Let's say a 13 year old girl SAID she wanted to have sex but you notice some things about her behavior that would make you think she wasn't ready, like having mixed (and sometimes weird) standards on what she wants (Ex. Would criticize a small dick, but doesn't want one any bigger than her hole, but she's a fucking virgin). The thing is, when confronted about things she doesn't know, she still wants to do it because she's sure that she's ready and she trusts/loves the person she wants to lose her virginity to. I'm in a rush, so in short I'm just asking is there any way you can tell if she's ready? If she isn't ready, but does it anyway, what kind of psycoloigical damage can be done? Also, since she's 13, is there any physical reason she shouldn't do it? Just so you know, she's hit puberty already, and I'm a year older than her so I'm NOT a paedophile(sp?). Thanks.

[This message has been edited by ChubZero (edited 02-09-2004).]

OMG my gf did that to me. Umm i think shes ready, and shes pretty damn sure. but the whole making up her mind, she has hers mad up, but shes 15. Im going to. I mean she wants to and shes thought about it for a while, and she seems to really love me.

I say "Just do it"

Wait.

If she or you can't tell, then neither of you are ready for it. She's 13 for Christ's sake, its not going to kill either of you to wait.

quote:Originally posted by Plastic Man:

Wait.

If she or you can't tell, then neither of you are ready for it. She's 13 for Christ's sake, its not going to kill either of you to wait.

I second this.

Sound advice. Don't rush it. When she's ready she'll tell you she is and you'll beleive her.

Maybe I should clear this up a bit. She told me she's ready and I DO believe her, but I was just saying IF she wasn't, what's the worst that could happen? There wouldn't be any regrets about WHO it was with or when it happened, but is that the only thing bad that could affect her mentally/emotionally?

I also want to know, is there anything that could hurt her physically simply because of her age? I doubt it, but most of this is just because she's a REALLY cautious person and doesn't want to wait any longer unless there's a physical reason that she shouldn't. I only asked about the emotional aspect out of pure curiosity.

just remember that sex changes everything. at 13 and 14 i dont think that youre mentally able to handle this. its just asking for a nasty breakup and at that age i can only assume rumors and other such drama will result. just wait.

Bahh!!...

if the girl sais that she's ready then she'll have to sue herself.

And i doubt that it could hurt her physical except if you had a gigantic elephant-penis or something like that. or if you weigh like, 800 kg or something like that so she'll get totaly crushed when you get ontop of her.

and remember, allways use protection

you go dude!

[This message has been edited by Kiminator (edited 02-09-2004).]

Does she get her menstral cycles? Only thing that has to be there so you know she is phsycally ready. Mentally, now thats up to her mind.

She's 13. She is not ready.

quote:if the girl sais that she's ready then she'll have to sue herself.



Well, from my experience of being one and from observing them, adolescents think they're ready for everything from sex to living in their own apartment. Doesn't mean they actually are. Some might be, but my point is that precocious young 'uns are poor judges of what they're "ready" for. They tend to be bold out of ignorance and they rarely have a context to judge such things as sex, smoking and buying stuff on credit for themselves. This is why there are laws forbidding minors to do stuff that adults can do.

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Mr. Self Destruct is right. NO 13 year old is ready for sex. Sex is a life changing activity. Mentally, a 13 year old is not prepared to face the emotions (or the consequences) of sex.

What can happen if she is not ready? The girl will grow hugely attached to you. She will not be the same (let me give you a hint. girls wont be the same after you fuck them). She WILL regret you, and later in life she will probably hate you for it.

Jesus christ. Go play tag or something. You have your life to grow up. You dont need sex at 13.

BTW i know you are probably going to think my advice is stupid and will ignore it because i am just some lecturing words on the internet. BUT, i am right on this. Dont do it.

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Well, from my experience of being one and from observing them, adolescents think they're ready for everything from sex to living in their own apartment. Doesn't mean they actually are. Some might be, but my point is that precocious young 'uns are poor judges of what they're "ready" for. They tend to be bold out of ignorance and they rarely have a context to judge such things as sex, smoking and buying stuff on credit for themselves. This is why there are laws forbidding minors to do stuff that adults can do.

