I never thought I'd be asking the people at Totse for help..but I really need it, and I DON'T need the shitheads with a 2nd grade education giving me worthless replies reflectant of their worthless lives.

Me and my girlfriend broke up Sunday. I've been dating this girl for EIGHT fucking years (I'm 21 now, yea I know, I started young).

The girl was always immature, and she never seemed to mature at the same rate I did. We broke up once in the past because of her immaturity and possessiveness, but this time we broke up because she went sneaking into my Journal and read it without asking, then turned around and questioned a comment I made about a female friend being sweet and smart.

So we broke up...a really shitty break-up too. I got mad, lost my temper, and actually pushed her away from me, which I still feel like a fucking asshole for doing. She cried...but I couldn't make myself feel sad no matter what I did.

I know shes hurting, and that thought alone is killing me inside, but the whole 'Your too possessive and immature' argument has been done to death. We've fought over this like 50 fucking times already and I just want the fighting to end.

A good friend of mine advised me this girl would NEVER be what I need or want and to forget about her, that she'll never grow with me the way I need.

But it hurts so bad just thinking of what shes doing right now, she doesn't have a job and she has an abusive father shes forced to live with because she has no job/money/elsewhere to go.

I am so messed up...can someone please give me a decent reply?

make contact in the lightest way possible and she how she is/what she thinks of you/what she needs to do and see if you can get back together, so this means working like someone on the bomb squad with her and finding out without directly asking her what she wants, needs, ect and slowly but surely showing her you have that and that you feel like a piece of complete garbage for making her feel like that and showing her how much work your willing to put into the relationship you have to rebuild it. Leave your ego at the door and just use your heart and your head with a x-acto knife to cut away what she doesnt need until she is happy.

I'll really give it thought Speed...but she has REALLY hurt me in the past and I don't know what to do...

Well, this may not be too helpful, but just to let you know, this probably ended as appropriately and as cruelty-free as it could have.

You're going to feel guilty. Accept it. But stick to your guns 'cause you made the right choice. She'll cry, but she'll eventually heal.

Hanging in there for her sake would be just as damaging for her. She sounds like she's grown quite dependent on you, and this hasn't left her much space to grow as a person for herself.

I don't mean to be insensitive, but the troubles in her life aren't your problem. If there are issues preventing her from getting work, she may qualify for social services assistance of some kind. If you feel like it, you might try to gather some info on this for her.

I'd advise against maintaining contact. But if you feel you must, try to focus on helping her to help herself. Encourage her to make her life productive. Refrain from issues about the relationship, 'cause it's likely to go in circles.

Hope things work out.

I dunno have you tried to stick her in the ass? if she likes it in the butt maybe you should give her a second chance...other wise you should punch her in the back of the head...then give it to her in the butt... either way give it to her......in the butt!