I am new to this forum and thought this was the best place to post this answer.

I am 18 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I've been kissed once and thats it. I have had sex before but it was when I went to mexico and was at a club and it was a stripper.

Now I am wondering what is wrong witih me? Why am I so afraid to commit to a girl and try to be with her and have a steady relationship? I have only kissed one girl and it was only a brief thing and it was someone who just liked me and was drunk and I really had no feelings for her.

So my real question is do these experiences make me wierd? For having sex with a prostitute in mexico make me some sick individual since I have never had sex with someone of my own age?

Does this make me less of an individual? I am just wondering and it has been bothering me quite a bit. It also all started when someone I knew started questioning my reasons for not sleeping with the girl I knew who was drunk and wanted to have sex wtih me.

I didn't want to have sex with her because I thought of her as a friend and wasn't attracted. Now I hear a bunch of shit from people I know about how I'm just afraid to get with her. I should of just hit it and quit it?

I know these are weird questions, but I would be grateful for some advice

Firstly, fuck what people say about you, don't listen to them. If you didn't like the girl and you didn't want to have sex with her that's fine, who cares? Who's to say whether you should have sex with someone or not?

Why would it make you less of an individual just because you haven't stuck your dick in a pussy, think about it.

Just do what feels right for YOU, don't listen to other peoples crap.

quote:So my real question is do these experiences make me wierd? For having sex with a prostitute in mexico make me some sick individual since I have never had sex with someone of my own age?

No, it doesn't. Your time will come. I think you somewhat answered your question:

quote: Why am I so afraid to commit to a girl and try to be with her and have a steady relationship?

Find out why are you afraid in the first place, overcome your fears and then go out there and find yourself someone nice. I can't tell you the answers, no one can but you.

we put food in the microwave, dial up a time, and boom it's ready.

we think love and relationships should be like that too- hit a certain number age and boom, you're swingin'.

relationships are like cosmic chance, but i'd be naive if i said it wasn't heavily influenced by your fluency around people, the energy you put into flirting and looking good.

so it's like cosmic chance and lipgloss, or aftershave.....

like others said... don't care what others say

maybe indeed you want her but in some sick way hiddin it for yourself

not wantin any form of commitment.. well, that's something you just have to put yourself over...

and not wantin any girl.. ever thought about yourself maybe not bein a heterosexuall or maybe even a-sexuall, not meant as a flame, but it happens...

quote:Originally posted by Tabiba:

we put food in the microwave, dial up a time, and boom it's ready...we think love and relationships should be like that too- hit a certain number age and boom, you're swingin'...

Nicely said!

CarbonB...nothing about your post is weird or unusual. Confusion and uncertainty are the norm in the late teens/early-20s.

Some people are social creatures and seek constant human interaction, prefering "presence" over "quality." Some are less social, and prefer "quality" over "presence."

In the case of your own sexual adventure, you chose professional enlightenment over the labor of building a relationship, since suitable "quality" might not be found in your immediate milieu. Completely reasonable. You successfully avoided all the concomitant problems of "hitting it" with a drunk girl.

Horrors! You might have some maturity in you!

If you thought of that girl as only a friend then you're a decent guy for not fucking and chucking!

You're only sexual experience was with a prostitute...So what?!

A fuck is a fuck the world over mate!

You don't have the desire to commit to a girl, have a relationship or any of that crap...That's okay...I am the same!

Life is what you make of it buddy...If you want soemthing then you have to work towards it.

Your time for relationships and love will come sooner or later...Until then just chill out and enjoy the ride!

It's not that I don't think about having relationships with girls, I would love to have a relationship its just getting from not knowing someone to being comfortable with them is what frightens me.

I am not homosexual, I am heterosexual the thought of male intercourse of even thinking about a man sexually disgusts me.

I think about sex with girls probably as much as the next guy.

I guess I just needed some reinforcement into what I should do, and yall gave me that.

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Wow, that ^ was a pretty good line. No one in history ever thought of that!

maybe you're just gay.

quote:Originally posted by sniper3k3:

maybe you're just gay.

Maybe you're just a dumb trolling bitch.

Congrats on spelling 'you're' right though. I honor that.



Shek

Lol thank you Prince Charming for that backup.

I am posotive I am not gay and to suggest that wouldn't be anything other than ridiculous.