I had this boyfriend for two years and I loved him dearly, but our relationship sucked...he treated me like dirt. So I broke up with him and just wanted to have fun for a while with other gentlemen. So I met this guy and we fooled around heavily the first night I met him. The second and third time we did the same, and the four time we fucked. Usually I would have to say that I perfer to be in a relationship with someone before we get that close, but again I wanted to have fun. It also helped a lot that he has a huge cock, and I have never had big before.

Well basically now I am starting to really like him, I kinda want a relationship from him. I am afraid that he doesnt respect me because I slept with him so soon, and Im not sure how to get the right kind of attention from him. Like let him know that I like him and want the other type of relationship, beside the strictly sexual one.

Would you respect someone who gave it up on the fourth date?

Any input is very helpful...input of any kind...positive negitive...its all the same.

i would. i mean, some people are just "naturally hornier" (for lack of a better word) than others. i would see if hes still intersted in you, and who knows, perhaps HE really likes you as well? just meet up with him, maybe instead of fucking one night, you could go on a "real" date?

(you could always fuck AFTER, i suppose )

just let him know how you feel...

ts

[This message has been edited by Tru_Souljer (edited 10-03-2003).]

Sure, why not... not every relationship starts out picture perfect.

Just discuss these same things with him, get his take, then you know where to take it.

i respected my girl, we had sex before the first date. we've been dating for nearly a year. just don't pressure it. go with the flow, don't get too worked up about it.

I would say. If a chick gave it up on the fourth date, that she really respects me. Sex is a close bond between two people. But thats just me.

Just tell him straight out that you really like him. Nothing gives a big hello like saying, Is this going anywhere other than just sex? I want a real relationship out of this because I don't really see it going anywhere.

A guy that doesn't respect you because you had sex with him is a hypocrite. Unless he disrespects himself, too, which is a whole 'nother problem.

I shudder that you're even concerned with this, or think it's worthy of your concern.

^Men ARE hypocrites- to themselves, most of the time. So while it's logical for him to not pass judgement on a girl having first date sex (because he had it too), probably there's a cloud of disrespect somewhere in there....

Which does not have to herald the end. I believe that you can really go all the way with a relationship if you build it up with lots of anticipation and chase...so you could tease him and flirt and play hard to get (sounds cliche but it works).

quote:Originally posted by quinnifred:



Would you respect someone who gave it up on the fourth date?



My respect isn't based on such things. A girl who's horny? Why woudl a guy have anything against that? Respect, to me, isn't based on that, so much as it's based on dignity and intelligence. If you're dignified and intelligent, well, go for it. If he's not in, it's his loss.

Try just going out and having fun a couple of times. Make out and yada yada but don't go to far. See if he's really having a good time or just wants sex. You know, you really shouldn't fall for a person just because you slept with them. You really don't know what he's like. He could end up a horny scum bag that just happens to have a big dick (motion of the ocean right hehe), so don't put your hopes up too high. Be careful and if you are gonna go through with the "no sex for a couple of dates" plan, don't be a tease. You might turn him off to you.

If you carry yourself with class, dignity, and respect I don't see why not. If you naturally go around and fuck every guy on the fourth da(y?)te then I can see how he might not. The problem is he might think the relationship is purely sexual and as someone said (I think eye..?) go slow with no pressure.

I think all guys will agree we want a woman who is a lady outside the bedroom but in the bedroom a complete slut. (Random and off topic...)

Btw we are hypocrites to ourselves. I hate seeing slutty women at the same time I love it. I hate that...

I would respect a girl who gave it up on the 4th date.

As long as she doesn't walk and talk like a slut then she has my respect.

A slut isn't someone who's been with a lot of guys. A slut isn't someone who has sex with someone after only a few (or no) dates. A slut is someone who is indiscriminate in who they fuck. That's not you, so don't worry.