thers this girl iv had a crush on for literally like 3 years now, shes a year younger than me and im like her best friend, she tells me tons of shit and when i try to get people to just ask her about what she feels about me she says shit about all this friendship crap, "like ooo were too good of friends..." i need some answers here people....



-Thanx in advance

Hm. Stating the obvious, she wants to be your friend, nothing more. Give it up and look for someone that you can be with how you want to be with them.

Exactly, you played it on the friend bit way to long.

She doesn't look at you in a romantic way and probably never will. This means that you can just be her friend.

Maybe you are only attracted to her becuase she is your friend and you haven't ventured out yet into the world to explore all the untapped resources of women.

Meaning, get out there and hang around with more girls and maybe don't hang around her so much since you can't hook up with girls if when she is around you, she is the only thing your thinking about.

All coed friendships are just failed or neutered sexual ones. You are not her friend. Tell her that.

She's placed you in the "friendship zone" and a promotion to the "sexual zone" is very unlikely...It HAS happened before but 9 imes out of 10 it won't happen.

The way i see it you have 2 choices:

1) Continue being her friend and move onto someone else sex wise.

You will always have a friend but will not be able to be with her as more than that for the forseeable future.

Or

2) Tell her you don't want to be friends anymore...That you'd like to try the more than friends thing.

This is more risky as you can lose a friend and get nothing in the way you wanted.

From the way she talks, I myself would prefer the first option...It's better to have a friend then risk that friendship for the sake of having a girlfriend!

Also, you never know...Moving on to another girl COULD make her jealous and want you in the way you originally wanted...It's happened before!

Good luck buddy!

well the only reason why is stuck it out, was this one time we got really drunk and we made out and shit, i dont know if she was just wasted or not but...

quote:Originally posted by AddGanj:

well the only reason why is stuck it out, was this one time we got really drunk and we made out and shit, i dont know if she was just wasted or not but...

dude i feel you. i have been in the EXACT same situation. what happened with me is that she supposedly liked me but made out with other guys...abyway...after she went through some time where her friends treated her bad, i stayed there and we made out at parties, but never admitted we liked each other sober....chances are, like i was told...she doesn't know what you think and is afraid you won't like HER anymore if she told you. either wair and get her to tell yo at a party or get some balls and ask. I waited....hope you're braver than i was

good luck bro

psycho is funny, he reminds of George from Seinfeld.

As to the original muthafucker, haven't you seen any of the 1000s of teen movies out? The best friend of the hot girl never gets her, and at the end he has to come to terms with that and help her get the guy she likes.

Its simple, sucka!

You've let the relationship progress too much into friendship. People often suggest being friends with a girl before you date her, but they don't clarify how good of a friend. Like, say there is a scale. 10 is best friend, and 1 is acquanitce/barely remembers your name. You want to be 4-5.

Thats how it is. Say you have a best friend(male), and he was a really cool guy in your opinion when you first met him .When you become good friends, he doesn't seem incredibly cool, he just seems like your best friend. Thats kinda how it is with hot girls/girls you are attracted to.