Hey,

I posted awhile back talking about my predictament and problems relating to the opposite sex. Thought I'd just pop on and fill you guys in with a progress report just because it seemed like a lot of you were interested.

I'm getting pretty deep in one of my classes at college and starting to get close to some girls. One in particular I think I like and we're starting to talk. I've been working really hard at it and I can make conversation with a girl if I'm into the conversation and like I'm connecting with a girl but I'm having real trouble getting a conversation going with a girl I don't know and sustaining a conversation with someone I'm not into. Some advice about the proper way to do those would be good.

I'm still struggling with eye contact. I do it a lot more now but subconsiously sometimes I'll look away or look down and then consiously have to return my look to the girl's face.

The biggest thing though is that I'm starting to find that I'm pretty good with conversation and with being entertaining around girls. I think I'm really starting to hit. Also I find that the more I do it the less afraid I become. I'm almost to the point now where I can talk with a girl I don't know just as long as the conversation is interesting and we're connecting. Like I just started doing things that made me laugh to girls for instance whenever a girl walks by I snap my fingers and point at them and they usually laugh and I smile. But the coolest thing is that I have some confidence now, if some girl doesn't like me, it's not the end of the world.

Right now my biggest problem is connecting with girls on a 1 on 1 basis. I usually do incredible in groups like I am the life of the party but I still have trouble starting a 1 on 1 conversation or knowing how to approach the girl. Although I'm slowly picking everything up so I'm not too worried about it. Also the problem with that is I'm not sure how to go about asking for phone numbers or AIM names.

Everything is looking a lot better than it did. Who knew all you had to do to get a girl's attention is just to make them laugh? I want to kick myself for making everything so complicated. So anyway, I think I'm doing pretty well with step one in terms of meeting girls now if I could just figure out how to get deeper into someone's life.

Thanks for everything you guys, you helped a lot.

[This message has been edited by SuicidalSamurai (edited 02-06-2004).]

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After talking to them for a little while, just up and ask for it. Or say, "Hey, would you like to hang out some time outside of class?" And if they say yes ask them for their number.

If you want an aim name, just bring up the internet in casual conversation. If they say they have it be like "Oh, well do you have aim?" and if they say yes, say you would love to talk to them sometime outside of class and ask if they'll give you their aim name.