Something is fucked up with me...everytime I get with different girls and we both like each other, I become aroused from her just hanging on me, and sometimes if I REALLY like the girl, I will get aroused from just holding hands with her. What the hell could be the problem? I am guessing that it is a psychological problem, but it gets annoying when I get a hard on when just holding hands with a girl. Thanks for any help.

That's pretty normal, man.

How old are you?

I'm 18, and I don't think it's normal...my ex-ex girlfriend was laying on me one night when we were watching a movie, and she turned around and asked, "what is that" and I got really embarrassed and got up and left. This has happened too many times before, and it is making me go insane!

I dunno, I think it's normal.

Was she your ex-ex-girlfriend at the time?

Becuase being hard around your ex would probably result in her saying that.

No, she was my girlfriend at the time, but it still happens when I meet someone new and I start to like them.

Good grief, that's so normal it's "vanilla" normal.

Guys get aroused at the drop of a hat by girls they don't even know, by girls they're not even normally attracted to, and in less auspicious circumstances.

What? Are you sure? I did not know that. I told her (my latest g/f), the one that I really like a lot, that I have something to tell her that involves her and I, but I will be embarrassed if I tell her, and she kept bugging me to tell her, but I haven't so far. I just want to be completely sure so I don't sound like a retard telling her.

quote:Originally posted by almightyares:

I'm 18, and I don't think it's normal...my ex-ex girlfriend was laying on me one night when we were watching a movie, and she turned around and asked, "what is that" and I got really embarrassed and got up and left. This has happened too many times before, and it is making me go insane!

Uh.. Dude she was fucking laying on you. If you mean like you were laying down and she was laying on top of you, then I'd be worried if you didn't get one. And she must be pretty slow to think that that wouldn't happen. Oh well..

Anyway there's nothing wrong with you. We (men) were made to get aroused easily, it gets annoying, sure, but just think about when you'll be old and won't be able to get hard at all. Then you won't think it's so annoying anymore.

First of all, never, EVER say to someone "I have something to tell you and it's about you but I don't want to tell you." This is a violation of several rules of social conversation and interpersonal communication. And look at the awkward situation you're in now.

So, what, you want to tell her she arouses you? Considering she's your gf, that's not much of a stretch. Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't see the reason for the embarrassment.

Ok, thanks for everyones help.

only time you should be embarrassed of a hard-on is if you're popping tents in front of random friends and family and your girlfriend is nowhere around...

hard-ons are COOL, they are AWESOME, chicks LOVE them! She was probably asking "what is that?" because she wanted to make sure it was a hardon and THEN she probably would've asked you if she could play with it.... next time you pop a stiffy just grap your girly and just poke her with it, hehe.

It's all perfectly normal...especially when your young...hell, it happened to me. eventually you'll learn to control it, like just about all the other guys on the planet.

no worries

Thanks again! I was just worried that she would think that I am messed up, but I did tell her lastnight about this, and she stated that she wouldn't have thought of me any different if I told her then, and she doesn't now. Phew! One more question so I don't have to open a new thread...should I have given her flowers right when I asked her out, or a little bit later, and what type/color of flowers should I have given to her? I read up on the meanings of the different types/colors, and I don't think she will realize what the different meanings are. I was just wondering for future reference. Thanks again.

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I think that's really cute.

I don't like Flowers cause they usually mean that they were bought because the guy couldn't be bothered going out and actually having to *think* about what kind of present I'd like (you know and*use*).

But the whole meaning behind flowers and colours is cool. Maybe you could put what the meaning behind the flowers you choose in the card that goes with. So she gets it.

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

only time you should be embarrassed of a hard-on is if you're popping tents in front of random friends and family and your girlfriend is nowhere around...

hard-ons are COOL, they are AWESOME, chicks LOVE them! She was probably asking "what is that?" because she wanted to make sure it was a hardon and THEN she probably would've asked you if she could play with it.... next time you pop a stiffy just grap your girly and just poke her with it, hehe.

A day without sex is a day wasted...

Hey thanks spike...I never thought about writing what they mean in the card. I will have to do that until I can figure out what else I can get her, other than flowers.

ahah yea this has happened to me before.. one time i was sitting down with my girlfreind in between my legs and i popped a stiffy... she just turned around and smiled ( it was pretty awesome exept for the fact that she didnt want to help me out by giving me a hand with it) but yea i think its normal and wouldnt worry abou it

Dude... It's only wood. it's not like you shit yourself everytime your around a girl. Now that would be embarrassing. Just go with the flow relax, if the girl doesn't like, then fuck her, she isn't right for you.

flowers aren't quite my forte'... a gift that i like to give girls when i ask them out is an orgasm. they seem to appreciate this much more than flowers.

I totally agree with Sarcophagus!! I'm sure it made your GF happy when she felt you pop up! She definitely knew what that was before she asked you, "what is that?". She was just hoping the conversation would go somewhere after that......and thatyou and she could talk about it!! You wimped out and didn't! If I had been her, I would not have been surprised at all that you popped up. But I would have been shocked that you wimped out and didn't follow up on my "innocent" question!! (hee hee)!! You should definitely handle your next girl differently when she asks about your boner. (hee hee)!! Love, Venus.

Good God... the dame's right.

That's a first.

again pretty pinay shows why she is the coolest chick ever.

quote:Originally posted by EyeSore:

again pretty pinay shows why she is the coolest chick ever.

I beg to differ.

No, really. I beg. I plead. I can't stand the broad.

Dude, if you want an example of just how normal you are.. I was dancing with this chick at a wedding over the weekend, and my dick kept slapping against her leg. You're FINE. Just don't fuck up again.

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

I beg to differ.

No, really. I beg. I plead. I can't stand the broad.



What the hell? I've seen you flame Miss Pretty when she was not even in the thread, twice, and now you are doing it again after she gives some more of her good advice. You even agree with her this time. Just let it go.

-Easy

quote:Originally posted by Easy Going:

What the hell? I've seen you flame Miss Pretty when she was not even in the thread, twice, and now you are doing it again after she gives some more of her good advice. You even agree with her this time. Just let it go.

-Easy



No way.

For every bit of good advice she gives, I've read 6 others that were out and out insane.

quote:Originally posted by almightyares:

What? Are you sure? I did not know that. I told her (my latest g/f), the one that I really like a lot, that I have something to tell her that involves her and I, but I will be embarrassed if I tell her, and she kept bugging me to tell her, but I haven't so far. I just want to be completely sure so I don't sound like a retard telling her.

No, you'll sound like someone who *really* likes her! She'll prolly be like aww how sweet! I get wet everytime i hang around you, so there's nothing to be embarassed about. Can i offer you some tang?

BAM! problem solved. FYI my bruce banner turns into the incredible bulk everytime I'm even AROUND girls in fucking class.

"No that's my cell phone in my pocket"-Fa'ad

quote:Originally posted by Kewlaudia:

A day without sex is a day wasted...



so that makes over 14 years I've wasted then.

read my next thread.

-Fa'ad