitch is gonna get ONE PUNCH in his face guy... yo tell me where dis mans live and i'll get my crew all up in yo crib reppin it. GGGGG-G-G UNIT!!!

-Yo if my buddy gripz it for meh it not my fault guy ( you next mans is gonna get recked by fitty)

quote:Originally posted by JayMark:

WTF are you talking about? Premature means "too soon" so premature erection would mean that you get hard too fast... WTF??? You then say its regarding age but then again, WTF?



"Premature erection problems" you fucking idiot. Premature meaning "too soon" erection problems, meaning mother fucking erection problems. Get me? As in, HE'S GETTING THE PROBLEMS TOO SOON.

The kid says that he has trouble getting it up, that does NOT make him gay.

What he should do is to try to relax and not worry so much about what he has read or seen in porn movies/books.

He should NOT listen to his friends bragging about scoring and getting it up 24/7.

He should learn to listen to his own body and if he finds that he is still having trouble he should see a GP.

He is only young, as are the rest of you, and he, like you, has much to learn.

quote:Originally posted by greemah:

thanks for all your replys everyone.

i know for a fact that im not gay, i have thought of that as a possibility before so i looked at some gay porn but i felt absolutely nothing, where as if i look at naked chicks i do feel more and i actually think they look sexy unlike guys which i think just look weird.

i know that the problem isnt that i physically cant get an erection, because i often get them for no reason at school and when im lying in bed and when i just play around with my dick and stuff.

i see what you mean by a "premature erection problem" (as in an erection problem that i have before i should). i guess thats a possibility and i want to get some viagra to see if i get an erection while looking at girls with that in my system. problem is i dont know how to get it other than a doctor.

the first erection i can remember is when i was 11, its just the first time i ever jacked off was when i turned 16. i probably could have done it previously, its just i never bothered continuing with it (i didnt know it took so long). so yes i have had orgasms before.

You are 16... unless you order your viagra online... NO doctor is going to give you any... Not even a crooked ass doctor that dish's out scripts left and right.

a lot of porn is crap tbh. try looking at some proper erotica ( www.devaiantart.com (http://www.devaiantart.com) has a section i think). also try reading literary erotica. most guys are pretty visual when it gets turned on but it is also very important to feel in the mood, which writing and properly taken photography can do better than most porn.

also when you do try to masturbate use a lubricant - it makes one hell of a difference.

quote:Originally posted by collector:

a lot of porn is crap tbh. try looking at some proper erotica ( www.devaiantart.com (http://www.devaiantart.com) has a section i think). also try reading literary erotica. most guys are pretty visual when it gets turned on but it is also very important to feel in the mood, which writing and properly taken photography can do better than most porn.

also when you do try to masturbate use a lubricant - it makes one hell of a difference.



to bad that site is either down or non-existant... heh

yo strizzy lez chill out back wid da hos in da hizzouse, dawg!!! ma homie G-Money just got outta da pig-house for sellin' candy to sum lil' kids an pimpin some hos, but u know how it is, we gotta stick 2gether n make a livin cuz lifes like dat in da hood, 1 day ur alive next day ur dead, SO FUCK DA FO-FO, so now dat he back chillin with me we gonna steal some 40s and have a party with some fineass bitches, u know how it is dawg.

LMAO. Ok, I'll stop now. I just couldn't resist. Stereotypes are fun.

Seriously, if he was gay I think he would've noticed by now. Just cause he can't get a hard-on doesn't necessary mean anything. Premature erection problems would be what I'd go for. Don't worry about it, man.

Oh, and do you know what viagra is MADE from? It's made out of testosterone. I wouldn't touch that shit if I were you...

ok thanks for the tip. i went to googe image search and typed in "erotica" and "erotic" and looked through almost all the pages at all the pictures and.... still nothing

I guess viagra is out of the question too. I guess I'm just plain fucked.

Before I give advice, will somebody please ban styders IP? For the good of all totser's ban the IP, I beg of you.

As for the advice,

First of all, yes Viagra is out of the question, because it will most likely kill you + there the little problem of not being an adult. Secondly you might wanna reconsider your sexuality, it took me a while before I relized I was gay, and if you are, thats ok, noting wrong with it. Secondly...or thirdly if you are keeping track, if you cannot tell your parents, go to a walk in clinic, if need be get a friend (age of majority) to take you, don't forget your health card if you have one. Get checked for all std's as well. If there is nothing physically wrong, then you need a psychologist. I would start asking your self a few basic questions, they are:

1) Were you ever raped or molested as a child?

2)Where/Are you embarressed of your body(if not, try it in front of a mirror)

And of course, take two and call me in the morning.

Thanks for your reply. I have tested myself to see if I was gay before, like looking at gay porn and stuff but I don't feel the slightest thing. I wasn't molested as a child either. I have no one I can talk to about any of this so I will probably just have to hope that it fixes by itself, otherwise I'll just go without sex for my whole life :/

www.Thundersplace.com(free (http://www.Thundersplace.com(free) forum)

www.Penisimprovement.com(natural (http://www.Penisimprovement.com(natural) stuff)

try these

what a sad story..

Research "taoist sex"

Those taoists know what they're talking about.

I used to have a premature ejaculation problem, but I cured it with taoist chi kung methods that are made to solve that stuff, and now I can have sex as long as I want! Hours if I'd like!

Thats great an all, but how does it apply to your problem?

Well, there are even more solutions to your problem of not getting hard in the first place. I've gotta go and do something, but I'll remember to come back afterwards and show you some websites. Its really great stuff! As you can see, I'm quite pleased!

quote:Originally posted by silentdark:

Before I give advice, will somebody please ban styders IP? For the good of all totser's ban the IP, I beg of you.

As for the advice,

First of all, yes Viagra is out of the question, because it will most likely kill you + there the little problem of not being an adult. Secondly you might wanna reconsider your sexuality, it took me a while before I relized I was gay, and if you are, thats ok, noting wrong with it. Secondly...or thirdly if you are keeping track, if you cannot tell your parents, go to a walk in clinic, if need be get a friend (age of majority) to take you, don't forget your health card if you have one. Get checked for all std's as well. If there is nothing physically wrong, then you need a psychologist. I would start asking your self a few basic questions, they are:

1) Were you ever raped or molested as a child?

2)Where/Are you embarressed of your body(if not, try it in front of a mirror)

And of course, take two and call me in the morning.



You just want him to call you so you can rape and molest him. Fag.