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well you accualy do got a poin there....... :/

Hey the girl on howard stern are always talking how they lost their virginity at 13 and the ended up ok..........

quote:Originally posted by toast_and_bananas2002:

Hey the girl on howard stern are always talking how they lost their virginity at 13 and the ended up ok..........

Uh...I think if you go on Howard Stern you arent fine.

quote:Originally posted by toast_and_bananas2002:

Hey the girl on howard stern are always talking how they lost their virginity at 13 and the ended up ok..........

But who are they to say?

Besides, all of the people on Howard Stern are white trash anyway.

i agree with dc, your 14 and 13 for chrissakes you don't know wat ur ready for...too young to even be THINKING about haveng sex!! go out and play, then in a couple of years think about.

if she is giving you mixed signals then she ISNT ready for it....

just wait. PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE

do whatever the fuck u want.....pun intended

I lost my virginity when I was 14. I wasn't "in love". I wasn't ecstatic about my decision a couple days later but I never regretted it. I didn't stalk the guy either, we were together for two months, had sex, and I broke up with him. I didn't cry because I wasn't a virgin anymore or any of that crazy stuff some chicks do.

However, this seems to be more of the exception than the rule.

Kids, expecially little girls think they can do anything. She's barely a teenager. The fact that you started this thread shows that you have somehwat of a head on your shoulders, this is a concern. Don't be selfish and corrupt this girl if you know it's wrong from the start.

If you really are in a rush to have sex, find someone older who isn't a virgin. It'll be less like playing Russian Roulette and more like a plesaurable experience.

Can you imagine all the strings attached to fucking a 13 year old? It's similar to suicide. Don't touch that.

[This message has been edited by MrMojoRisin (edited 02-10-2004).]

Thanks for the replies. Funny thing is, I talked to her today and she acts like she doesn't want anything to do with me now for no reason. I don't think I should fuck her, but if it happens, it happens. Me and her cousin like each other anyway and her cousin isn't that fast, PLUS she treats me better. By the way, I'm 15, but my birthday is in October and hers is in July so I'm really only a year older.

i would advise strongly that you not do anything with her. the fact that seemingly neither of you had a plan in place in the event of emergent arousal is a good indicator. when i was old enough to think of girls "in that special way" i set a goal and developed a plan to run successful sexual damage control for the duration of my young and stupid years. here was my plan:

1. remain completely dedicated to education, sports, and hobbies until 14 years old.

2. education and hobbies take priority between the ages of 14 and 16.

3. lose virginity at age 17.

4. get involved in a destructive relationship that relies on nothing but sex at 18.

5. develope a drinking problem at 19.

6. lay off the sauce at 20 and go to college. while there, find a nice girl to spend time with. if sex happens, it happens. if not, that's ok because we have many common interests and don't need sex because simply spending time together is reward enough.

i'm having a little trouble with the last part of number six, but over all it's a good plan and worth considering.

quote:Originally posted by aloneandbroken:

Sex is a life changing activity.

I don't feel all that changed by the losing of my virginity, maybe that's just because i am male i don't know but i don't see it as something that's all THAT important, enjoyable yes, important not that much.

Hit that shit Nigga!!!

all this talk about being "ready" for sex and the "emotions" involved sounds like you are reading from a script. maybe on the female side you have to be "ready" or worry about some "emotions" but as far as im concerned ive never felt "unready" for sex. now i didnt fuck when i was 13 because i was too much of a pussy to go for it and had it in my head that i was going to wait for marriage. what can i say? i was young and i believed all the idiots who were telling me how sex was so special and how big a deal it was. i soon learned they were liars and looking back, the only sex i regret is the sex i never had. i wish i could go back and tell the 13 year old version of myself to have fun with life. just something to think about when you turn away a sure piece of ass because of some people on the internet.