Ok, 2 days ago I went to my ex-girlfriend's house because she invited me to the pool with her and 2 of her cousins.

My ex already has another boyfriend but he's out of the country with his family for summer break.

My ex and I are good friends. I got to her house and we went to the pool and had some fun, you know, wrestling, throwing shit in the pool, seeing who gets in first.

30 minutes later I saw her at the edge of the pool. She looked like she was sad so I asked her what was wrong. She said she regrets alot of shit, that she regrets hooking up with her new b/f because he's too jealous. She told me that once he got drunk and he hit her on the arm and gave her a swollen arm just because she talked to another guy. I went crazy when I heard that shit.

Anyway, then she kissed me on my cheek and swam away, but I grabbed her feet and pulled her back and told her I was not finished talking to her. She told me she wanted to tell me something. I said "what is it?" and she ended up kissing me. After that I said "so what is you wanted to say to me?" but she said she didnt wanna tell me. We kept kissing for like an hour and I kept asking what it was that she wanted to tell me. Then she said "nothing" and that she just wanted to see my response to her kissing me. So I said "so you where playing with me?" and she said "yes." So I got pissed but I didnt show it. Then she admitted that she wasn't playing but I still felt that she was.

We hung out for about another hour and we talked and I asked her if she loved her new b/f and she said "no" but she said she has told him that she loves him just becuase he said it to her. I asked if that was the reason she had said "I love you" to me, just because I said it to her first. She answered back saying "naw i really did love you."

So I am confused.

We broke up 2 times already because once I got locked up and another time she caught me kissing one of her homegirls, but we werent going out.

so if u got any advice to give me it would help.



[This message has been edited by Latin1052 (edited 07-24-2003).]

Follow your heart and watch out if the other kid is bigger than you.

quote:Originally posted by punkrawkerstonershit:

Follow your heart and watch out if the other kid is bigger than you.

iam not scared of her boyfreind i feel like if we ended up fighting it would be a really close fight.

You havent even said if you want to go out with her?

quote:Originally posted by jumpunderaboat:

You havent even said if you want to go out with her?

i dont know.... iam changeing school not goin to see her but damn i love her so much. but we been pisst at each other for like 2 mouths a long story but we ended up resloveing it. and she like the most beatiful girl i ever been with for a long period of time.

Ok, 2 days ago I went to my ex-girlfriend's house because she invited me to the pool with her and 2 of her cousins.

My ex already has another boyfriend but he's out of the country with his family for summer break.

My ex and I are good friends. I got to her house and we went to the pool and had some fun, you know, wrestling, throwing shit in the pool, seeing who gets in first.

30 minutes later I saw her at the edge of the pool. She looked like she was sad so I asked her what was wrong. She said she regrets alot of shit, that she regrets hooking up with her new b/f because he's too jealous. She told me that once he got drunk and he hit her on the arm and gave her a swollen arm just because she talked to another guy. I went crazy when I heard that shit.

Anyway, then she kissed me on my cheek and swam away, but I grabbed her feet and pulled her back and told her I was not finished talking to her. She told me she wanted to tell me something. I said "what is it?" and she ended up kissing me. After that I said "so what is you wanted to say to me?" but she said she didnt wanna tell me. We kept kissing for like an hour and I kept asking what it was that she wanted to tell me. Then she said "nothing" and that she just wanted to see my response to her kissing me. So I said "so you where playing with me?" and she said "yes." So I got pissed but I didnt show it. Then she admitted that she wasn't playing but I still felt that she was.

We hung out for about another hour and we talked and I asked her if she loved her new b/f and she said "no" but she said she has told him that she loves him just becuase he said it to her. I asked if that was the reason she had said "I love you" to me, just because I said it to her first. She answered back saying "naw i really did love you."

So I am confused.

We broke up 2 times already because once I got locked up and another time she caught me kissing one of her homegirls, but we werent going out.



There you go dude! Now people can read it and give you advice.

I say just move on, find someone new. She sounds like she doesn't know what the hell she wants.

quote:Originally posted by Sarcophagus:

There you go dude! Now people can read it and give you advice.

I say just move on, find someone new. She sounds like she doesn't know what the hell she wants.



thanks alot Sarcophagus that the nicest thing someones done to me on totse. appreciate it alot.

yeah i sort of agree with sarcophagus, but I think you should definently be there for her and shit and help her out if she has any trouble with her boyfriend. BUt definently, definently, kick his ass i he touches her or does anything to her.

How long has she been with him? This can turn into a potentially dangerous situation. He's already displayed abusive behavior by hitting her. If she breaks it off right now, maybe it'll be ok but if she lets it go on he can turn into a full fledged stalker. Unfortunatly, I've dealt with guys like this, they don't change and won't listen.

The best thing for you to do would be to get her out of this relationship. Possibly get a restraining order on the guy. Make sure every incident is documented, if things take a turn for the worst, the only thing on her side will be writing in black and white.

If she won't listen, tell her parents or a trusted authority figure. Perhaps they can have enough influence on her to sway her.

It might sound like I'm taking it too seriously but this looks like the beginning of something really bad. Rather be safe than sorry.

If it was me, he'd be out the first time he laid a hand on me. He'd get a foot to the balls and spit in his face. I have no tolerance for shit like that.

girls are crazy. i stand by it. they like assholes. mean assholes. assholes who hit them; they're arrtacted to people like this.

i hate girls. they're stupid and mean.

If u wanna b with her then in my opinion u should just chill and if she wants to b with u she'll break up with her b/f she has now and come to u. As for her boy friend I wouldnt even think of him any at all, but if she is hit again by him, stomp his ass.

she told she goin to break up with him. but he dont come back 2 days after school starts. damn i wanna fight him so badly.

[This message has been edited by Latin1052 (edited 07-24-2003).]

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

How long has she been with him? This can turn into a potentially dangerous situation. He's already displayed abusive behavior by hitting her. If she breaks it off right now, maybe it'll be ok but if she lets it go on he can turn into a full fledged stalker. Unfortunatly, I've dealt with guys like this, they don't change and won't listen.

The best thing for you to do would be to get her out of this relationship. Possibly get a restraining order on the guy. Make sure every incident is documented, if things take a turn for the worst, the only thing on her side will be writing in black and white.

If she won't listen, tell her parents or a trusted authority figure. Perhaps they can have enough influence on her to sway her.

It might sound like I'm taking it too seriously but this looks like the beginning of something really bad. Rather be safe than sorry.

If it was me, he'd be out the first time he laid a hand on me. He'd get a foot to the balls and spit in his face. I have no tolerance for shit like that.

like 5 mounths i guess but whats werid she never told me about this they look so happy together. until couple of days ago, she dontsnt live with her parnets she lives with an older sister and the older sister dont even like him.

[This message has been edited by Latin1052 (edited 07-24-2003).]

no more advice

Alright usually I give some long lenghty answer and don't suggest violence or fighting but if he hit her it doesn't matter if you are going out with her or not. He shouldn't hit a girl I would beat the shit out of him just for that. That is one thing I can not stand exspecially if she did nothign wrong.

About the girl. I think that you have heard most of the advice you need on that situation. Just follow your heart and don't ever talk your self out of your instincts.

Take Care,

Kangy

I have never tollerated a guy hitting a girl. Beat his ass.



Shek