I don't know what i'm doing wrong. I have fingered and given my girl oral. I do everything that people tell me to do, and yet i'm not able to get my girl off. Of course we haven't really had a chanse to do much, but there have been occasions. I guess.. i'm asking for tips and pointers. Is it possible for my girl to be hard to get off? Because i have gotten other girls off maybe i'm loosing my "touch?" This is really bothering me. I am really passionate, and i always am gentle, careful not to hurt her (i did once and it turned out bad, i tore her hymen a little bit.) I think i found her G-spot once, it was really far behind the pelvic bone. I had an instant responce, and i almost got her off... but then i touched something and it just went down hill from there... Thanks a lot for any help that you people maybe able to give me.

ALPHABET! Lick the fukkin(oral) ALPHABET finger the ALPHABET...u know what I'm saying??The curves in B,the slashes in X...doing it with some rythtm too and u won't go wrong think of a nice slooow jam song while u do it too...maybe some quiet R&B? Some women need all the extra shit to get off(candles),well some of them do,while we just tend to be able to get off. Don't think of her coming as ur goal,cuz if thats ur goal u will be a said dude CUZ EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT. Theres no one surefire way. I read that u two don't have much time to get 2gether so when u do ur most likely rushing and anxious...thats a killer. This is ur girl not some 2 bit skank u met at a 7-11 praking lot!GOODSPEED YOUNG MAN!If u need time to do it correctly rent a room somewhere and make a nice goodie bag with all kinds of cool stuff....scented candle...perfumed heated oils....boombox...a nice mix of songs and then go to town.Romance can be a good thing with the right lady...

fingering her:

for some girls, fingering in their pussy doesn't work. try rubbing her clit. make sure she's wet first, then find her clit, (ask her if you fot it right) go in a circular motion, soft, but be ready to do it harder. she'll let you know if you're doing it right.

PS: tell me how this turns out

good luck

some girls really are hard to get off. if you cant get her off, it doesnt necessarily mean you are losing your touch.

Having said that, know that you have two hands and a mouth all in your possesion. When you are fingering her, use your mouth, and use the other hand to gently pet her inner thighs or her hips etc. If your mouth gets tired, let the other step in. You may just have to keep going at it for a while



Listen to reluctant, and ask her! make sure that you are not wasting your energy doing something that she isn't getting too much pleasure out of. Watch her face, and if she seems happy ask her if that feels good. She needs to be vocal too.

And realize that even if you dont get her off, girls aren't like guys! She is still having a good time, and is still satisfied even if she doesn't get off.

None of this is new to me. I do every single thing that you guys have said and more. I don't rush it. I'm very slow and, although i should put more rythem into it. She doesn't respond to clit stimulation as much as she does to vaginal stimulation. Maybe a complete day or two alone will work. My goal isn't really to get her off. Well actually... she's never experianced an orgasim and it makes me sad that i am not able to give it to her. Anyway, This wasn't much help, but thanks for reasuring me.

well you said that you found her g-spot at one point, and she really responded. so go back and try to find it again. this time don't lose it.

but honestly, maybe you shouldn't worry about it that much. it doesn't reflect your abilities or your game. it's just her.

--->lauren

naw, its not you man. i knew a girl like that once too. some just dont go as well as others do, yknow? i cant really tell you WHAT to do, youre gonna have to judge for yourself

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You're careful not to hurt her... maybe she'd like it if you did.

Just an idea.

Well... thats an idea, But when i did she curled up next to me after she pulled me away and started to shiver... (a sign that she is losing blood) How can i safely cause a little nib of pain so she can climax? I don't really know about this, but i am willing to give it a chanse.

i think you'll blow her mind if you just clamp down on her clit.

OUCH! She would kick my ass if i did that @_@

well, if shes never had an orgasm on her own, how are you expected to help her have one?

She should figure out what gets her off and then tell you, after all its her body!

tell her to masturbate or something....

I find if my bitch can't get off I just rub a little sperm in there and it drives her wild. Then again all bitches are different.

The main thing to remember is that all girls are different. Most likely it's not anything you did wrong. It took me about a year to give my current girlfriend an orgasm, and I can do it pretty regularly now. Another girl I was with had multiple orgasms in a matter of no time.

I find if you play with her boobs, it helps a lot, althought my gf can have an orgasm from me playing with her boobs, I think that most girls like that, not gentle but kinda rought. and play with her tits too. tease her, and the most important thing is TIME, it takes patience and time.

Being female, diffrent things are turn ons of course, and I read someone (no source availible) that gwe are 50% harder to turn on then guys.

Surprise surprise.

I dunno, I like it when guys are really aggressive now and then. pin her to the bed/whatever and kiss her roughly while doing it?

and clit rubbing seems to be more effective unless you have long fingers.

oh, and don't try to force more fingers in then fit. that can just hurt. if you have her moaning you're doing something right, keep it up.

oh and another thing, make sure she wants it very badly..

kiss her stomach lightly, the insiders of her thieghs, mess around with her first, till you know she can't stand waiting