okay, so every guy spanks the monkey from time to time, right? sometimes we do it even if we have a girlfriend. there is nothing like the convenience of self satisfaction after all. my girlfriend, however, is quite offended by the idea that i still do it every now and then, even though we are in a commited relationship with a Very Healthy sex life. comments?

how old are you and your girlfriend?

quote:Originally posted by Yoda's_Left_Nut:

comments?

the bitch needs a slap. and i need a beer.

Why is it that you can always get off easier by yourself than with a girlfriend? That's a question I would like to see answered.

And just a sidebar, if she is not attempting to satisfy(sp?) you sexually what does she expect you to do?

I had a girlfriend for 9 months and NADA!

*finds a drak corner and softly sobs himself to sleep*

i say guys beat off when they have a relation ship so they can notice how good it is when the other poerson does it to them. because if nothing happens cept the other person gettin it off, it becomes the standard, then if you move to a nother relation ship, you get greedy and whatnot. this way, if materbation is done more, its the standard.

Hmmm, upon further consideration...

She probably just feels inadequate, like she's not giving you enough sexual pleasure so you have to resort to pleasuring yourself.

Reassure her, be open about masturbation... let her know that it's not because she's not getting you off enough... it'll help her feel better if you tell her naughty stories about the things you think about when you're jerking it (don't be a fool, tell her you're imagining HER, even if you aren't) and perhaps experiment with her... if you both masturbate in front of each other it might become something she enjoys.

It sounds like she's young and doesn't yet understand male sexuality, how certain things just need to be taken care of at the spur of the moment. She probably just needs you to open up about it so that she can become more comfortable with the idea.

The only way I would understand her being justifiably offended by you jerking it, is if you're jerking off when she's keen on some sex, or wants to give you a blowjob... thus depriving her of the sex/blow.

Otherwise just explain to her how it's your body and there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to pleasure yourself whenever you like.



[This message has been edited by Sarcophagus (edited 09-22-2003).]

I agree with Sarc and everyone else. This bitch is insane. Wank all you want, dude

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

(don't be a fool, tell her you're imagining HER, even if you aren't)

What if he isn't into games?

It is probably the insecurity thing. But some girls like to be controlling. Just tell her you like to cum 4-5 times per day and you did not want to burden her with all that.

-Easy

oh har har

You're right, a good thing to find out, is she controlling? I sort of thought about that... but it freaked me out too much... someone trying to control masturbation? Wowza... that would just be a bit psycho...

So, is she psycho?

quote:Why is it that you can always get off easier by yourself than with a girlfriend? That's a question I would like to see answered.

Girls don't have penises. You've had practice and know what you are doing and know exactly what it feels like, girls have to guess. Also, what works for one guy may not work for another, and only you know what you feel like completely.

On topic, though, the girl's a strange one. I wouldn't mind at all if a guy I was with jacked off, it might even turn me on to think that he was thinking about me.

quote:Originally posted by stephanina:

Why is it that you can always get off easier by yourself than with a girlfriend? That's a question I would like to see answered.

Girls don't have penises. You've had practice and know what you are doing and know exactly what it feels like, girls have to guess. Also, what works for one guy may not work for another, and only you know what you feel like completely.

On topic, though, the girl's a strange one. I wouldn't mind at all if a guy I was with jacked off, it might even turn me on to think that he was thinking about me.

Do you care if we're doing it to porn?

I've been married for nine years and I still whack it. It has nothing to do with not getting any either. My wife and I have pleasurable sex at least 5-7 times a week. I'm not kidding either. We've recently included masturbation into our routine as like a foreplay type of thing. She felt the same way that your describing. With a little explaining, she understands that it doesn't mean anything against her.

Oh yeah, the thing about why it only takes a few minutes to do yourself. I believe that it's do to all the practice that you've gotten. And women are the same way too...they can get themselves off just as quick, they just don't admit it.

quote: And women are the same way too...they can get themselves off just as quick, they just don't admit it. [/B]

I don't see why not...I'll admit it. I'd still masturbate even if I *did* have a boy/girlfriend, I think. Teehee.

it´s great when you wake up at night, find out your girl´s masturbating and you scream "BOOO" ...

mm good advice you all have. i think Lways hit it closest to the mark tho. having asked her in the mean time, she says it makes her feel inadequate in a stupid kind of way. we have sex plenty (4 times per week in a slow week, anywhere up to 4 times a day in a good week). to answer a question posed, i am 24, she is 21. thank y'all for the commentary, and those who suggested i 'slap my bitch' need help or a little more KY... assholes...

quote:Originally posted by EyeSore:

the bitch needs a slap. and i need a beer.

AMEN!

i think i'll have one as well