hey everyone. i am new here but was advised to come here and explain my problem by a friend. he said altho some will just flame me others might offer some help. so here goes

basically, i have this friends called Laura. and i am crazily in love with her. i cannot stop thinkin about her. but shes got this bf who she has spent ages telling me how maddly in love with him she is. i feel like i'll die if i don't tell her how i feel. but i feel like a selfish prick if i do tell her becos shes happy with her bf. i really nheed some help and tips on how to get thro this.

so any advise u got throw it this way plz

Forget her.

The fact that you're considering her feelings is impressive, but you said it yourself. You'll probably only end up hurting her if you tell her.

Don't tell her right now, because she has a boyfriend it almost guarantees rejection, and since you have such strong feelings for her the rejection will hurt you incredibly.

My advice (and I had to take this myself when I was crazy over a guy who had a girlfriend) is just be patient, don't drive yourself crazy over this. If you're meant to be together then maybe down the road the opportunity will present itself, but at the moment your chances are pretty (and by that I mean less than a millimeter) slim.

For now just enjoy her friendship.

It always sucks that sometimes the people we love the most just don't return the feelings.

*is sm00ths friend*

please help this guy, he needs it ^_^

yeah..so you already know what i think heh..

Shittie

A mate of mine who I had only known a while but now we are best friends, well he liked this girl and he would wave to her but she would ignor him, so he asked me "what should I do".

So I said to him, listen, girls really don't know what they want, you have to tell them.

So I said next time you see her ask her out.

And he did.

And then he came back to me and said, "She said maybe, she'd think about it".

So I said "tell her you've thought about it for her and the answer is yes".

Well, she loved that idea

And they went out, she stayed over, he got her in the sack and they are still together. And she happens to be one of the prettiest little things on two legs I've seen.

Girls don't know what they want, a real man will tell a girl what they want... not ask her.

If worst comes to worst and she still wont listen and you love her like crazy, then surprise her, get her heart beating faster... give her a shock or a fright and she will connect with you, and then she will begin to love you more.

Surprise her with a kiss. Sneak up behind her and kiss her neck or something.

Worst that will happen is she will hate you for a little while, or tell you to go away...

But, she will get a little thrill and probably come back for more, if you play it cool. Once she shows any sign of interest again, then you play hard to get a little... get the upper hand and then she is yours.

Girls like to be surprised and controlled a little bit by guys, no matter what age, they are all the same like that.

Just a little advice from an old master of seduction, take it or leave it.

There is a few cures to your problem.

I would try to turn all of my love to another person that I really like. Perhaps try meeting new girls, you'lll possibly fall in love with one and forget her.

I know that's easier said than done, but give it a shot.

Otherwise, lots of masterbation gets me through anything .



Shek

quote:Originally posted by Shhhh... I'm a secret:

Girls don't know what they want, a real man will tell a girl what they want... not ask her.

If I did that to the girls I know, they would, at best, laugh at me. More than likely, they would proceed to rattle on about the absolute gall I had to say something like that.. and they'd be right.

Not saying your idea won't work, but if anyone wants to try that, they'd better a) get a feel for the girl to decide if it'll work or b) do it to someone they'll never have to deal with again if it backfires.

you probably should keep it to yourself. the following are reasons why.

1) you can't spell or use grammar. girls like smart guys.

2) she's got a guy already.

3) it's not love. it's INFATUATION.

4) you'll only upset everyone. wait for the opurtunistic moment.

well, thank you all for ur advise so far. seems like the majority of people believe i shud hold tight and just wait for fate to either hand me a chance or move on alltogether.

i will ofc have to try my best to do that, hard as it may be.

You need to listen to what your feeling.I was in the same situation only the chick Im seeing does not love her boyfriend. She got hurt and wont let anybody in.Follow your heart as lame as that sounds. I fell for this girl bad and tried to hold back telling her. I just have proved to her that I was sincere and really would not burn her. One day I could not hide it any longer and I finally told her. she actually started and told me she felt the same. I looked at things like what if I died tomorrow. I had to let her know I could not live hiding my love from her. Now this is truely the greatest love and friend Ive ever known but its hard cause she has this boyfriend she is scared to hurt. That and I feel like a dick cause I stay the night with her and he actually trusts me enough to respect him and not have sex. Im going to hell for this one who is coming with me.

You need to accept the fact that what you acll lov doesnt exsist. Love is just a mask for lust and friendship mixed. It's a trick played on us by nature to get us to reproduce. Forget her, or learn to live with it. Those are really your only choices.

quote:Originally posted by Shhhh... I'm a secret:

A mate of mine who I had only known a while but now we are best friends, well he liked this girl and he would wave to her but she would ignor him, so he asked me "what should I do".

So I said to him, listen, girls really don't know what they want, you have to tell them.

So I said next time you see her ask her out.

And he did.

And then he came back to me and said, "She said maybe, she'd think about it".

So I said "tell her you've thought about it for her and the answer is yes".

Well, she loved that idea

And they went out, she stayed over, he got her in the sack and they are still together. And she happens to be one of the prettiest little things on two legs I've seen.

Girls don't know what they want, a real man will tell a girl what they want... not ask her.

If worst comes to worst and she still wont listen and you love her like crazy, then surprise her, get her heart beating faster... give her a shock or a fright and she will connect with you, and then she will begin to love you more.

Surprise her with a kiss. Sneak up behind her and kiss her neck or something.

Worst that will happen is she will hate you for a little while, or tell you to go away...

But, she will get a little thrill and probably come back for more, if you play it cool. Once she shows any sign of interest again, then you play hard to get a little... get the upper hand and then she is yours.

Girls like to be surprised and controlled a little bit by guys, no matter what age, they are all the same like that.

Just a little advice from an old master of seduction, take it or leave it.

IMO, there should be a place here somewhere that the posts with really good advice get put and stay there. I vote it starts with this post. I will admit that this will not work for everyone or with every girl, but this is still great advice.

-Easy

Edit: I just did a search for your other posts Shhhh... I'm a secret, and it looks like this is your first day here. It is refreshing to see such quality posts from a newbie, and you just made my short list of users that I will search for. I hope you stay a while.



[This message has been edited by Easy Going (edited 08-22-2003).]

well guys. i will leave her be. she is happy. and if i love her then i must accept her happiness is more important than my own. if i see an opertunity i'll take it. and for now. i must enjoy her friendship and show some balls, by not letting her no about my love unless we end up together and to move on. ty for ur help. i just need some outsiders opinions. and i thank you all for taking this seriously and not flaming me. i value every last word of advise and have thought heviuly about every word each of u have said.

i only hope i can help u in a situation of difficulty in the future

sm00th (Chris)

i had that problem.. there was this girl and i was around her a lot and when she finally broke up with her bf i asked her and she said no... gradually i accept her as a good friend like she had done me the whole time

The only consistent factor in your failed relationships is YOU. I recommend suicide.

just find yourself a easy wanna be stripper type chick and start fucking her. if this other girl does have any feelings for you she might start showing them because of jealousy. or if shes a drug users get her hooked on meth and supply her for favors

i think those latter two options i'll ignore :P

but yes life is not fair :-/

hey sm00th

dont worry dude....trust me ull get over it as hard as it is...time heals all things!

this time next year u will look back and go "wtf was i so worried about!!"