it seems that every day im getting more shy and its giving me a bad reputation I havnt got any girls for a long time because of that and i dont even talk to girls that often, i hear from friends that girls think im good looking but if a girl talks to me and i dont seem to talk very much then she will end up ditchin me, what can i do?

Well I hope you get some good replies, I don't even have any friends where I am. I'll be back, I have to start from scratch for the 3rd time.

find other shy people.. then you lackin will be a lot less noticed.

or get drunk to overcome it...

Just be happy people will talk to you, then you avoid that whole starting a converstation.

I've got two words for alcohol and oh um alcohol. I'm usually a pretty shy guy when i'm not with my friends but when i'm drunk at parties i can't stop talking to girls it flows perfectly. Then when you see the chic at school you have something to talk about also. Also take a couple shots before school that should open you up to the ladies pretty well. If that doesn't work your just weird.

Go to a mall or something, spend all day there, and smile and say "hi" to 200 women. It's much easier when you know it's not going anywhere and they don't really have a chance to reject you. Your confidence should increase. Next time you do it, try to start a small conversation with 3 of them that will be no longer than 30 seconds. Keep increasing things till you have all the confidence you need.

-Easy

quote:Originally posted by LBCcool:

Also take a couple shots before school that should open you up to the ladies pretty well.

Umm, no.

I hope you don't have any alcoholics in the family.

i use to say hey to everyone at that mall and wonderland...maybe somthin bad happened and changed me?but my dad is also very shy so im probly just hereditary and the acohol thing wouldn't work at school and most girls dont like a guy that has to be drunk to talk to them

[This message has been edited by Dmac (edited 09-05-2003).]

Talk more!

Oh the doom and gloom that shyness can bring.

No-one to talk to, no-one to hold.

My favorite place to be is in my room all alone. At least by being alone so much you get time to contemplate as much as you want. But if you wanna cuddle up or get your dick sucked your out of luck.

I find the worst thing is when a girl likes you and you like her, but because you feel so uncomfortable you give of negative signals that confuse the fuck outta them. They think you don't like them. Imagine liking someone who feels uncomfortable coz they think you don't like them.

Other people think you don't like them and so they start being mean in order to intimidate you. If they make you feel inferior you'll be too scared to pose any threat, when it turns out you'd never pose any threat anyway.

Man, I can handle me being uncomfortable, but I hate being the cause of someone else's

discomfort.

Blah blah, yes i suffer the spoils of shyness. Plenty of people tell me I'm cool but it doesn't help. I guess I know how much a person can hurt you and so I stay away.

[This message has been edited by ---Beany--- (edited 09-05-2003).]

I know what ya mean man. I'm like you. Get shy around the chicks. But compared to me, you're lucky. You've had a girlfriend before. But anyway, just try and be yaself. Even if that is shy, still do it. But when you do get shy around a chick, just don't be a dickhead if ya do get to talk. That's the best I can give ya man.

quote:Originally posted by LBCcool:

Also take a couple shots before school that should open you up to the ladies pretty well. If that doesn't work your just weird.

You are indeed a fuck up.

If a girl talks to you, start asking her questions about herself, what she does, etc. That way, you don't have to say much, but the conversation continues. You'll also get a good notion of whether she's interesting or not, which you can't do as well if you're running your mouth.

^ True. Last night I was out drinking. Shit loads of people were talking to me all night and I barely said anything.

I like listening to what other people have to say.

Smoke a bowl and then have conversation, you will not be shy, don't worry i used to be shy also, I just grew out of it.