Alright...here's my "predicament":

a couple nights ago, a good male friend of mine and i drank a little too much and had sex. yeah, i know we've all heard this story, BUT-

he didnt finish because he's big, and wanted to take off the condom and start again, but then we couldnt find another one, so we just made out again and messed around.

so here's my problem: we really are "just friends", but we also happen to have great sexual chemistry, and i want to have sex with him again. what we started felt great to both of us, and i think we owe it to ourselves to at least finish. that, and he's just insanely sexy. anyway, i know everything is cool between us because i've seen him since and we were both fine and not really awkward at all. but i don't know how to tell him i want to do it again without seeming A. slutty or B. like i'm trying to make something out of it.

i'd really appreciate some feedback on this. i'm normally completely opposed to the idea of a fuckbuddy, but...what can i say? it was just that good.

I can't see any reason why you can't just take an opportunity to sit down with him and approach the subject head-on. Tell him exactly what you told us, and see what he thinks. Being open, honest, and mature about the situation will give you the best results, whether you score more sex or not.

Well, since I'm hopelessy brain-dead tonight, I'll just point to Sarc's comments, because she about said it all.

you know what? hes probably thinking the exact same thing, and trying to figure out a way to talk to YOU about it. chances are, he'll be glad you at least brought it up. PLUS I'm sure, like most guys who arnt in a relationship already, he'd like a friend he could sleep with, if not just for the pleasure. if you guys already took the first step, and you just want more, the ice is already broken! go for it!

Just make sure you talk to him in a place where you can jump his bones immediately afterward.

He's a guy. I can guarantee he feels the same way.

All of the above advice....

If we had actual "clouds" above our heads.. that told us what the other sex is thinking, the world would be a much better place.

You're not slutty in my mind, you're a sexual being with needs and wants.. nothing wrong with that, you shouldn't feel slutty because of your sexual desires. And like above poster mentioned, he's probably thinking the same things.

If it feels right, and nobody is in the firing zone to get hurt, who are you hurting? I say go for it, and let us here at totse know how it pans out. You're talking about pure one-on-one potential for mutual satisfaction... no third party (disgruntled ex's) involved. Don't you think you deserve it? I do. BUT, we would like pics... lol

-Extant

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

..approach the subject head-on...

Well hell if no one else is going to do it



But yea, Sarcs got a good point.

[This message has been edited by Vampire Archimiel (edited 02-10-2004).]

quote:Originally posted by iamtheRiver:

Alright...here's my "predicament":

A. slutty

I have a similar situation so instead of creating another topic ill just use this one

me and a good female freind of mine have had sex several times, but now i feel that its going to start becomming a problem as she is constantly wanting it and im almost to a point where im about to just cut her off all together, (as im trying to move into a relationship and i refuse to cheat on anyone im dating) but i dont want it to ruin our freindship.

ironic that the male is telling the female no sex eh?