Ok..what the fuck is wrong with guys who won't tell the girl they are going to orgasm?

Just a hint for guys... If you tell your lover that you are getting ready to bust yer nut, nine times out of ten, the girl will do some extra shit to make it that much more intense for you...quite possibly giving you even more of a pleasurable experience.

I can't think of anything more annoying during sex...grr... FUCKIN SPEAK UP !!!

Dirt Claud..

Hmmm, methinks somebody got spunk where they wanted no spunk and was suprised at said spunk.

Heh.. na, not in my face or anything, he came inside of me, which is still not a problem... the problem was that it was a stealth move... I wanted to know when he was getting ready to orgasm so I could maybe do a few other things to intensify it for him.

But yeah, unexpected spunk can be a lil aggravating too...lol

I'll keep that in mind that I should let the girl know when I'm about to orgasm. This thread reminds me of this one stand up comedian, he said he let's women know when he's about to by counting down like, "10, 9, 8, oops."

Right on...lol jeez !! lol

Uhh... That's pretty rude not telling your partner you are going to cum, that's just common courtesy.

Obviously, I agree... but I think that men (and maybe some women out there...) who get so wrapped up in their orgasm, that they fail to give some sort of indication that it is taking place.

Sometimes it's not about being selfish, it just happens and I can understand the occasional "slip".

I'm gunna respond to this thread shortly. Just a heads up.

-Easy

Well Easy.. I have been reading various posts on this site for quite some time now and I must say, I am happy to see that you dropped in to add your two cents...

I am eagerly awaiting your post...

Dirt Claud

Some dudes just like to blow their load in their own personal headspace. Whatever, it's always a fun ride.

After fucking enough different guys enough times a girl gets a sense for when a guy's about to come. In fact, it becomes obvious. At first it's easier to tell when you're performing oral sex because the sudden increase in size is more apparent than when he's fucking you.

A subtle, steady increase in intensity and vigor of the thrusting while fucking is another way to tell.

So what do you do to "increase the intensity?" I often use this moment to say something incredibly nasty that I know he'd want to hear, usually about another girl.

LMFAO .. as usual, Cindy, you rock lol... however, when I say "stealth move" I couldn't be more serious or more accurate.

I swear to GOD (maybe I should leave God outta this...lol) I had NO IDEA he was cumming, not just ONCE, but TWICE !!! Back to BACK ! I was SHOCKED !!!.. and angry..a lil..

I mean, in some respects, I take this as a compliment, but it is a lil selfish of him to hold out like that.

I dunno, maybe it's a Dick Control issue? I have had some men who can hold it and hold it and hold it til I am like, "alright, cum already damnit", then there's the "oops, I came.." guys...

While I am no pro at sex, nor do I claim to be, I must say verbalization is the key to a good sexual romp. I NEED to hear that what I am doing is good for you, whether you want more or whether you want me to stop whatever I am doing.

As far as intensifying the orgasm, it could be squeezing him tighter, trying to get away from him (if I know that turns him on..) talking shit (about anything from other girls (again, LMFAO) to talking about how he is making me feel etc...I mean the list could go on and on depending on the person...you know that lol...

When it comes down to it though, I thrive off of feedback from my sexual partner.

Dirt Claud

well there can be 2 reasons as to why some guys are silent.........your forgetting about the church girl who likes to fuck but doesnt want any cum near her or on her, then there is the total cum slut who will fucking sing Dixie with a mouthful of hot cum lol. I prefer to say You ready? and i can time it to about the time she answers with a spray whereever the cock is aimed......oh and PS Claudia all in the hair LMFAO

HAHAHAHAHAHA Rob.. lmfao.. not in the hair bro, please...lmao...

wait this just hit me...........depending on the age of the guy......he may have had to be quiet for fear of getting caught by parents of siblings.............i never had this happen myself but im sure that would fuck up a good cum lmao.........how would u like your older sister to come in on ya right as its about to blow....i keep thinking the scene in American Pie when she was getting eaten for hte first time and her dad was walking up the steps and as she orgasms shes screaming Im cumming Im cumming and pops was at the door about to open it..........he heard that so he walked away...........granted she didnt know she almost got caught but there was that feeling in your stomachs as you watched it.............:-P

lol Right on again... this guy wasn't just a teenager though and he's had many sexual conquests... which really surprised me. He did admit that he was a little nervous though... poor fella...

I have never been caught having sex... oh wait... my ex's kid walked in on us gettin' down once but it prolly looked more like we were wrestling rather than fuckin'...lolz

he coulda been nervous for alot of reasons..........maybe it had been such a long time since he had sex that he was addicted to his hand and scared that he would be unable to perform.........or he coulda jacked off before you two had sex and he might have been worried about that inablity to get it up and been scared to tell you on the grounds it might make you upset........many many things can make you nervous )

Yeah.. it's possible.. seemed like I recall a few pushes and blam.. I was awestruck..

a few? that is all you got? then we can rule out the jackin off like something about mary then huh LMAO

Exactly... I dunno, it was kind of like he was back in Jr. High again. We had a COUPLE of beers earlier in the evening... but not enough to cause abnormal sexual complications... there were no major distractions during the act... I am just clueless on this one...

I would like to see this person again and inevitably I will have to end up telling him to be a little more vocal. How would you (or any of you...) suggest I go about doing this without being offensive or hurting his feelings?

Dirt Claud

hummmmm imma go out on a limb and say you could play like your old and hard of hearing so he should yell and be frequent abotu it cuz your memory isnt what it used to be? LMFAO hell tell him it fucking makes your clit throb and your pussy salivate madly when men talk to you in a forceful and demanding manner (set appropriate rules as u see fit) and that u wanna show him how fuckin freaky you can get with a little mental stimulation.................if that dont work then time for a few fuck pal

Heh.. I don't want to scare him away ! lol I want to bring us closer without making him feel as though I am being too critical.

