Hello All,

I am nearly 18 and I have had only 1 partner, which started about 3 months ago and Ended recently. We had sex about 6 times.. The first time I belive I had problems with an erection. I am nearly 6.5-7 inches fully erect.

Anyway, Heres the deal. Its been about 1-2 months since I have had intercourse, and I met a girl this week, and she stayed over at my house last nite. Prior to that the last few days we did alot of cuddling and kissing, and I think we are both really attracted to eachother.

Anyway, last nite.. Kissing lead to feeling, Led to hand stimulation, lead to Intercourse, lead to oral, then hand stimulation again and sleep.

The problem I have had though, throughout the entire time I was maybe 40% erect, and as much as I wanted to be able to preform, it just wouldnt get hard.

When I masterbate, I never have this problem.. I can summon the stork without even hardly having to think about it, and go on for hours.

I am wondering what could have happened to cause this, what might be wrong, And if theres anything I could do to prevent it from happening again.

Heres some info you pros might be able to backtrack to.. I had not masterbated for about 5-6days, could this be a cause of what happened last nite?

I have no STD's but due to being uncut I get ocasional infections even with daily cleaning, that i leave untreated.. They usually go away within a couple days, and happen very rarly. Could this be a cause?

Also.. I have a job where I work for a very long time without breaks, and sometimes I have to hold my urine for like an hour+, But it doesnt cause too much discomfort. Could this be a cause?

Because its a new partner, I have only known her for a week.. Could this cause me to be sortof "shy" and not able to preform until I am more comfortable with her?

Should I goto the doctors and have myself checked out, or is this natural.. Caused by ocasional depression I have, or things that have happened this week. (not too bad, but a few crappy things happened to me this last 2 weeks).

Any ideas, suggestions, comments, or solutions would be very helpful guys.. Thank you for your time, and taking it to reply to my measly thread.

<3 you all.

Sincerly,

A friend in need.

Measly thread? More of a respite from drama and controversy. Though it's all good.

Nothing you said sounds unusual. My usual question in this case: are you on any meds such as SSRIs, SDRIs and the like?

Meh, doesn't sound like you have any pressing medical complications either.

I could spew a lot of cliches: you had too much on your mind, you weren't really "into" this girl, you have deep-seated feelings of guilt, ad nauseum...

Try some porno or oysters next time, I guess.

im betting performance anxiety. first time with this girl, only your second partner (correct?). seems like performance anxiety to me. you got nervous. some more experience and time with this chick and you'll be golden.

Not unusual at all... I've had my days, er nights, where my wife & I would want to go at it but my better half just wasn't interested. Could be any number of things... stress, fatigue, just not in the mood. Don't worry about it. Heck I've went limp in the middle of getting a bj simply because I had too much on my mind.

THAT didn't go over very well, btw.