I'll start off with a small intro about myself. I would never have told anyone about this in real life, since it's too embrassing. Just .. read on.

Me - I'm 5'8.5, a bit on the skinny side, but i'm not a weak little sissy. I do a whole bunch of sports and stuff, i eat a lot( but apparently i never gain weight ). I wear glasses ever since i was 7. im a very open person and quite funny at times. I wouldn't say i have many friends, but i have enough. Currently 16, in grade 11.

Her - She is 15 (im a year and a half older), grade 10, blonde hair, glasses as well, normal figure. She is quite a shy person though, and does not seem to have many close friends. I shall call her " CW " from now on.

the Story- It all started around september, in the guidance office, when i decided to continue learning french. I have only learned up to grade 9 french and is currently in grade 11. There was no way for me to skip grade 10 and go straight to 11. So i decided to take the course and get along with a classroom full of grade 10s.

It was quite a weird classroom, even though in Canada, it's normal to be multicultural, there were a large number of brown students in my class. In a class of 30, there were 4 light skin toned asians, and 3 others that were white. I forgot to mention, i belong in the asian group and i like to spike my hair.

CW was one of the 2 white girls in our class. I did not really get to know her very well until we had a field trip in october, where we had traveled downtown to french restaurant for gourmet food. I started noticing how pretty she was that day and attempted to talk to her on the bus. She had long and silver earrings. With the way she dressed and how she had her hair tied back, it really turned me on.

We had a decent conversation through out the subway until we got back to school, and i couldn't stop thinking about her.

After that day, i basically had a routine. Since my french class was near the end of the day, i would always end up going with her to her locker where we had small talk, you know, irrelevant things that don't matter. This went on for about a month or so and things were going smoothly.

After i wake up every morning, still half asleep, i would dream and think about her. It felt really nice and was brought to my attention that i should make a move. After much thought and consideration, i decided that i would make a move, but first i had to get her msn. The reason for this is because we don't talk often enough and i wanted to understand her better.

Getting her msn was no problem at all, but what happened after i added her was totally unexpected...

I cant remember precisely, either the first day or the second day of adding her on my list, she said something that really surprised me. She typed in " 831 " and asked me if i knew what it meant. Being the total dumbass that i was, i could not figure it out. A friend eventually came with the reply that 831 meant " 8 letters, 3 words, 1 meaning" which is some stupid teenage way of saying " i like you ".

I couldn't sleep that night (i think you would know the feeling)

The following day i KNEW i had to make a move. There was no other time, and i couldn't think of a reason not to. It seemed weird to me at first, since i never dealt with a relationship quite like that. but i carried on anyways.

Right after french class, i caught up with her in the hallways, totally focused to make my move. Knowing her personality, i knew that it should not be a big move, since i don't think she's ever gone out with anyone before and she's like a really good girl. We talked for a bit and i told her that i understood what 831 meant. At that moment i grabbed and held her hand. ( no big stupid moves ) she was pretty happy about it, and i was too. I walked her to her next class, which was on the way of my physics class anyways and dropped her off.

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This next is what i could never understand and it's been confusing for quite some time. Im hoping someone could explain it to me.

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as she got out of the classroom, i was waiting in the hallway for my friend, whom i always walk to the bus station with. I saw her and decided to talk to her. ( since my friend doesn;t come out of his class until like 8 minutes after school has ended ). The next words that came out of her mouth broke my heart. she said ( as i can remember it)" I'm not really used to being touched " and walked away.

For the past month or so, i've been wondering what she actually meant by that, and to this day i still haven't been able to figure out what it meant. We rarely talk now, and i still feel embrassed about the things that have happened.

SO has anyone been in a situation like this?

Would you have done things differently?

ps. sorry for the long and horribly phrased story, i never got great marks in english.

Dude that seriously sucks every girlfriend i have ever had said i dont touch enough so i cant even imagine that. But hey you never know she might open her mind a little and come back to you.

wow thats too bad. i think you scared her off. is she shy? she could have issues about that kind of stuff. maybe when she was in class she got to thinking and decided she didn't want to move too fast. maybe she was embarassed. try talking to her again in any way possible.

That's strange, you said she didn't seem to mind you holding hands with her at the time, then that comment? Could you have deluded yourself into believing she was okay with your 'move'? You've kind of let things go too long to be nonchalant about just asking her outright what she meant, but...

Why not make it a point to catch up to her in a semblance of semi-privacy (best you can find) and just tell her you didn't mean to offend her in any way, you maybe just misinterpreted or misread her signals/signs. Let her know that you were/are interested in her, either directly or subtley and see how she reacts. She sounds shy the way you describe it. If her 831 comment is on target she might be just a little bolder on-line than IRL and that would explain why she dropped the ball in your lap. It's hard to say, but she may be under the impression that you lost interest and is too embarassed or soft spoken to talk to you about it. Just guessing here, it's hard to say what happened, not having been there.

-Extant

thx for the replies guys, but im pretty its already too late to do anything about it. I still talk to her now, just not like before. After that incident, i realised that our personalities didnt match at all, but i still wanted to see how it would've turned out if we actually went together. I just felt like getting it off my chest and wanted to see if anyone went through situations similar to that. I guess not, it's still weird to me when i think about it. I can imagine myself now, in 20 years, single, and having a discussion like this with a shrink.

Fuck you fucking slit eye. Try going after white women! Go back to your sweat-shop whores and make some niggers some nikes while your at it too.

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i hate racist bastards. Can't say anything more.

Nice grammar Geranium, go back to the Caucus Range you fucking round-eyed glue-skin. See how retarded that sounds?...Yeah, sounds just like you. Die.

Anyways, to the original poster, good luck with your situation, hope things work out. Make sure to keep communication open without smothering her.

Uh..thats not even a relationship. Big deal you touched her hand ?

That sucks she went off. You probably spooked her.