my longtime girlfriend and I are looking to try something new in the bedroom. we're both extremely open, and willing to talk about it first, so that isnt a problem. the problem is that we cant really think of anything (which I admit, IS pathetic, but you know...). we HAVE tried things before, but its been a while since anything NEW. we were thinking of simply tying hands (with a scarf, or some other soft cloth), but we still would appriciate any other suggestions.

also, I'll give you a little view of what we've already tried, so I dont end up just saying "done it, tryed that" etc:

-blindfolding

-ice

-chocolate body-paint

-every position you can name

-dom/sub (which we both really like)

so you get the idea. suggestions centralized especially around dom/sub is what we're looking for (we like taking turns doing both, so that broadens things a little).

thanks everyone.

Goats. Add some goats and horses, always fun.

quote:Originally posted by onasis:

Goats. Add some goats and horses, always fun.

go away. I want real answers.

With your history of 'sub/dom' & 'blindfolding' I would think you guys would get a thrill of tying each other up.

http://www.totse.com/bbs/Forum4/HTML/004248.html

What have you done as dom/sub? There is so much you can do, but it is really up to the dom to make it up.

-Easy

quote:Originally posted by Easy Going:

http://www.totse.com/bbs/Forum4/HTML/004248.html

What have you done as dom/sub?



I just finished reading that. mostly, just me holding her wrists out while doing things. being more agressive than usual. simply being on top, in certain ways.

Hmm... My topic should be archived, holds some good information.

Anyways, I'm newer than you I am sure. Have you considered maybe public places? That can add a ton of eroticness[sp] I think...

Shek

If you want to get started in kink, tease and denial is probably the way to go. Bondage of course should be used for this. Things like pain and humiliation come later if at all. You can always try anal sex too.

-Easy

quote:Originally posted by Easy Going:

You can always try anal sex too.

-Easy

oh, thats old news for us.

as far as pain goes, shes been asking for more biting lately.

edit: ACK!! editing my edit. nevermind. fuck, I'm a dumbass.

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you could try some role playing...

i did a scenario with my girlfriend a few weeks ago, before she left, in which she was a prostitute and i was the guy paying her. she wore a wig and some different makeup. then you can expand from there. meet in a totally new place, like rent a room at a hotel, and have her meet you there. then you have total control of what you guys do. you can make her do whatever you want, oral, anal, positions, etc. you can get really into it, and make her take a bath in front of you before hand. make her touch herself. you can demean (sp?) her.

you can try rape situations. i've done tons of hardcore rape situations. one time, i even put a (dull) knife to her neck. she really loved that.

bondage is always a fun direction to move in. there are so many things you can do with it. EG wrote a really good story about how to do that.

get creative. public places always add excitement. there are tons of toys/implements you can use.

quote:Originally posted by EyeSore:

you could try some role playing...

there are tons of toys/implements you can use.

hmmm...she DOES act at school a lot in plays. though I dont think shed go for it. I think shed feel too self-concious, or silly.

also, we wouldnt mind trying some toys, but we dont know WHAT, and we dont really want to own any at this point. I'm sure that'll be much easier when we're living alone. (instead of with parents)

if you want to try toys, its best to start simple. vibes, dildo's, things like that are a good start. if you feel adventurous, try a butt plug, or anal beads (recomended). there are tons of toy's out there. go to an adult store and have a look around.

some mmore things that came to mind, i don't know if i mentioned them, are photo's and home made video's.

quote:Originally posted by Shodan's Own:

go away. I want real answers.

Seriously, go to a farm, start doing it and get some goats and horses involved. It ll be so hot.

quote:Originally posted by onasis:

Seriously, go to a farm, start doing it and get some goats and horses involved. It ll be so hot.

you too...off my thread, you waste of thought.

No other suggestions? come on, there MUST be other things.

