So shes been my gf for just under two years, (weel was) and the last few months we were going through some tough times, she'd keep making me feel like crap and splittin up with me, and if i tried to move on she'd pull me back and say dont cause she loves me, and i always did cause i really really love her, not only that but there was this guy off the net who lives close to her, she dumped me around christmas, and all through december she was talkin to him online and through txt messages, he was so obviously a sleaze, and they were about to meet, i felt depressed cause of that, she told me she had "feelins" for him, i kept tellin her he was s leaze but she defended him, in the end she realised he was, when he met up with a gilr she knows, proving that he lied when he said he had "feelins" for her.

The we stopped fightin,a nd like i said beofre for some reason i really love her, and we got back. Usually she goes clubbin every week with her friends, rarely with me, and this weekend, she said that when she was gettin a cab home with her friends, she was in the front seat and flirting with the driver all the way home, and when they stopped, he kissed her, and it lasted about 5 seconds, yet she "pulled away" and didnt want to, so ive finished with her, and it really is killing me because when we didnt fight, we got on really well, and i know i loved her more than she loved me, if she loved me at all. its killin me, we were a really tight couple for so long

[This message has been edited by roadkill (edited 02-03-2004).]

What worked for me to help get over someone I loved who didn't quite love me back was one time she did something that just really pushed me over the edge and I blew up. I wrote her a nasty e-mail telling her what a bitch she was how she treated me like shit etc etc.

And then I didn't think about her at all for a couple weeks.

Now I'm on friendly terms with her and talk to her every once in a while online and don't have any feelings for her.

Sometimes ya just gotta vent.

I FEEL FOR YOU IM AM UNDER SO MUCH PRESSURE RIGHT NOW. I THINK IM JUST GONNA SHOOT MYSELF. THE GIRL I LOVED HAS TORN ME TO PIECES SO MANY TIMES. YOUR NOT ALONE DUDE. I CANT HANDLE IT ANYMORE. IM GONNA BREAK.

First, the compassion. It sucks to be treated that way. Both males and females are capable of this sort of behavior, and no one deserves it.

Now, to be straight and direct, you need to cut your losses here. The situation will not improve. You've already shown her that you're willing to put up with her crap, so there's no reason in the world for her to change.

She sounds a bit mentally unstable. Probably lacks self-esteem, among other things. You can't fix this.

Thanks, its just really hard since she has been my first realy gf and even now shes sayin she "still loves me" wish it was true, ive always treated her well cos i feel so much for her.

Like cindy said, CUT YOUR LOSSES...

Two years is a pretty damn good track record for a 1st GF. Remember it with fondness, but move on. The way she's fucking around, literally, and with your emotions... what she's doing is trying to have her cake and eat it too.. she's keeping you on the back burner in case what she's trying to make happen doesn't pan out. Fuck that. Of course you're still going to have feelings for her, and it's gonna hurt but you need to realize what she's doing and move forward.

If you keep letting her 'yank your chain', you'll find yourself with some good times and mostly being put off when something better comes along (for her)... is that what you want?

-Extant

quote:Originally posted by jollydickhead:

I FEEL FOR YOU IM AM UNDER SO MUCH PRESSURE RIGHT NOW. I THINK IM JUST GONNA SHOOT MYSELF. THE GIRL I LOVED HAS TORN ME TO PIECES SO MANY TIMES. YOUR NOT ALONE DUDE. I CANT HANDLE IT ANYMORE. IM GONNA BREAK.

that is in no way going to help anyone else, bringing on your own god damn sadness into other people's sadness/troubles only makes it worse because even you can't handle your own shit, so basically shut the fuck up.

Get over girls like that man. Just tell yourself she means nothing to me. Look at other girls pictures online, there are vast amounts of non-nude girls online you can just stare at all day to forget her.

Girls like that are sluts and are not serious about commitment. If shes clubbing every week thats messed up. When your in relationships you STOP "clubbin" and or do it 1 once or twice a month not a weekly thing.

Clubbing is nothing more then asking for trouble in a relationship especially if you love her, I mean seriously love her not this "love at first site" because shes hot and seems cool bullshit, but the real thing.

DAMN IT, I thought this thread would involve

Your GF

A Strap-on

Little lubrication

handcuffs ( fuzzy ones)

and an STD

GOD DAMN YOU

you gave my hope up.

quote:Originally posted by roadkill:

i kept tellin her he was s leaze

Never do this.

1. It makes you look desperate and insecure and makes it impossible for her to respect you.

2. No one will listen to this when they have stars in their eyes. Imagine what you would have done if your parents told you your girl was wrong for you when you were in heat.

3. You want to promote yourself as good, not others as bad. If she gets in the other guy is bad mindset, she will leave you when she does find someone good.

4. If you really thought sleazes were an issue, you would not have feelings for this girl. Things are more complex than that.

5. There is a right way to win. There is also a right way to lose. Making a huge issue out of it and holding on to the bitter end is the wrong way to lose. Be cool and aloof even when it is tough.





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Archive this please, I think that my post is the funniest thing ever. ( come on, look at it.)