2 months ago I split up with my ex-gf. Yes, my ex-gf, we had sex for a while, by the agreement, just as long as we don´t have another partner.

But after a while she said that she wants to be with me again. I said no, so she yelled at me, that I used her. She created an intrigue to get me back and tried a lot of things. The more she behaves like this, the more I try to get away from her and everyone else. I´m going out for a walk very often, because I can´t do anything without thinking of her accusations. Yesterday she called me and said that I just don´t want to be with her because I wouldn´t have enough time for my exams. My stomach aches now for more than 2 months, I guess I´m about to get an stomach ulcer.

My principles tell me to not get involved into another relationship before I haven´t "closed" the last. So I´m in a vicious circel here, she won´t accept my no until I have a new gf, and I won´t have another gf until she accepts my no ...

Any other suggestions than moving away?

Get stoned, then pour your heart out in a letter and send it to her.

first of, if she was consenting to the sex, and knew you weren't begining an emotional relationship with her, i dont think that you used her.

the only thing i can think of that you can do is tell her. tell her that you absolutly do not want to get back together with her, not because of time constraints, but because you are not interested. If she wont accept that (she seems to be having trouble with the relationship ending, eh?), then the best thing you can do is try to move on. Dont talk to her, and if you do dont let her get to you. Take all of your emotions out of her reach. That way, you are free to move on, even if she isnt. Sorry i cant be better advice....good luck

Man! Don't you watch Seinfeld?

This happened to Jerry, of course. The moral of the story is you can never sleep with an ex-girlfriend because they'll always want a relationship, and you just might too--and besides all that, you had a reason to break up before, remember?

Well, Jerry relented when she started wanting to go out again. But of course you wouldn't want to do that. The only other option I can see is to get the hell away from this woman and think about finding some kind of meaningful situation before you have sex next time!

Our sex drives are much more powerful than we sometimes think they are, after all: Not keeping this in mind will cause you a lot of trouble.

this is tough situation. you have to confront her and tell her that you don;t like her anymore. be mean if you have to, lie, do anything to get the message across that you want nothing to do with her anymore.

she's going to cry, then spread rumors about your character (i'd assume so after what you've said of her). but don't worry about it man, no one will believe her because you just ended it with her and they know that shes just pissy.

hope that helps.

quote:Originally posted by Beany:

Get stoned, then pour your heart out in a letter and send it to her.

lol, your solution to everything starts with "get stoned"

quote:Originally posted by Lewneedsrs:

lol, your solution to everything starts with "get stoned"

Naaa. Don't get me wrong I'm not a stonehead at all. I may smoke once in about a month, but a few months ago I wrote a letter to a friend whilst stoned and it was entirely perfect.

quote:Originally posted by Beany:

Naaa. Don't get me wrong I'm not a stonehead at all. I may smoke once in about a month, but a few months ago I wrote a letter to a friend whilst stoned and it was entirely perfect.



Maybe i should do that, get stoned and write a letter. Ill just put a random address on it and send it. Its be fun i think

why should I have known better; the sex was great, we had so much in common, but that´s been all. Knocking myself out didn´t work, I pissed off the girl I now would like to be with ...

In this case it would be best to simply tell her no. Then stay apart for a while to let the emotions die down.

it´s not that we haven´t tried, for a year, but like I said, the sex was great, she made the offer, I should´ve known better ...

quote:Originally posted by Beany:

Get stoned, then pour your heart out in a letter and send it to her.

that only works on a certain type of girl.. but if that would work, then writing one on coke would work even better