People act differently when criticized about sex...

i see your point but you gotta realize that alot of guys dont know how to communicate during sex other than oooooo ya faster and mm baby right there and oh dont miss a stroke LMAO. i guess its one of those touch and go issues that is gonna be different from everyone involved

just tell him it turns you on if he's more vocal. me being a guy, know that i'll pretty much do whatever my girl wants that'll make it that much better for her.

i'm sure it applies for most other guys, that you'll want her to be turned on and love it and wahtnot. so jus tell him that its a turn on hearing him.

Unfortunately, sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't. My ex boyfriend was very quiet during sex as well (which is why I finally decided to post something about it...makes me wonder if this is a new epidemic or something amongst males...) I asked him to please talk to me, tell me what is on his mind... but he said that's just how he is, he's just focusing on the pleasure, not talking.

Does talking mess up orgasms for men? Or can it?

quote:Originally posted by Kewlaudia:

Well Easy.. I have been reading various posts on this site for quite some time now and I must say, I am happy to see that you dropped in to add your two cents...

I am eagerly awaiting your post...

Dirt Claud

Welcome to totse, thanks for the compliment, and please excuse my terrible sense of humor.

I would like to commend you on your intentions here. I've talked to tons of girls who criticized a guy's technique in the sack, and I think you are the first who was thinking of ways to make it better for him.

What you could do:

One thing I love to do is to get some girl all hot and bothered when she can't do anything about it. Sometimes I tell a girl what I want to do to her when we are in public. I went to a school that had chapel services, and I would hand my GF a condom during whatever and ask her to hold on to it till later for me. You could whisper to him in public that you want to try something special for him right before he cums next time and that he needs to remember to remind you the next time right before he blows his load in you. He will not take this as criticism. It will just let him know that you are thinking about him sexually and it will make him think of you constantly till he does exactly as you command.

Another think you can do is take the dominant approach. Look him in the eye and tell him that if he cums without permission, you will punish him. Then grab is cock firmly and snap your teeth twice while you continue to stare deep in his eyes. Your image will be burned in his memory long after you kick him to the curb.

I'm sure that there are many other ways to solve your "problem" but I think it is always better to not have any problems. They are all just opportunities.

-Easy

AHHHH YES... JUST AS I SUSPECTED... The Oracle has spoken !

Very nice... I love it. Especially giving him something to think about later. I think he could handle that.

Thank YOU, yes I am always down for pleasing my lover. I want both of us to have a very good experience, something that will stay on our minds for weeks to ... err.. cum (sorry I had to throw that one in there.. it was RIGHT THERE...lol)

Now.. there is one question.. the teeth clenching.. hmm.. how did you come up with that one? (insert devil smiley here)

quote:Originally posted by Kewlaudia:

Now.. there is one question.. the teeth clenching.. hmm.. how did you come up with that one? (insert devil smiley here)



Wouldn't you like to know? I've taken a walk on the wild side before and know a few things about kink-related flirting.

-Easy

LMFAO.. I see.. I almost asked you for a date... hahaha !!! By chance, are you registered at alt.com? haha

A girl can dream I guess...lol Quite inspiring indeed... (devil here again plz..)

Front Seat Rider huh? I call "shotgun"!

[This message has been edited by Kewlaudia (edited 09-03-2003).]

quote:Originally posted by Kewlaudia:

By chance, are you registered at alt.com? haha



No. I did something to a girl once that made me feel guilty and after that I did not pursue my dark side as much as I probably should have. Recently I’ve begun to discover more about myself that makes me want to reconsider. I’m still debating if I should post what happened in the current bondage thread.



quote:Originally posted by Kewlaudia:

Front Seat Rider huh? I call "shotgun"!



I'm a coaster enthusiast and that's what my email address refers to. Feel free to send me an email if you want.

-Easy



[This message has been edited by Easy Going (edited 09-03-2003).]

*searches for the bondage thread so she's not left outta the loop*

Well you gave some great advice, thank you very much for that. I think it will work... by the way... are u vocal during sex? hehe

quote:Originally posted by Kewlaudia:

are u vocal during sex? hehe

Not usually, but I have been upon request. I did learn a little something by reading your complaint.

BTW, the bondage thread is the one by Prince Charming that has a real stupid title that has nothing to do with the topic.

I think I'll post the story later, but it may take a little while.

-Easy

everyone's got their little "clues" that let ya know where they're about to let loose....

i start that slow, deep breathing like the aliens... from the movie aliens...

Well at least you were breathing ! I didn't hear a PEEP from this guy. Totally stealth I tell ya...

I am definitely going to try Easy's advice, if anyone else out there has something to add please do.

I once knew this girl that liked to be surprised?? She didn't want me to tell her when to cum because it was more of a turn on for her.

BTW How old are you Kewlaudia?

I am 33 years young and still get carded for rated R movies...

thought about it............if u are truly a guy who can orgasm and not say a word and your gal likes surprises, why not let her jerk you off for the cumshot after sex and not say a word..............better yet if the guy does it (women can tell by the size and reactions of the hips) and blows all over her and then u go Oops i came LMAO

More ideas.. hmm.. Now if I am playing the "element of surprise" game, then fine, nothing wrong with me at all.. I can handle sex games.

But in general, do men usually clam up during sex when it comes time to orgasm? It's not as though I have had scores of lovers, I have only had a few in my lifetime, but the past three guys I have dated have been so quiet during sex. I finally got one to kind of come out of his shell, but it was very difficult.

Hmm...it's vexing...