I know there are a lot of these topics...sorry

Anyway, there is a girl I like at school. I don't talk to her. She doesn't really know me really...

I don't really know how i'm viewed by girls at school, but I can guess 99% of it is negative, purely because of physical reason.

I'm asking for some tips, if you don't mind, on letting her know I like her...

I mean, subtle hints...I couldn't bring myself to talking to her, i'd have a breakdown.

I want to look at her, and when she looks at me, look away. I know it's pathetic, but I was wondering what I could do once i'd looked away?...like, just look at the floor and look miserable?...stuff like that to give off hints.

Sorry :/

[This message has been edited by Breath-In-Bleed-Out (edited 09-07-2003).]

There's one thing i'd like to say...

The chances of her liking me are increased slightly by the fact my school is full of wiggers and teggars. She's one of the very few alternative/gothy stereotypes at school, we both have a similar music taste...

grow a set of balls man. jesus. if you like her, talk to her. fate rewards the bold.

Just wank this time.

If all you want is for her to know you like her, she probably already knows.

If you want her to like you, and you can't rely on charm and good looks, the direct approach is probably not going to work. That being since you have no confidence. In that case, you are going to have to start by first, getting her attention, second, creating mystery, and third, sending mixed signals. You have to make her think about you and that means you can't be boring. BTW, nice and shy all the time is boring.

-Easy

listen to this i liked this girl in study hall and i didnt think i could talk to her so i took my note book and in big letters i wrote HI and it went along and now we goin out

just learn to get around wut you think you cant there is always a way and dont think about how you look it dont matter why are people so centered on how they look every one thinks they are fat even my girlfriend and she is skinny but i like to hold her

just get around it and try to talk to her

what good does it do if she knows you like her but you can't talk to her?

and i thought relationship is based on communication...

(o wait...don't listen to me...what the fuck would i know...)

Just be like, "Yo bitch, you want to hop on these nuts?" Seriously, you can either ask her or try to kiss her. Embarassing, yes.

This definatly isn't just a physical/lust thing...She just seems like a really nice person and I'd really love to get to know her.

Although I don't know her too well, I know she's really nice. I had a few lessons with her and stuff a while ago...she just seemed really nice. She isn't very openly social, she has a select group of freind's (like me) and one of my best freind's is freinds with her best freind (confusing), so there is a social connection to us, even if it is small. I see her pretty much everyday, and hopefully, I think i'm in her art class this year. (I go back to school on Wednesday)

Having recently proclaimed myself The Most Charming Motherfucker Alive, I think I can at least try to help you out.

You've gotta be yourself. Now, for me, when I talk to girls, I'm cracking jokes all the time. It just comes naturally to me, I don't even think about it. That's what works for me.

But you have to find out what your gig is, and the only way you can find out is by talking to dames. Also, you can't have false intentions. If you really want to get to know her better, great. Let that be known, in subtle and not so subtle ways. I mean, I'm never thinking about fucking a broad when I'm talking to her. I'm thinking about how to get her talking. They can tell if you are just being a guy.

But, like I said, you've gotta find youself your gig. If you both like the same music, talk about that. That should give you an opening, at least. WHen you take it from there, though, is entirely up to you, and nobody can help you with it.

BTW, someone remind me to tell the tale of how I got to the The Most Charming Motherfucker Alive sometime.

As a girl i can give you a few pointers. Eye contact is good, look, make contact, smile, look away and look back smile again.

Girls also go for confidence. And if she knows you at all, any slight increase in confidence whether through sheer will power or not should help. The idea of a note is good also. You just need to talk to her and take things from there. You don't need to let her know straight away. Just talk and chat away till youre positive and you've got some idea of how she feels about you.

All the pointers i can think of right now. Good luck!

Goddamn, I'm beginning to sound like a member of the Rat Pack.

Nothing says "I like you alot" as much as "Hey crap face, who luvs ya baby?!?!"

But seriously, just tell her dude!

You can't write her pathetic little notes or smile at her alot...She won't know properly.

So my advice is to tell her man!

Thanks for the advice guys...

I'm really shy though...I'll wait a while longer and see if I come out of my shell.

And I really honestly do genuinly want to get to know her better..and hopefully get quite close to her. Sex isn't an issue...i'm not even looking for a kiss.

That came out totally wrong...

