hey, umm I need some help.There is a guy in my class and he really likes me and he has liked me for ages.He buys me stuff, writes me poems and recently he wrote a song about me.He is a nice person and all but I only like him as a friend and now he wants me to tell him if i like him or not.I don't want to embarrass him or hurt his feelings or wreck our friendship.

What do i do?

Thanks heaps

Tell him you don't like him, and give him head to soften the blow.

...HAH! GIVE HEAD TO SOFTEN THE BLOW! GET IT!?!?!

Seriously. That'd be the nicest thing you could do.

^

Yeah, but tell him when there isn't a class full of people watching.

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

Tell him you don't like him, and give him head to soften the blow.

...HAH! GIVE HEAD TO SOFTEN THE BLOW! GET IT!?!?!

Seriously. That'd be the nicest thing you could do.

Nar no way! I ain't like that.

quote:Originally posted by sexc^peaches:

Nar no way! I ain't like that.



How DARE you sully the name of sexc^peaches with non-hedonistic behavior!?!!?

Seriously. If you're not going to put out, don't name yourself like you do. And I'm not just saying that because I am that affectionate...

...nevermind.

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

How DARE you sully the name of sexc^peaches with non-hedonistic behavior!?!!?

Seriously. If you're not going to put out, don't name yourself like you do. And I'm not just saying that because I am that affectionate...

...nevermind.

Damn, nicely put Kikey.

Touché

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

How DARE you sully the name of sexc^peaches with non-hedonistic behavior!?!!?

Seriously. If you're not going to put out, don't name yourself like you do. And I'm not just saying that because I am that affectionate...

...nevermind.

fuk off. Just because i have *sexc* in my nick, doesnt automaticaly make me a slut.



[This message has been edited by sexc^peaches (edited 10-08-2003).]

quote:Originally posted by sexc^peaches:

fuk off. Just because i have *sexc* in my nick it doesnt not automaticaly make me a slut.



Yes it does.

Just tell him that you like him, but not that way, and you just want to be friends. It may seem harsh, but stringing him along is worse, and you will feel better about it after a while.

On a separate note, is it just me, or is the entire S&A forum PMSing, guys included? Let’s try to get along people. This is S&A. We are better than SG, or at least I'd like to think so.

-Easy

First off, Kikey, you make me laugh because I agree with what you are saying.

Secondly, having "sexc" in your name implies that you are sexy and want everyobody to acknowledge this fact...This conveys the idea that you are indeed a slut...Or a child who thinks it's "cool" to call themself sexy!

Last of all, Why not just say "You've been really sweet and I thank you for everything but I don't see you as anything more than a friend"?

Or just go with Kikey's idea and tell him just before giving him a shiner!

Don't sugar coat it just tell him that you only see him as a friend and nothing more. Tell him that you appreciate the gifts but it makes you feel uncomfortable and you don't want to keep leading him on.

Or you could just give him a hummer

Take Care,

Kangy

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

Yes it does.





The Peaches is what did it for me.

just get him alone, then say to him "i don't like you. you're nice, but i don't want you as a boyfriend."

he'll say "but why?"

this is the point where you stop being so nice. just be blunt and tell him why. if it's looks, popularity, whatever, if you tell him the truth, it'll make it easier. don't say something like "i don't want a boyfriend right now." if you just flat out tell him, he can move on and find someone else.

Are you really even his friend? What do you do for him, other than grace him with some fleeting acknowledgement every now and then? I hope you haven't actually accepted anything he's bought you. That would certainly make you of questionable moral character.

Chess club guys who can write songs and poetry and allocate limited finances to buy you things are not to be taken lightly. They're often quite smart and funny, and damn cool once you get to know them.

Sounds like you're rejecting a creative, bright person for no good reason. So don't lie and say you "like him as a friend" when you don't.

I might be harsh, but it's immature fool girls like you that give young women a bad name.

^^I agree fully. I was gonna say just tell him that you want to be friends only, unless he is some psycho he should accept that, but if you have been taking all the shit he is buying for you have been leading him on. Dun just turn down some guy because he's not drop dead gorgeous, or he isn't popular enough, a lot of those types are the most interesting. Personal experience here, I hang out with a bunch of the "goths" at my school. Now I dun do everything they do, actually I dun do anything they do, but they are fun to be around. Most of them are EXCEPTIONAL artists, and will make you anything if you ask. They are funny, and best of all they aren't sheep. Most people hate them cause they dress and act different though...

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

Yes it does.

zing

/\/e\/\/R/\ge

quote:Originally posted by NewRage:

...Dun just turn down some guy because he's not drop dead gorgeous, or he isn't popular enough, a lot of those types are the most interesting...

Im almost positive that's the reason...she probably is in high school, and is afraid to hook up with him because of who he is, or what his reputation is like; going out with him/being seen with him will make her friends laugh at her. I hate women.

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Chess club guys who can write songs and poetry and allocate limited finances to buy you things are not to be taken lightly. They're often quite smart and funny, and damn cool once you get to know them.

Cindy, you rule. :P

quote:Originally posted by Fetus:

Cindy, you rule. :P

Damn straight.

I totally agree

Cindy U rock!

I think that you guys are being way to judgemental. Don't assume that you know her and know the guy just yet. sexc, why don't you tell us exacly WHY you don't like him?