(btw, I'm 17, and shes 18, so you know what is legal for us to buy, etc.)

one word three people well actually thats two but whos counting

^^ bad idea. i've wanted to before, almost did once, but we backed out at the last second. it would only make things complicated.

I seem to have a fetish for sex games. Some of them can be fun, but not all girls are into them. You need to modify the regular ones a bit or make up your own.

If you have a D/s session coming up (scheduling them in advance is more fun than it may seem) make the sub call you at regular intervals to tell you they will do anything for you (or whatever the dom wants him/her to say). If they miss, they get to be the sub next time too till they get it right.

I did this once and really have to try it again sometime:

My girlfriend was leaving in the morning, a bit late, and wearing a skirt. Right before she left, I took her panties and told her she did not get to wear them today. I bet I was in her head a lot that day, and she was ready for me when she came back. Make sure she is not on her period, though.

This thread is really tough since there is so much you can do. I really don't know what direction to take it.

-Easy

You could try going out together and finding toys to play with in the sack!

Vegetables and fruits are our friends!

Try filming yourselves while your doing the deed...You never know, it might give you both a thrill!

Get a friend/friends to join you.

Do it in places where you have the chance of getting caught...It worked for Homer and Marge Simpson!

Candle wax can be cool sometimes...And I emphasise on the word "sometimes"...You don't wanna do it all the time...You can get some nasty burn scars!

Role playing is fun too!

Whips and chains could be fun...Unless you're like me and have a fear of being trapped somewhere!

Hope that rambling helped mate!

quote:Originally posted by Shodan's Own:

you too...off my thread, you waste of thought.

Waste of thought? Thanks for thinking about me...

quote:Originally posted by onasis:

Goats. Add some goats and horses, always fun.

hahahha...got a mental picture of chocolate paint...a blindfolded dominatrix and a goat

quote:Originally posted by Flamin_Pyro:

one word three people well actually thats two but whos counting

I KNOW thats a bad idea. even if it was offered, I doubt I'd take the oppertunity. at least with this girl. if I was with someone only for the sex, it would be awsome. but too much emotional stuff gets in the way. especially with the way I am (uber-jealous. I control it though). well, its 9:30 pm now, and she'll be here in about 2 hours, so I guess I'm out of time anyways. We decided to do some light bondage with wrist tying, and more blindfolding. her dad owns a book store, so its REALLY easy to get books about...interesting things. she was in the store today, looking through a book called "Urge". she said it was really interesting ("but no pictures " she commented). holy crap, its awsome having a nympho girlfriend.

quote:Originally posted by onasis:

Waste of thought? Thanks for thinking about me...

you know I cant get you off my mind...

Underwater.

Front yard.

upside down.

skydiving.

On the roof.

In a very very cold shower. (how to deal with shrinkage?)

All greased up in a bath tub. Makin it all slippery.

Clothes with strategic holes in them in very public place. Or bathing suits with same holes on a beach.

Camera.

Trampoline.

Life boat.

Normal powered boat.

In the freezing cold.

In the very very hot.

Pitch black room.

Car e-brake in one, Penis in other.

Double piercing with man or dildo.

Tied or taped down.

In a giant pool of cotton.

Anywere but a bed.

Watching gay porn?

Kama Sutra.

Surrounded by endless amounts of family photos instead of public.

While doing normal chores, cleaning, cooking, watching TV, eating dinner.

In a wrestling ring.

Giant pool of noodles.

Someone elses car.

doing it "like they do on the discovery channel".

Through a hole in a wall or a big board.

J-e-ll-o.

To weird techno music and crazy lights.

Listening to music you both hate.

Mud.

Role playing.

Im all out.

Since she's into acting, she could change her appearance slightly and wait for you somewhere public and you could "pick her up." Then maybe have sex in the car because you "don't want your girlfriend to find out."

Change of appearance can be...if she has straight hair, curl it; curly hair, straighten it. Wear a wig. Wear an outfit she would not normally wear. Anything like that.