How long does it take to get bored of sex with a partner?

I've been sleeping with this guy for roughly 7 or 8 months, I'm not quite sure. Anyway, we must have had sex about 15 times. A couple times a month at most. We also don't have an "exclusive" thing going, it's all been pretty relaxed and casual. Basically, we were friends having sex. Keep in mind that we're also pretty young. I'm still quite into it, but we had this discussion recently, and he says he's bored of me sexually. He doesn't find me that attractive anymore (he used to think I was dead sexy), but I'm still as "entertaining" as I've always been, aside from sex. He'll still have sex with me, but he's indifferent about it. (Those are almost the exact words he used.)

How am I meant to take this? I'm far from desperate, I can get laid whenever I want to (any half attractive girl can). The thing is, I must be really, really bad at what I do to have had him get bored with me so easily.

I hardly know what I'm asking, I don't really have a specific question. I don't know why I'm posting this, even. Just tell me what you think, I suppose.

It's really really really hard not to get emotionally attached to a guy you find worthwhile enough to have sex with over a 7-8 month period. Even if the sex is sporadic.

The only way to remedy this is, if you're going for casual, to have more than one, and ideally several, "friends with benefits." As pitifully lame as it is, guys will tend to be interested more if they think they have competition.

But your goal isn't to throw the guys into a competition for your favors. The goal is to keep your dance card filled so you don't give a crap if one of them loses interest and wanders off.

So how are you meant to take this? With a grain of salt. Meh, so what, he says he's bored. People change, and that doesn't mean you have changed for the worst or anything.

This guy sounds like a fucking prick!!!

Basically he's saying he doesn't think you're that attractive anymore and the sex is boring him...But he'll still fuck you...Like he's doing you a huge favour or something!!!

Forget that mother fucker!

From your posts I've found you to be a nice enough person with a brain and an open mind.

Your physical attractiveness I can't comment on because I don't know what you look like!

All I am saying is if he isn't showing you the respect that I believe you deserve then he isn't worth a streak of piss!

bored of sex after 15 times (in two months? that's the amount of sex i had in my first week with my girl) well... it must be him.. if it's not all that according to him now, it must never have been all that.. and then he would have probs mentioned earlier...

so it's him..

and the solution to not bein all that in bed if that really is the problem is a reall fuckin lot of practice.. (at least 14 times a week for several months should do the trick)

I've been with my girfriend for almost a year now and since our first months we've been having sex about 3-6 times a week and not ONCE has it gotten boring. I think that this guy just has a big ego. Why bother giving him what he doesn't deserve? Let the bastard jerk off.

You never mentioned if you try new things. Missionary position is good for example, but if that's it then it's like eating vanilla yogurt all the time instead of sampling the hundreds of other flavors. Add variety if you haven't already and he may think differently. Also, 15 times in 8 months is not a lot. If he was into it from the beginning he'd want it more than that.

Stephanina, you are entering Dumpsville. Population: You.

Sounds pretty gay, anybody who gets bored of sex is gay. 15 times? I did it like 15 times in the first 2 weeks with my girl.



Shek

he's just playing the game. cindy nailed this one.

there might be reasons why he's getting bored, if he really is... if the sex is the same every time, or it's just vanilla sex, it could get boring. try some new positions or a scenario or something. change it up a little.

He's either playing.....nahh, he's a queer.

hmm... well, i'm a kinky bastard, so i'll just say this.

tight black leather will cure any man's sexual boredom. then again, so will viagra

Shalakai

Sometimes, the stupidest answers can quite possibly be the best ones

Talk it over with your partner. Try new things. It may even not have anything to do with boredom.

ok...this can be taken as offensive but also as a lesson...

first of all...my husband and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary in November and we are still very, VERY, active in the sex department...(at LEAST 4-5 times a week) and i'm not blowing smoke up your ass...I SWEAR...anyways...the reason is because we still try and keep thing new and fresh...try new things...do stuff we haven't done in a long time...etc.etc..(it helps if you're both horndogs too)so you might want to spice things up...

another reason could be that since you are no longer a challenge and he knows he can get some "casual sex" whenever he wants he just doesn't see the excitement about it anymore... so don't give up the milk so easily...

Furthermore...maybe he's starting to fall for one of the other girls he's seeing in a more serious rather than casual way and doesn't want to lose ya as a friend but wants to become more committed..(don't laugh..it could happen) anyway, i'd find out more by asking him..straight out..it usually gets you the answer you need(even if you don't want it)

you never know ... maybe he'll tell you he's falling for you and wants to ease up on the sex(though there's not much to ease up on) and get to know you....hahahhahahahhahahhahha

ok...even i won't swallow that one..keep in mind you are still young and eventually you'll learn the ropes and will continue to do so as long as you want to... I would hold off on having casual sex for awhile... when you are young sex is too often used socially and yet you can't expect not to get emotionally attached in some way.. wait for mr. right rather than mr. right now..

sorry for rambling...good luck