I need some help people...

I was in a relationship for awhile with an older woman... She is 24 and I am 17. The fact is she got pregnant.. I freak out but I decided it would be better if I just face it and got a job and I did. But she keeps doing crazy shit and breaking up with me and I take her back.. some childish shit. Now she broke up with me again and she blames everything on me when im trying to help so last week I got an offer for a high paying job far away but ive got to stay with this new chick to keep the job... But shes over saying she loves me and doesnt want me to leave plus shes carrying my baby.... I just dont know what to do? any advice

I'm just gonna say that, well, the Clash rules.

Well, if you go there will be trouble...

But if you stay it will be double...



In all seriousness, I'd stay with the broad long enough for her to have the kid and then file for sole custody.

u fucked up

anyway, try for an abortion

quote:Originally posted by icecold:

u fucked up

anyway, try for an abortion

Highly unlikely, which is why I say try to get sole custody.

It sounds like the broad's fucking insane. I'd rather raise my child by myself than expose him or her to a woman like that.

But I dont make enough money to really raise the kid. But if I leave and take the job I can raise the kid healthy u know what im sayin???

quote:Originally posted by fretdemon:

But I dont make enough money to really raise the kid. But if I leave and take the job I can raise the kid healthy u know what im sayin???

Sort of.

Let me get this straight. You leave, and take this job far away. For some reason, you have to stay with a new girl seperate from the psycho to keep the job. However, the psycho hose beast wants you back, and she's carrying your kid.

Did I get that right? I think I need to understand the situation with a little more clarification.

Well shes says she just pregnant and her hormones are fucked up or whatever, But still Im not going to let someone treat me like shit 24/7 when im doing the best I can. And as for the girl im going to stay with,I dont have to get with the girl we are just freinds.. And im going to stay with her for awhile in order to get on my feet. So I can give the kid a decent upbringing. But then again I have the mother of my unborn child saying she loves me after I have caught her lying several times. But still she is pregnant and I did get her pregnant, but she is unstable and she lies to me... Its a fucked up situation, and it makes me feel like shit but what are you supposed to do??

AH, ok. I think I understand it a little better.

First off, I'd make damned sure she's pregnant. There's been plenty of mentally unstable women who have claimed that just to keep a guy around.

If she is, I'd make sure that you're involved in your child's life, even if you have to live far away from him/her. If the girl won't let you without staying with her, you have a case for filing for sole custody.

I see what you're saying, but I don't quite get it: why not just take the kid and raise it where you're working? Obviously, there'll be a time period where it'll have to be with his mom, but after that period, why not try to get custody and leave the bitch in the dust?

It's not like there's no day care. My father practically raised me by himself(my mom sounds a lot like the girl you possibly impregnated, only she's bi-polar and liked to take baseball bats to my head).

This is all just my opinion, though. Don't take it too seriously. I'd hate to feel responsible if you fuck up somehow.

give the chick a little slack if she is infact pregnant. she's going to be going through a lot, what with the hormones and mood swings etc. give her a little slack about that, she's going to be bitchy for like 8 more months.

i'd say take the job. send the chick some money, or bring her with you. i don't know where you live, but here in the U.S. there are a lot of programs to help people in similar situations. go to the government, they have different things for free insurance, childcare, medical treatments, etc. if she's still crazy after the baby's born, try to get sole custody. i don't know uch about your home situation, but i know that my parents would help me if i was trying to raise a child by myself. there are always other people who can help you along, just don't abuse them.

IF the baby is actually YOURS, then whatever you decide to do needs to accomplish 2 things:

1) You need to fulfill your legal obligations toward the child.

2) With that accomplished, you need to BE SURE YOU STILL CAN HAVE "A LIFE" OF YOUR OWN!! You don't have to put up with the mother's antics in order to fulfill your legal obligation toward the child. And it sounds like a continued relationship with the mother will guaranty your life will be a gray one, of intimidation, guilt, frustration, sadness and misery. (YUK!!!)Love, Venus.

Normally, cutting a pregnant woman slack is necessary, but no one with a stable mind goes as totally fucking crazy as she has. If you stay with her, you're only going to hurt the child by raising him/her in a dysfunctional home.

Unfortunately, your youth (not to mention your penis) will make it difficult for you to gain legal custody of the child. I would strongly suggest speaking with an attorney and inquiring about what you need to show to have at least a reasonable chance of winning a custody battle if one is required. I have a friend who went through the same thing, and although he was much older than you and it was part of a divorce settlement, I can ask him what exactly he did to win.

move to mexico and change your name to fernando or something!

and next time, slip it on before you slip it in!

Well sounds to me like its hormones. Especialy if shes pregnant, its common for her to keep having mood swings, although she needs to realise its effecting your life. Have a serious chat with her But try not to get mad, as arguments always build up from this! At the same time make her realise what your doing for her.Im sure shes got alot on her mind but she shouldnt neglet you

quote:Originally posted by icecold:

anyway, try for an abortion

Fuck you asshole, if I saw you I would personally beat the shit out of you.



Shek

quote:Originally posted by Kikey_Kikeowitz:

Well, if you go there will be trouble...

But if you stay it will be double...



In all seriousness, I'd stay with the broad long enough for her to have the kid and then file for sole custody.

What's up with you and songs today? That's what I was thinking..