To be quick about this....

about 3 years my gf of 1 year cheated on me with my best friend when they were on a class trip to Canada....when we broke up i promised myself i would never cause this pain to anyone....

well this past weekend...i failed...

After a few hours of heavy drinking at a friends party , i went up into his room to play some gamecube...seems innocent enough. Until a few moments later 2 of my friends(both female) came into the room and both were as wasted as me...we then smoked a few bowls and started to talk....which is where it all went wrong. Before i know it one of the girls is giving me blowjob,(now heres the only time im gonna blame porn for something bad)without thinking i turn to the other girl and start to finger and make out with her.

Now this on anyither day would seem like i jus madeout(no pun intended)like a fuckin bandit, but in this case on of the girls was of my best best friends gf...and even worse it was in his room. The guilt and shame of this is ripping me apart...what should i do?....tell him the truth and take the beating i deserve or suffer....for the first time in my life....i just dont know anymore...help me please

First of all, you'll get no sympathy from me. I've got nothing wrong with drinking and/or doing drugs, but you're still responsible for what you do under the influence.

Now, what you should do depends on how close your friend and his girl are. If they're totally "in love" (yeah right, but that's besides the point), I'd say just leave it be. No reason to fuck someone else up just to relieve some of your own guilt.

If they're not totally 100% into each other, tell him. He'll probably be pissed. He deserves to be. She fucked up to. It's not all your fault.

And remember one thing... You're a teenager. I'm gonna take a guess and say you're not even 18, am I right? Shit happens. Shit's gonna happen your whole life. This is pretty minor, especially given where you are right now. Friends and women are both gonna come and go. Learn a lesson and get over it.

Nope, were all 18.

Oh well. I was a bit off, but I stand by what I said.

look at the positive aspects...

blackmail them into do it again, but then al little more

didn't mean that, but i think if he's truly a good friend, you should tell him , i mean, you wouldn't like it findin it out yourself either

Don't tell him.

This is my first post in this fourm and this happens to be the first post I read and all I can think is do you have balls you just got a blowjob and fingered the other one this is not something that will happen to many times in ones life and I bet if you asked around you would not find to many guys that have been with two women at the same time. So no you don't tell him and yes if the chance for the three of you to get together again would precent its self you would be stupid not to do it.

I say you dont tell him. But I do suggest you talk to anyone who knows about the incident (the two girls....all of totse) and make sure they will not tell anyone about it. The worst thing would be having him hear from someone else.

Although I am pretty confident that he will find out eventually, they always do in these situations.

It's the guilt thing.

It's wrecking you so to ease your own guilt, you want to tell your friend.

But what good will it do him?

Telling your friend is'nt going to make everything better, it isnt going to make it not have happened.



If the girls keep quiet, and you keep your mouth shut, you should be ok.

I havent talk to them since that night, so what if i see them(which will happen soon), should i act as if though nothing happened and not even bring it up jus in case like.. the girls dont even remember.

Seeing as you were under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol, it's quite obvious that you have no recollection of what happened.

I don't know if YOU could pull this one off, but I certainly could. Of course, this may stem from me being an emotionless bastard.

Act like nothing happened. As far as you know, nothing did.

Call me crazy but I advise you to continue to engage in sexual intercourse with these 2 women. Sure beats playing Gamecube.

If you want to tell him ease your own guilt, forget it. Stop being so selfish.

If you want to tell him so he knows what kind of girl he's dating, and what kind of people he's associating himself with then tell him. If the relationship with this chick is pretty shaky anyway, he might as well know so he can end it before it gets drawn out.

You'll win some grace because of how fucked you were, but you're still responsible.

Also, tell him before she does. She's probably thinking of telling him riiiight now.

-Nocuous

quote:Originally posted by hopeless_tragedy:

....which is where it all went wrong.

Was i the only one who laughed when i read this? It just reminded me of the beginning of those cheesy FX horror movies.

It seemed like ordinary day.......but then i noticed Peter only had ONE Testicle.......this is where it all went wrong -Cues Orchestra-

Edit- Seriously though, Dont tell him. Aslong as the girls wont. Imagine how guilty you will feel when he goes psycho and murders his GF you got head from. THATD Be a guilt trip..

[This message has been edited by HackinDruggie (edited 01-28-2004).]

You can be absolutely, definitely, totally, certainly, and without even one iota of a doubt of one thing........YOUR FRIEND IS GOING TO FIND OUT!! GIRLS CANNOT KEEP SECRETS about things like this!! His GF may do it out of "guilt" (the same kind you are suffering from), OR she may tell him next time she gets mad at him and wants to really "get him where it hurts th most", OR she may tell him when he suggest to her someday that she could never get another guy as great as him, and is Soooooooo lucky he is her BF, OR her GF might tell him when she gets mad at your friend's girl, or she might do the irreististable thing and tell one of her "best friends" who she "just knows can keep it a secret"....etc., etc..

I have no idea HOW your friend is going to find out, BUT I CAN GUARANTY YOU 100% WITHOUT ANY DOUBT AT ALL that he WILL!!

Since that is a CERTAINTY, you might as well tell him yourself, so you can put the best spin on it that you can. It would be even better if you and his GF told him TOGETHER. Both of you seem honestly surprised at what happened, embarrassed about it, and very contrite! So maybe it would be credible if you and she told him TOGETHER!!

This whole thing, of course, is a judgement call. So it's your decision. Personally, I would have no guilt about what happened at all, but I would still tell my friend (my GF in my situation) just because it would be the right thing to do.

Good luck.

Love, Venus.

Well this is quite the ending.....

My friend came over about 2 hours to play some games. So i was gonna go and tell him what happened and take the beating when he told me a very funny story.

HE SAW US DO IT!!! he said that when he walked in i was gettin the blowjob and kissing his girl but he didnt care, considering it just a kiss and his gf said thats all we did(ur right girls cant keep secrets ^_^). After he told me that i laughed for a long time and felt relieved..sorta......hes my friend and all but im not gonna tell him about the 2 finger action...well whats done is done i guess, and i will never under any circumstance bring this up again.....so i guess i have to say is......whats one more time gonna do ^_^(jus playin)

Let the chick tell him, and then you play dumb. "WHAT?!?! When did that happen?!?!" You could even pretend it wasn't you. Oooh, I'm smart. But yeah, I think that's a good idea. And one of the girls will definitely tell him, unless they "can't remember" it either...

Oy Guernica, its over buddy! hahah

God, where is this place where you can play gamecube, get a blowjob, and finger a girl all in the same room?? It's a damn miracle.

~ES

quote:Originally posted by Van-iLLer:

Oy Guernica, its over buddy! hahah

Umm... what?

quote:Originally posted by Evolution of A Saint:

God, where is this place where you can play gamecube, get a blowjob, and finger a girl all in the same room?? It's a damn miracle.

~ES

That's what I want to know! "hopeless tragedy" my ass...

you cunt two girls at once and you want me to feel sorry for you......?

well fuck you.....

the only threesome i've ever had was me a mate and 1 girl....

some people.......fuckin hell....

That shit is crazy man.

What you need to do is tell your friend that the girl he is going out with is NOT going to be his life partner. Don't give too many details, but just say you KNOW that things wont work out, and if he found out why he would be furious. Tell him he should slowly break up with her and promise you will hook him up with a new girl