would you change to be with a girl/boy. This is all because my friend is speending all this money to look like a goth to get with this girl that he likes. He's speending about 100 pounds/175-ish dollors to change his look and his hair. My question still remains would you change alot to be with a girl/boy.

your thoughts pleese

stu

I would have to consider it, I'd ask the girl first if she doesn't like me wearing what I'm wearing. And if she doesn't then perhaps because I like her I'll wear other stuff. A good example is goths, I wear black clothes, and if a girl I like finds that offensive and tell me that it is I'll not wear it. Changing your clothes isn't bad, but your personallity thats a different thing.

the only people worth changing for are the ones that dont want you to change.

honestly, if she doesnt love your friend for who he is, she isnt worth it. It doesnt matter how much he spends. I guess its more important that he doesnt change his personality, but outward appearance usually is a definition of that, right?

Ack! I know life is complicated and every situation is unique, but it is generally a sucky idea to change yourself to conform to another's idea of acceptability. The only reason to "go goth" is if the person really wants to, and thinks it suits him/her. Even if the person just likes the "fashion," that's a better reason to adopt a new look/attitude than trying to woo someone.

*dragging out the cliche*

Just be yourself! Otherwise, your true soul mate will just walk on by, wondering what the hell is up with the pasty white face.

quote:Originally posted by aloneandbroken:

the only people worth changing for are the ones that dont want you to change.

This is probably one of the best phrases I have heard in a long time. When I read that I could barely even think of a suitable way to compliment you.

Take Care,

Kangy

As long as you're not changing the way you are, the way you act, etc., then do whatever. Of course, packaging yourself in a way that makes you uncomfortable will make you act differently, so wholesale changes are very rarely workable or any sort of a good idea. At most, tweak yourself a bit to get someone's attention, then let things work as they will.

hell no i wouldnt change for no one. you gotta find someone that it just for you but if she look damn good i mean really really good and you just want that ass go for it.

you should only change if you want to, not because someone wants you to, or to impress someone....

cause what happens if it doesnt work out? you are really gonna feel like shit!

be strong

it's always best to be yourself. like people for who they are. yada yada... same thing as everyone else said.

Seriously, it is not worth it to change yourself for someone else. If someone wants you to be someone you're not, that person is not worth it. If they cannot accept you as you are, screw them.

thx guys hopefully my friend will read this and he will realise that he is making the wrong discion.

you have been a real help.

stu

Definately, I would sell my soul for love. However, I get a lot of shit about wearing only black but not by the girls that are interested...