hey there

i cant seem to get my girl to have an orgasm using my fingers, i know what to do and all that, its worked on every other girl, but when im fingering my g.f she says it feels good but she cant seem to have an orgasm, and i asked her if shes ever had an orgasm and she said no.

also shes a virgin and VERY self conscious and has never let any male near her "down stairs" except me, she is 16 and about 5'2 and a small frame, i can barely get 1 finger inside her and she says it hurts as im putting it in but once its in & im rubbing her g spot she says it feels good.

any advice on how to give her an orgasm?? special tricks? she says she wants sex next friday but im afraid i wont be able to get it up there, seriously, i cant get 2 fingers inside her even when shes totally wet & horny because she says it hurts.

heeeeeeeeeeeelp!!

thanks for reading.

Ps, no "you fucking retard" posts, only constructive replys please.

She's nervous. When you guys meet again, spend some time beforehand becoming relaxed, and then try. Or she could just be one of those women who have a hard time getting an orgasm. Good luck!

yeah i will try that Ducky, thanks.

she is sleeping at my house on friday night so we will just ly on my bed 2gether cuddling and kissing for a while and then move onto more stuff, hopefully by then she will be relaxed

quote:Originally posted by southernsun:

yeah i will try that Ducky, thanks.

she is sleeping at my house on friday night so we will just ly on my bed 2gether cuddling and kissing for a while and then move onto more stuff, hopefully by then she will be relaxed

Good, good, just remember to let her dictate the pace.

You fucking retard!..... sorry, I couldn't resist. Ahem.....

It's all about comfort and willingness. If she doesn't want to "get off" then she won't. It's technically as much her fault as it is perhaps yours. Good luck with it, though. I remember how things like that can put a little bit of a scar on the relationship.

Time. that is the key factor, some girls can take 3 mins ( my gf takes a few, but im pretty good), once i had a girl who took 40 mins to orgasm, my tounge and hand got tired but it was worth it.

things to keep in mind.

Time

Comfort, put a pillow under her ass.

Setting( dark placew with music)

some younger girls just can't. they can't get off. they don't know how. it takes some time, and some practice, and a lot of trying before some young'ins can have an orgasm.

see, unlike guys who start practicing at ages like 10, 11, or 12.. most (stress most) girls don't really get to "know themselves" until they start having boyfriends and stuff. so it takes a little time withg them. there are exceptions (my new girlfriend for example) who masturbate regularly and easily get off when doing just abut anything. give her some time and just keep trying.

thanks for all the replies people, appreciate it

i wouldn't say she doesnt want to get off, when we are kissing she sometimes moves my hand to her stomache and pushes down a little which means she wants me to put my hands down there and when i do she moves her legs apart, but thats after we have hugged and kissed for a while.

i would say that she is actually woried and nervous that my mum or dad might walk in because when she hears a noise on the landing she gets her head up and looks really quick, paranoid lol mind you i dont blame her, she used to work with my mum in the supermarket

i dont think it will scar our relationship though, we are going very well as we are, we dont need sexual pleasure but it would definitely bring us closer i think, but we both enjoy touching each other and being with each other.

i think i will try for about an hour on friday fingering her to see if she can orgasm, i noticed that after about 5 minutes of fingering she was the wettest 'down there' she has ever been, and that was on sunday but on friday i aint gunna stop till she goes AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :P

aaaand yeah i will tell her to put a pillow under her ass as i find it pretty orkward and a bit of a strain on my hand doing it totally flat on her back, the lighting is always dimmed and the room is always at a nice warm temperature too.

thanks again for reading & replying, feel free to post anything else you wish to say