yeah well me and my ol lady just had a kid and todday marks six weeks and now we are aloud to have sex.. but she says that she donesnt have any sex drive and i was wonderin if theres anyway to help this or do i just have to wait and suffer and masturbate

p.s. what i told is to just give it a try and maybe if she has sex itll make her want sex again but thats my theory

Congrats on the kiddo!

Just be understanding, that will help you out the most in this situation... the more easygoing you are about this the more likely it is that she'll come 'round. If you start getting pushy it will only make her become less interested, and possibly defensive.

Don't hint, don't nag, don't try to guilt her into anything. Be particularly affectionate and supportive and most of all patient... and wank lots to avoid the blue balls, hehe.

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I hear the average post-partum "downtime" is something like 4 months. Gah.

Would she allow you to perform oral favors? Try offering that, with no reciprocation required. Chances are, with the pressure off, she'll be wanting to return the favor anyways.

well she gave me head like 3 weeks ago... but she dont let me go down on her and she said she stuck her finger up there to see if it would hurt and it did so i dont know :/

geez! give her some more time!

imagine how you would feel... completely tired and worn out, with a flabby body and crying baby...

not exactly sexy huh?

take your time matey... let her know you are ready, but let her make the first move

Yeah, wait a while longer.

Go buy your kid a pimp-ass baby adidas jumpsuit, that's what I'd do.

I swear to God, my son's going to look cool as hell when I have one.

pregnancy does kill the sex drive a bit. give her a few weeks, she'll come around. just don't force it, she might not be fully healed yet. get her doing kegals, otherwise, she probably won't be tight at all.

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

the more easygoing you are about this the more likely it is that she'll come 'round.

That is some damn good advice.

Treat her like she is a girl that you have a crush on and you are trying to win her over. Take her out on a date, buy her flowers, drop her a note or two, and don't focus on sex. Women love to be persued and fear the inevitable point in a relationship when the chase is over. This may get her ready before she would be otherwise and can only help your relationship.

-Easy