Hi all, I was just looking for some opinions on this well here it goes:

Last night our highschool had a party, It was alright at first, people just meeting up, hanging out in the groups...the usual. I was meeting friends and what not, checkin out girls until about the last 45 minutes. This girl I knew, Lacey we'll call her, I met her through a friend, and I knew she had some problems, family problems, drug problems and so on. Well we were friends and I was just hanging out with her and then suddenly she starts grinding with me, so i go with the flow and just kinda follow through. Sometimes she would hug me or something like that. So it was time to leave and i left, and i was happy but then the shit started to happen. I was proud of myself, hey i grinded with a girl, yay! but what happened this morning i was talking to my other friend and she gave me the 411. People were all talking about it, unbeknownst to me, her old school really didn't like her that much, she tried to get suicide to get attention and she was considered really annoying. So she tells me 5 of her friends called her and told her about it. and then 12 people online told her aswell. And so now i have a bad reputation in just the beginning of the school year. I am already not doing the best in grades, and i am trying to bring up my self-esteem, and now i have a bad-rep, just when my social life was really good. Any suggestions? Lacey really likes me, but i really don't know how to sort out everything, from telling her that i just got really pulled into it, to, clearing up that night, and fixing my reputation. please i need some help

At least they don't think your a gay aphrodite.

dont give a fuck about what other people think thats the best advice i can give

all i can say is in 5 years you'll probs be wonderin how you could ever have worried about a thing like this

And in five years, we can all come back and have a good laugh. That doesn't really help you now, does it?

If people are going to look down your nose at you for dancing with a fucked up girl at a party, then forget they exist. If you dated a girl that had stabbed her last four boyfriends and they all thought you were an idiot, that would make more sense, but different rules apply at a party. Fuck them.

That doesn't mean you should necessarily go after her. I had a girl who was seriously fucked up have a crush on me in high school, but I just kind of played along without ever really doing anything with her. Part of that is because I was an idiot with girls, but a very big factor was that I knew little good could come of it. If you decide to get involved with her, chances are some shit will fall in your lap that you don't want to deal with. (When that many people get talking, facts get skewed, but there's almost always a seed of truth hidden in everything that's said.)

If you're iffy on this girl, and would just be going out with her because then you'd be going out with somebody, not because you really like her, avoid this situation. At most, hang out with her a couple of times and see where her head is at. Just don't do anything because you feel bad for her.. sometimes, a positive influence can be what it takes to turn someone around, but very rarely is that influence a new boyfriend.

shes sounds like damaged goods to me, IMO.

quote:Originally posted by Flamin_Pyro:

dont give a fuck about what other people think thats the best advice i can give

And it's sound advice. Easier said than done in the vicious social milieu of high school.

Ok, Hammer, this is sticky. Acknowledge that. Did you have fun at the party? If so, when gossip comes back to you, laugh it off. Tell people "so what?" and suggest perhaps they get a life of their own. But don't be a dick about it. Keep it light and breezy. It was a party, for chrissakes.

And about Lacey...decide on your own if you like her. It can be a chore to deal with people who have baggage, and it's a bit much to expect of a teenager, so you're not a bad person if you don't return her affections. Again, "light and breezy" is the way to go.

But try not to worry about things so much. Someone else at school will inevitably do something foolish in the next week or two, and your "social transgression" will be forgotten.

quote:Originally posted by Flamin_Pyro:

dont give a fuck about what other people think thats the best advice i can give

Listen to this guy, dude...Always live by these words of extreme wisdom: SCREW 'EM!!!

How the hell were you supposed to know she was a wacko?!

Just do your thing man...Get your grades up, work on your self esteem even though you sound like a pretty cool fella and if you wanna date "Lacey" then go for it...Live your life how you want mate!

Good luck buddy!

Although I don't really know this girl, people like that are a pain to date. I dated this girl for a while, and her family was on welfare. As well, her mom worked as a whore, and her dad used to abuse them.

I don't advise doing it.

yeah dude my g/f had a REALLY bad rep before i started going out with her. like everyone thought she was a slut and shit, but now no one says anything, cos she really kinda turned around. and the only reason we werent over in 2 weeks was because i didnt give a fuck what everyone else said, like "oh shes just a slut, shes gonna screw you over" or any shit like that. if people are going to jump all over you just because of who you're friends with, and dont even take the time to get to know you, fuck em. you dont want to know them. thats what ive done all through high school, and its worked out great (plus i have plenty of friends). so just go with the flow, and do what you want to do only because you want to do it.

...forget what the last two characters just said, the best sex they'll ever get is with their hand.

as for the advice on just forgetting what other people say, it's a fact of life. it don't matter what your social status is. looka me, i'm probably the MOST hated guy in my school, but i also have the most respect. why? 'cause i quit takin' shit from dumb idiots with lives that revolved around booz, chew, and playin' stupid sports like hockey and baseball (not to say they aren't cool to watch. but to play... makes a person socially stupid). if you learn to pick the right friends, they'll joke about crap but they'll accept your decision. unless they all unanymously agree that the decision is a piss-poor one, then i suggest you have a look at your options. yes, some girls have a load to deal with, and i say "deal with it without involving me". sure, i'll give'em flowers n' chocolates n' other old-school romantic crap. but i'll also bug'em -nicely- about their problems. fact of life: everyone has problems. one of my biggest problems is that i'm naturally depressed due to genetics. but if you see me at school you merely see a psychotic little freak bent on destruction disorder and chaos. anyway, it doesn't matter if the babe has the world on her shoulders and needs help scratchin' her nose or whatever you want to put that as. everyone needs help, even the suicidal-but-pretty gals

Shalakai

Ghandi was an ADD-child

the only person you should ever worry about liking you is yourself yea it is difficult but if you do like this girl go after it if not dont toy with her all ready damaged emotions(even tho she did jump on you but you went along with it and ive seen people think someone likes it because of that) it just wouldnt be right if you dont like her dont just drop it on her do it slowly or something

i can't believe i just read that, who the fuck cares what other people think

Wow, bad rep for dancing with a girl? Usually bad reps come when you are gone with her for long periods of time with no explaination. But dancing? Your friends are retards. Really. Hot flaming retards.

I would just say fuck all those "friends" of yours. If they care because you danced with a girl who was unpopular and had some issues, they are the ones with the problem. That may sound like some shit from 7th Heaven, but I'm serious. Don't abuse the girl (verbally, physically) to try to show that you don't care for her. Just go on with your life.

If all your friends abandon you and everybody hates you, then they honestly aren't worth your time. If the girl is really hot, you might as well just do her in that case.

I say you be the judge whether or not she deserves your attention, not everyone else (christ I hated high-school BULLSHIT). If she's not a complete psycho (and annoying like everyone says) and you like her, go with it. If not, let it be.

Either way, just plainly tell everyone that you didn't know her past when it happened and how could you? An honest high school food-chain mistake on your part. Nothing more you can say, and isn't it the truth?

yeah we got some really fucked up people at my school, but thanks for the suggestions guys!

hey if your stuck with the image might as well milk it for all its worth and get with her as much as you can.