What I mean is, i'm almost 15 years old, I've never had a girlfreind, I've never kissed anyone, I've never really allowed myself to be close to anyone. Although kissing would be brilliant, and so would sex, I'm just not really too bothered. I'd rather just be close to someone if you know what I mean. Just cuddling up to someone when I'm feeling crap, or just knowing that at the end of the day, however bad it is, someone will be there and make you feel better...

quote:Originally posted by Breath-In-Bleed-Out:

That came out totally wrong...

What I mean is, i'm almost 15 years old, I've never had a girlfreind, I've never kissed anyone, I've never really allowed myself to be close to anyone. Although kissing would be brilliant, and so would sex, I'm just not really too bothered. I'd rather just be close to someone if you know what I mean. Just cuddling up to someone when I'm feeling crap, or just knowing that at the end of the day, however bad it is, someone will be there and make you feel better...

Welcome to my world. That is how i've been feeling for 3 years now. I plan to feel that way for at least 10 more years, until I get my Phd and open up my own psychology office.

If I were you, I'd hang in there, complete your studies, and then look for a mate.

Im 15 too (nearly 16). I'm sort of like you, and i haven't had a girl for a long time. My only proper girl was about just over a year ago and it took me long enough to ask her out...and to my absolute surprise she said yes. It's great, so get to know her and just go for it!

WUT HE SAID I THINK

dude, words from the wise: go up to her and "introduce" yourself

words of me: put on a cup and "introduce" yourself

words of albert einstein (dunno how to spell his last name): E = M C squared

Shalakai

My god, you are young.

So your friend is friends with a friend of her, or something. Ask him to introduce you to her. He will ask his friend and she will tell her. When she hears you want to meet her, naturally, she will realise you are interested.

And don't worry-all the girls are flattered when someone (anyone) finds them attractive. They crave attention.

So you have no looks. I have friends who look like Bob Dylan on a rainy day, yet they still get major pussy. You know why? The big number rule. The more you try, better your chances. My quota is three out of ten. Your may be at 1 out of 50 now, but as soon you start working on your confidence and approach, your chances will get better.

Consider this:

My friend stood in front of a club one night and asked EVERY SINGLE GIRL who walked past him if she wants to fuck. Pretty lame, right? 27, count them, twenty seven girls told him what a loser he is. Some even slapped him. But, number 28 said yes. Why? The big number rule.

Anyway, look: the world is coming apart. Terrorists are taking over. We are losing the ozon layer at a progressing rate. Deseases are killing millions of people every month.

Take a fucking chance!

You have to start talking to her. Dont let her know you like her untill you have formed some form of casual friendship with her. Either say hi one day, talk to her in the lunch line or whatever. Or if your too shy, try and get her email address. Then you can chat to her on msn or whatever and get over the 'meeting her' barrier. Good luck.

while we are on the subject.. this is gona make me sound like such a pussy but oh well...

i like this girl really well, i know her, im m8s with her and her friends etc. i even work with her (government project at 13).I fancy her and i think she knows. Im not that shy boiut much as i can talk to her fine and even ask (jokingly) if she wants a shag (btw she said yeah jokingly). All her m8s say we should go out but i cant bring myslef to ask her in case she says no, which i think is probable seeing as i aint had a gf even tho i went and ingered sum pussy at a club 1 night.. man i need ed that. any hints?

i really cant bring myself to ask dammit

I know exactly how you feel B&B. I'm sort of in the same position. Theres this girl at school, around a close knitted group of friends all the time. See the main obstacle is how nerve wrecking it is just to approach. We stutter, why? because we worry. When we think about something that is important to us, our brains begin to pump out idea. What if she doesnt like me? What if i screw up? etc. Think of it this way, most girls (as said above) will be flattered that someone likes them at all. All you need is some faith. Ever done that trust falling exercise? close your eyes, and trust your friend to catch you. Think of it as a blind step. As unnerving as it may be, once you touch that ground, you feel like the biggest winner in the world. All you have to do is just try and talk to her.

17.. 17 years.. no one ever here for me (relationship wise) Oh, I've had friends that were girls, most are. But noone have said yes. They' rather keep me as a good friend.. yet all say that every girl should like me because of my gentleman-ness, nice, etc etc. so forth and so on;. Hey man, I've waited around, sitting on my ass. Don't be like me, take a chance, I've taken them and walked back in defeat, but one day the perfect person will fall into your arms, maybe this is your chance. You may come out with a GF, or you may come out with a very good lifelong friends. Just don't get to many of them kinds lol.

You gotta love the lady folk.

Watch her for a few days, gather data, and find the best approuch. The logical way is the best way.