Last night my girl was giving me a hj and I had problems getting completely hard. She was on top and I was lying on the floor and my pants were still partly on. It was a little uncomfortable for me but that doesn't normally stop me from getting hard.

I didn't know what to tell her at the time, but I thought about it over night and I think I know why I couldn't get hard. When a girl is giving me a hj/bj, I feel like I should be doing something back. It's hard for me to just relax and enjoy the experience. If I'm not reciprocating in some way I start thinking that I "shouldn't be enjoying" the job. Guess I need to learn to relax (I am a very tense person). Does anyone else have a problem like this?

STOP BITCHING !! At least your gf touches your penis, mine just pokes it like shes afriad of it. ( shes afraid of all penises)

GOD FUCKING STOP IT>

^^^Sorry to hear it, bushy.

Its cool, I figure she will come around sometime, at least she tries to like it. Last night she kinda played with it and acted like she wanted to .

If you date a friend, never get a handjob on the first date. It ruins things and makes you feel like shit...so much fucking regret. I'd sell my fucking soul to turn back time and change what happened.

thats actually a pretty common dilemma.

Does your girlfriend enjoy you reciprocating? You could always try 69, or you could go first, that way she is also recieving pleasure (having said that, a lot of girls do enjoy giving ).

Next time, try to get in a more comfortable position. That isn't why you had trouble, but comfort is cool. Also, remember to show her that you are really enjoying it. She will be happy to know that she can please you and she wont feel that maybe you aren't enjoying it (as she might if you seem uninvolved. I dont know if your stress leads to your lack of concern over the feel good factor, but it does for some.)

Do you think she realized that you weren't hard (was it just a little soft, or totally soft?) If she did, she may be feeling bad, so just explain to her that you love the feeling it gives her, and that YOUR feelings on reciprocation are responsible (let me give you some advice...take responsibility for problems...even if they aren't your fault), not her lack of skill.

I'm not very experienced at eating pussy, and she is on her period right now so we couldn't do anything last night. However, she asked if I'd like to learn how to eat pussy after she's off her period. I said "Yes!" so if a few days I'm going to eat her out!!

I tried to make it plain I was enjoying the hj (moaning and talking to her, telling her what a good job she does and how beautiful she is).

I was just a little soft and she noticed and mentioned. I said I wasn't comfortable finishing off with hj and preferred intercourse (which of course we couldn't do! Doh!). I guess I didn't make it clear that it wasn't her fault. Next time I see her I'll be sure to tell her.

So you ended up not finishing up, or did you finish the job yourself?

try clenching your ass that helps me a lot.