And for God's sake, quit it with the sexs=slut nonsense.

Damn guys, give her a break. Unless your name is something like "CockLovingSlutGiveMeMoreWhore", it doesn't imply shit. And if she's taken these things he gave her, don't you think that could be due to the same discomfort she has with rejecting him as a boyfriend?

Be straight with him about the fact you don't like him, and if you accepted any gifts, give them back. If he tells you to keep them, then either do so or give them to other people. Don't make a big deal out of any of this, because the more emotional you appear, the more likely he is to think he has a chance because there's obviously some other reason you're rejecting him and he still has a chance.

And when that's done, walk away. Task complete.

You guys just scared her away didn't you...

Good job Kikey, very good laugh.

Anyway...... fuck, i forgot what I was gonna say.

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Are you really even his friend? What do you do for him, other than grace him with some fleeting acknowledgement every now and then? I hope you haven't actually accepted anything he's bought you. That would certainly make you of questionable moral character.

Chess club guys who can write songs and poetry and allocate limited finances to buy you things are not to be taken lightly. They're often quite smart and funny, and damn cool once you get to know them.

Sounds like you're rejecting a creative, bright person for no good reason. So don't lie and say you "like him as a friend" when you don't.

I might be harsh, but it's immature fool girls like you that give young women a bad name.

holy shit, that was like pulling off a headshot open sights at 500 yards with a .22.... AND KILLING THE PERSON!!! Such effeciency cindy

It almost leads me to believe that you have been deeply affected by this same kind of stupidity, or regret breeding it within yourself....

wow, and i thought sometimes the way i put it can be cruel , you've given me new hope to continue to be the cold calculating phantom of S&A...

Also Kikey, that was brillant...

Good god! I'm in S&A? I thought I clicked drugs, and then I wondered why the hell this was in here.

Just tell him you like him

quote:Originally posted by Little Pea:

I think that you guys are being way to judgemental. Don't assume that you know her and know the guy just yet. sexc, why don't you tell us exacly WHY you don't like him?

And for God's sake, quit it with the sexs=slut nonsense.

thanks for the reality check. i mean, how do we know this guy's a nerdy chess club geek or a jock. and, really, who here can judge someone by their name... kikey kikeowitz?...psycho?...horny kangaroo wrangler??? i've seen 10 times worse on aol. 420...

quote:by deadlycindy:

Are you really even his friend? What do you do for him, other than grace him with some fleeting acknowledgement every now and then? I hope you haven't actually accepted anything he's bought you. That would certainly make you of questionable moral character.

Chess club guys who can write songs and poetry and allocate limited finances to buy you things are not to be taken lightly. They're often quite smart and funny, and damn cool once you get to know them.

Sounds like you're rejecting a creative, bright person for no good reason. So don't lie and say you "like him as a friend" when you don't.

I might be harsh, but it's immature fool girls like you that give young women a bad name.

Wow... That's... exactly perfect..

awesome post, Cindy, it's the real truth..

God how I wish more girls thought this way!! ARGH!!

Cindy r0x0rs my b0x0rs

quote:Originally posted by deadlycindy:

Are you really even his friend? What do you do for him, other than grace him with some fleeting acknowledgement every now and then? I hope you haven't actually accepted anything he's bought you. That would certainly make you of questionable moral character.

Chess club guys who can write songs and poetry and allocate limited finances to buy you things are not to be taken lightly. They're often quite smart and funny, and damn cool once you get to know them.

Sounds like you're rejecting a creative, bright person for no good reason. So don't lie and say you "like him as a friend" when you don't.

I might be harsh, but it's immature fool girls like you that give young women a bad name.

i disagree. you can't go out with a person just because you feel guilty about the things they have done for you or how good a person is/ can be. you actually have to like them.

if you don't like him as a boyfriend, then don't lie to him about it. it'll be more painful for him in the long run if you lie about it. when he finds out that you don't like him as much as he likes you, and everything will go downhill from there

quote:Originally posted by Shadow88:

Cindy r0x0rs my b0x0rs

Thanks for that enlightning post... As if it hadn't been stated 5 times earlier.

cindy doesn't rock!

/\/e\/\/R/\ge

quote:Originally posted by NewRage:

Thanks for that enlightning post... As if it hadn't been stated 5 times earlier.

cindy doesn't rock!

/\/e\/\/R/\ge

STFU moron. Cindy does rock, and she's way better than your sorry ass will ever score.

-Easy

quote:Originally posted by k.hallenbeck:

i disagree. you can't go out with a person just because you feel guilty about the things they have done for you or how good a person is/ can be. you actually have to like them.

What are you disagreeing with? My point was that she shouldn't pretend to "like him as a friend" when she doesn't. It appeared that her definition of a "friend" was "someone she allows to give her presents." And a consolation prize she was offering in lieu of romantic interest. I thought guys hated that.

quote:

if you don't like him as a boyfriend, then don't lie to him about it. it'll be more painful for him in the long run if you lie about it. when he finds out that you don't like him as much as he likes you, and everything will go downhill from there

That was exactly my point. I was just a bit harsher about it. And honestly, I don't know where I got the chess club thing. I think I pulled it out of my own past experience I feel guilty about.

And really, I appreciate the props, but they're excessive. Stick to Miss Peaches' topic.

o ok

i thought you said she should go for it