Ok real dilemma here,

Well, ok, classic soap scene, many things happen bla bla, me and this great girl hook up. The problem is that her dad is probably the most protective person ever. He made a list of conditions to follow. Here are some, I can only see her once a week only on weekends, I can only see her at her house under her parents supervision, obviously cant be alone, they want to talk to me 1 on 1 before. I mean god the list just goes on and on. What do i do?

Show him how boring and unintrusive you are, and what a good influence on his little girl you can be. He'll tire of you and start trusting you more. You've got to earn respect, it isn't just handed to you. Don't give him any reason to mistrust you, it only takes once...

-Extant

Talk to the dad 1 on 1 and explain to him that you can understand that he's concerned about his daughter but that you really like her and would never hurt her bla bla... Basically, just get to know his parents and they'll see you more as a friend and such- right now you're just the evil biker boy they don't know shit about... so naturally they're a little concerned.

quote:Originally posted by Geenie:

Talk to the dad 1 on 1 and explain to him that you can understand that he's concerned about his daughter but that you really like her and would never hurt her bla bla... Basically, just get to know his parents and they'll see you more as a friend and such- right now you're just the evil biker boy they don't know shit about... so naturally they're a little concerned.

My first gf's parents were like this. I went over there, and I just made them see how cool of a guy I am. Even now, like three years later, whenever they see me they're super nice to me. Just ride the wave and they'll loosen up.

what they're sayin makes sence, but won't work, people like that are not reasonable but should be in places with small windows and guys in white tellin them that yes they will be set free at some point as soon as their "issues" are solved

but seriously, your fucked, big time, i wish you good luck, i guess your only hope is to find ways to avoid the rules.....

(ohw, and though i realise this is not your main concern at the moment, nor wil it maybe ever be, girls who come from an inviroment like that are often easy to get in bed, it's a revenge towards their parents thing)

how old are you and how old is the girl?

If he's 22 and she's 14 that would explain some things...

find another girl.....There are very few girls who are hot enough for you to go through all that and I doubt she is one of them...dump her ass and find someone else

quote:Originally posted by Extant:

Show him how boring and unintrusive you are, and what a good influence on his little girl you can be. He'll tire of you and start trusting you more. You've got to earn respect, it isn't just handed to you. Don't give him any reason to mistrust you, it only takes once...

-Extant

Bingo!

In addition to this, try to hang around him more than you do with your girlfriend.

For example, he's watching the news...You sit down and say something like "Jesus H Christ...Are those Afghans still bombing things?!...When do you think George Dubya is going to get his finger out?!"

Eventually he'll be under the impression that you are a sensible and down to Earth guy...Even though we know that isn't true right?!

And always remember: "Yes sir"..."No sir"..."Three bags full sir"

All the best man!

Yep, to echo the best advice here, you have to suck it up or find another girl.

She's a "great girl" for a reason...good upbringing. I'm kinda assuming y'all are on the "younger" side (14-16) and such protective parenting isn't that uncommon.

Be sure to look her parents, especially her father, in the eye when you speak to them. But don't stare them down or anything. Don't fidget or use too much slang. Speak clearly. Watch some 50s-era sitcoms and take note.

Is she worth it? If you show him (her especially) that you can follow through with all these you'll prove yourself. She'll undeniably trust you and have faith in you after going through all that.

Her dad doesn't have anything against you personally and you shouldn't have anything against him. She's his daughter. It sucks for her a lot more than what it does for you.

my advice, do a natural born killer on his ass,that'll solve all ur problems. i mean, granted, it might be a bit early for that sort of thing but if u've tried the above advice and the problem persists...that's my advice. for now take it easy and go with the flow. if he ever tells her to go upstairs and take a bath while ur there i'd start to worry, though.

Look at the bright side- while most parents would try to keep an eye on you from afar, super-protective ones will trust you to the ends of the earth once you've earned it. Good times then.

quote:Originally posted by RedShift:

Ok real dilemma here,

Well, ok, classic soap scene, many things happen bla bla, me and this great girl hook up. The problem is that her dad is probably the most protective person ever. He made a list of conditions to follow. Here are some, I can only see her once a week only on weekends, I can only see her at her house under her parents supervision, obviously cant be alone, they want to talk to me 1 on 1 before. I mean god the list just goes on and on. What do i do?

That sucks man, but consider yourself lucky my ex-girlfriends dad caught me in her room when he wasnt home and he acted like he didn care and next thing i know shes screaming for me to go out the window, and he comes around the corner loading his 12 gauge.Needless to say My ass was out the halfway opened window in the blink of an eye.

^ Holly shit

Stay away from girls with parents like that!

quote:Originally posted by JDOGGYDOGG:

That sucks man, but consider yourself lucky my ex-girlfriends dad caught me in her room when he wasnt home and he acted like he didn care and next thing i know shes screaming for me to go out the window, and he comes around the corner loading his 12 gauge.Needless to say My ass was out the halfway opened window in the blink of an eye.

So, yu had to find a new place to stay?

Find a chick that doesn't have Nazis for parents. It'll be easier than putting up with that shit. If that fails, murder them.

Doc

quote:Originally posted by JDOGGYDOGG:

That sucks man, but consider yourself lucky my ex-girlfriends dad caught me in her room when he wasnt home and he acted like he didn care and next thing i know shes screaming for me to go out the window, and he comes around the corner loading his 12 gauge.Needless to say My ass was out the halfway opened window in the blink of an eye.

I know what you're saying. I'm friends with this beautiful persian chick. she warned me never to come over to her house. Her dad has a B class liscence or some shit, with pistols scattered in safes all over the house. Damn over-protective dads.....



[This message has been edited by Loc Dogg (edited 02-06-2004).]