Okay, heres the deal. My ex-girlfriend's birthday party was last night, Saturday, September 14. I do have feelings for her still, but everytime I try to spend some time with her or talk, she gets mad. She thought last night that I was "chaparoning" her, making sure she wasn't in anything bad. Well, to get to the real topic on hand, at her party, there was pot and alcohol. I don't do drugs, but I was tempted to drink, so I did. STUPID MISTAKE. Sarah (my ex) was still pissing me off because she was taking the above said the wrong way. I just wanted to get her back. But somewhere in the drunken madness, I got so mad I pushed her on the ground, hurting her arm and back. Now literally EVERYONE wants to kill me. I'm NOT a violent person at all. I never meant to hurt her. Especially her. No matter how much I'd ever want to hurt anyone, I never could, because it goes against what I believe in. Theres no point in senseless violence. Now I swear Straight Edge for the rest of my life. And I have a big problem at hand. Does anyone have any POSITIVE suggestions for me? Don't come here with a pissed off, un-empathetic attitude, please. I really need help, or I'll never get Sarah back, I'll get the shit beat outta me, and I'll lose all my friends. PLEASE, HELP!!!

Brent, here is what I think you should do...

First off, in your situation, some would feel compelled not to attend school tomorrow. Don't do this. It will make you seem like you have things to hide. What I think you should do is go to your school conselour first thing in the morning. Tell them you need to discuss the situation now, and they should be helpful. If things go as planned, they will take her out of class and have some sort of "mediation" time between the two of you. Hopefully she'll get over it, and when her friends see that she isn't upset at you anymore, they shouldn't be either.

thanx a lot Anne! I'll try that tommorow.

Anytime. I hope it all goes well. I also hope that somebody else has an idea before the night is over, so that you'd have multiple options.

Lol, no offense but i started laughing after what you did to her. Your chances of getting back with her are 1 in 100. The best thing you can do is apologize to her on the phone or in person and say you were drunk and you couldn't control yourself. But i don't think she will get back with you even then, unless she's one of those really stupid girls... You aren't getting back with her...it's the sad truth, sorry to say it :/ I'm not trying to diss you, either. I'm just not sugarcoating it.

Yeah, I understand. I'm still gonna try. Cuz now I think I have the answer. I'm gonna be as happy as hell tommorow to EVERYONE! Theyre gonna be so confused while making useless threats, that theyre gonna be mad at me being happy instead of being mad at me for what I did. I know I didnt mean to do it. Thats all that matters. I know I can get everyone to understand that I would never do harm to anyone. then when theyre mad at me being happy ill just say, "What, are you mad about me being happy? Is it so wrong? No, I'm not ignoring the fact that what I did was wrong. But I know that I would never hurt anyone in any physical way. I can prove to you all that it'll never happen again. It was the alcohol that pushed her on the ground. Not me. Think about that for a little while before you attempt to attack me again."

That's a good way to go about things. Good idea, be sure to let us know how it goes, ok?

quote:Originally posted by crackcityrocker:

Yeah, I understand. I'm still gonna try. Cuz now I think I have the answer. I'm gonna be as happy as hell tommorow to EVERYONE! Theyre gonna be so confused while making useless threats, that theyre gonna be mad at me being happy instead of being mad at me for what I did. I know I didnt mean to do it. Thats all that matters. I know I can get everyone to understand that I would never do harm to anyone. then when theyre mad at me being happy ill just say, "What, are you mad about me being happy? Is it so wrong? No, I'm not ignoring the fact that what I did was wrong. But I know that I would never hurt anyone in any physical way. I can prove to you all that it'll never happen again. It was the alcohol that pushed her on the ground. Not me. Think about that for a little while before you attempt to attack me again."



Nah just bring your dads .357 and start spittin at dem bitches.

He's clearly stated how anti violent he is...

I hope you get everyone to relize what really happened then...but dont blame it all on the liquor, thats gonna make things worse.

true, its not all the alcohol. it was my dumb fault to let myself stoop that low. but im gonna make up for it. big time.

Problem solved, partially.

All the people that threatened, it turns out, were big pussies and made empty threats. The only thing that happened was me getting pushed into my locker, which was only like an inch or two, no damage done, just kinda stupid. They'll see that because they're so pissed off, that they're so stupid to even do this. If they EVER get the opportunity to fight me, I'll prove to them and everyone around that they're stupid for fighting, and I'll prove them wrong. I mean, one of the kids didn't even show up at school. The other was the one that pushed me into my locker. The other goes to another school, and my friends here are friends of his, and they say that they'll work it out with him. And to top it off, I laughed at them and smiled at everyone all day. It turns out more people are pissed off at them or don't know or don't care than pissed off at me. And I was worried? Fuck, man. I guess I was just over-reacting!

I have it under control. No worries! STUPID FUCKING PUSSIES! HA! Lol!

[This message has been edited by crackcityrocker (edited 09-15-2003).]

Good approach to the situation, then. I'm glad to hear it went well.