My girlfriend and I were... trying to have sex last night for the first time, and this morning, and a couple of hours ago, but we couldn't do it. I was almost completely unable to get it in. When I did, it either fell out almost immediately, or I was unable to get any sort of rhyhm going (admitedly, I wasn't completely hard but...)I was able to get three fingers in, but only with great difficulty.

If she were a virgin, then I wouldn't even be wondering about it, but she's not. She's had sex with at least two other peole before me.

She doesn't seem to be nervous or anythign like that, but she did just start using this birth control patch. I'm curious as to whether or not the hormones that the patch releases could possibly make her tighter?

Also, as previoulsy mentioned, I was having trouble keeping it up. I was a little bit nervous (once again, for anyone in the world who doesn't know, I'm a virgin) but even so thats never really happened to me before. She suggested that maybe it was because the condom was kinda small (which it was. It was a bitch to get on, especialyl since I'm not used to it) and was cutting off ciruatlion but that seems kinda odd to me for some reason.

Anyway, any advice on either of these two problems would be much appreciated.

Thanks.

No. There are no products currentlty available that do that. It's not that they need it anyway. It's not like the pussy keeps getting bigger. Look at it like this...if a woman's cooch stretched to accomodate say, a man with a 9 inch penis, that happened to be 4 inches wide. Anyone who slept with her after that wouldn't have a prayer in staying in without falling out. Hey...this is good, what about when they give birth. It's not like their cooches stay that freakin huge. They stretch, then return to normal size. And by the way, 3 fingers?? Holy shit bro, were you performing a papsmear??

I have the exact same problem with condoms. Once you can get it in and going you'll stay real hard though. Lots of fingering, tell her to masterbate too.



Shek

I'll tell you what I've told the other 3 thousand people.

Don't masturbate before sex for 24 hours or more.

Get her horny.

Get her wet.

Use lube.

Don't think too hard.

Use your instincts.

If that type of condom is too small, buy a different brand.

Sex is quite primitive. It's a wander how people can have so many problems.

If you could finger her with 3 fingers I have a feeling it's you more than her. If your dick isn't rock solid, you'd expect to have a hard time getting it in. Be hard! Maybe it just wasn't your day, keep trying. You gotta get it sometime. Good luck.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

I'll tell you what I've told the other 3 thousand people.

Don't masturbate before sex for 24 hours or more.

Get her horny.

Get her wet.

Use lube.

Don't think too hard.

Use your instincts.

If that type of condom is too small, buy a different brand.

Sex is quite primitive. It's a wander how people can have so many problems.

If you could finger her with 3 fingers I have a feeling it's you more than her. If your dick isn't rock solid, you'd expect to have a hard time getting it in. Be hard! Maybe it just wasn't your day, keep trying. You gotta get it sometime. Good luck.

1) I hadn't for three days.

2) She was I know because,

3) she was.

4) Good idea.

5) Don't know how.

6) Read six.

7) We tried Trojans, Durex, and Lifestyles. The lifestyles weren't horrible. I mean, at least I could get it on, but I've heard so many horror stories about those. I know it sounds really arrogant, but I was debating trying the magnum ones, but I really don't think I'm that big and that just seems like a stupid thing to do for some reason.

"Sex is quite primitive. It's a wander how people can have so many problems."

Because we're all idiots, and I mean that.

"If you could finger her with 3 fingers I have a feeling it's you more than her."

I have very thin fingers. Three of mine are less than the width of my dick, and it was REALLY really difficult to get them in.

I know, I know it seems like I'm trying to place the blame on her, but she said so herself that she hadn't been that tight since her first time.

shove it in there. seriously. what else could we tell you? you could request that she stretch gradually with her fingers, but it'll take less time if you just get really hard and shove your cock up her pussy. Also, I've never understood guys not being able to get hard enough. My past boyfriends have had raging hard-ons from just general kissing, groping, whatnot. Is she ugly? Does she not know how to please you?

quote:Originally posted by GlitterPunk112358:

shove it in there. seriously. what else could we tell you? you could request that she stretch gradually with her fingers, but it'll take less time if you just get really hard and shove your cock up her pussy. Also, I've never understood guys not being able to get hard enough. My past boyfriends have had raging hard-ons from just general kissing, groping, whatnot. Is she ugly? Does she not know how to please you?

Your right of course, that there isn't really much you guys can do. Mainly I was hoping other people had been in a similar situation and that they had any thoughts on the matter and I guess partially venting on a problem that I realize isn't terribly significant.

No, she's not ugly. That's not the problem. Mojo's probably right in that is me somehow.

