do any of u remember ur first orgasm? better yet the first time u were fingered? My girlfriend has never been touched before and says it hurts when i use my fingers inside, so i stay on the clit. but she says that she doesnt know what shes supposed to feel. i need help here. i know its not my technique because its always worked before. maybe shes just different from my past girls, but i still want to please her. i think the whole thing may weird her out a little bit, thats y i think if i go down on her, she wont like it just yet. anyone out there who can help me?

Does she masturbate at all?

I mean, if she's letting you finger her than she probably does it herself sometimes. Ask her what feels good when she does it. If she really never has, get her to try it and feel around so that she can begin to get a feel for what she likes.

Stay on the clit at first, while you make out and shit. Just touch real light, no rough stuff. After awhile, this should get her worked up, so if she gets real wet slowly move your finger towards her hole. She should get worked up enough that she'll want you to finger her, and it won't hurt.

First one kinda caught me by surprise. I had the world's best first boyfriend, who I should thank for my freewheelin' attitude toward sex.

After thinking about what others in this forum have said, I've decided that to tell a girl to "relax" is a mistake. An orgasm is all about the build-up of tension. If a girl is advised to relax, it gets confusing.

I copied this from other posts I've made recently:

...Even females who have had orgasms have trouble decribing exactly how it feels. Shodan's gal has no frame of reference. The closest thing that resembles what she's feeling is an urge to urinate. It takes some time and comfort with one's own body responses to "let go."

...I can compare the feeling of "letting go" with that moment of hesitation that comes before diving off a high board into a pool or taking a bungee jump, or making it up on your feet for the first time surfing, or stepping off a plane with only a parachute...

I'll also add that it's a bit like a sneeze. You know that itchy, maddening feeling of needing to sneeze, and the marvelous relief that comes when you get it out? Kinda like that, but to the nth power.

what's with all these chicks having orgasm troubles? i don't mean to be mean, but jesus fuck how dumb are they?! be sure to let her know that she's different and weird and should go live in a box somewhere until she figures out how to please herself

quote:Originally posted by GlitterPunk112358:

what's with all these chicks having orgasm troubles? i don't mean to be mean, but jesus fuck how dumb are they?! be sure to let her know that she's different and weird and should go live in a box somewhere until she figures out how to please herself

I completely agree with you

Tell her female orgasms are a myth and not to worry about it.

well she doesnt masturbate as far as i know. shes very tight, not to be vulgar. she does get wet when we are doing other things, but when i do touch her, nothing.

Vulgar? This forum is basically about fucking. Don't worry about being vulgar.

Convince her to start masturbating.

quote:Originally posted by jack's missing mind:

Convince her to start masturbating.

That's the hardest thing in the world to do. I've been trying to convince my girlfriend for over a year now to start masturbating, but she won't. Whatever...

Heres a tip, tell her that when shes having a bath one day to get the shower head and spray around down there a bit.

She'll proberly say something like 'no way', but it really really works even for someone whos never done anything before. Chances are she'll proberly get curious one day when she is in the bath and give it a try.

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