Oh well.

Buy Magnums. If they don't fit right, you spent a couple of dollars but it's worth a try if all those other kinds didn't fit you right.

No, I've had my share of sex problems, ok well not really. It was a general statement, not directed at you. It just made me think of all the people that write to Dr. Ruth or come on here and ask where they 'stick it in'.

Lube will let your fingers go in easier. Maybe she doesn't produce enough natural lubricant. I remember sometimes my ex went overboard with the lube and there wasn't enough friction. I could hardly feel him. I'm sure it would have a better effect on a girl that is really tight and needs it.

If you are really in the moment, thinking won't come until the morning after. Although the odds of you getting passionate and in the moment your first time are quite slim. Just try to use your dick and not your brain. No worries.

Thank you.

Its you, somethings wrong with your penis. i bet you 100000$$ that i could get mine in.

Relax. Make sure that she's wet and if you're too nervous to get a hard on wait, make out some more, mess around, and get more comfortable. Then when your ready, have her help you guide your penis into her vagina, try doing it slowly rather than just ramming it in there, if at first you don't succeed try again perhaps at a slightly different angle, there is nothing wrong with asking her for a little assistance for your first few times.

It hurts at first, yeah, but Glitter's advice is good. Just shove it up there. You have to be hard first, of course. A floppy dick just won't cooperate.

quote:Originally posted by Bliizzard:

Its you, somethings wrong with your penis. i bet you 100000$$ that i could get mine in.

i could too

It's the hole on top, not the one on the bottom .

Try the jaws of life!

Or just get her to put it in...say "it's too dark...put it in for me babe!"

Worked for me in my early days of shagging!

i had the same problem with the condom thing, and we have to use magnums or else it just plain hurts my dick. the magnums aren't loose either so i don't have to worry about it fallin off, its nice and snug. just go and buy them, they'll be better.

also if you wern't hard, just loosen up and try and not be nervous/worried. only one time has that happened to me and it was when we were tryin new positions and stuff. i felt like shit, but its never happened again.

lube works wonders as well. just get some KY and apply generously.

most importantly: have fun and enjoy it!

quote:Originally posted by pixie_stix:

Relax. Make sure that she's wet and if you're too nervous to get a hard on wait, make out some more, mess around, and get more comfortable. Then when your ready, have her help you guide your penis into her vagina, try doing it slowly rather than just ramming it in there, if at first you don't succeed try again perhaps at a slightly different angle, there is nothing wrong with asking her for a little assistance for your first few times.

Great advice, I wish someone had told me all that a few months ago, wouldn't have been embarrassed so many times with my girl...

Hey Jack try fingering her and then using a finger, place it against your dick to help guide it in . Then insert as far as you can and could it for a bit and adjust to where you feel comfortable. Then slowly start moving dem hips and go to town.

Get the KY warming liquid for lube... my girl loves it.

The Vagina is like an elastic if you jam somthing big in there it will be pain full (just imagine some on jaming a cucumber in your ass it is possible but would be painful) so it needs conditioning .. much like a body builder .. just work at it possible mutual masterbation could solve your problem for the time being.. until you feel that she is not so 'tight' or you could penitrate now but use lubrication but use it spairingly .. not so much that your like grease lightning but enough to allow easy access and high senstivity

As for you not reaching a full erection there could be many reasons..

one could be physical (bloods being blocked to your penis)

or it could be mental were there could be some psycological reason why your body doesn't want to you may think shes hot but there could be a guilt trip some were or somthing that is telling you this isn't right

there's also the shyness factor if your a vigin you are scared because this is your first time performing

there are to many reasons to list but if you want to retain a good erection i sugesst you look into what is called a cock ring ... but when putting on the ring make sure to use plenty of lube

Quick Lesson

The penis is like a spoungy tissue when you are aroused the blood flows to the tissue you and in a way "soaks it up" producing an erection the purpose of the cock ring is to allow blood to flow into the penis but to reduce the amount that exits allowing harder and more prolonged erections



Happy Fucking

-warweed12

try eating her out first, to get her all wet, combine, eating w/ fingering, to wet it, and stretch it, then insert penis.

Good Luck

fuck i wish i had your problem, but not your impotence

I would say that if you are having trouble getting it up.

Ask her if she can go down on you for alittle bit to see if that helps, then after that have her get ontop of you and be ontop and go down on your dick, maybe her bodyweight will help with the situation and her ability to guide.

This might be a better solution since if its your first time the ackwardness of trying to be on your knees and guiding is not easy. It's an obtained skill.