one night last summer, i was invited to a mates 18th. The theme of the party was 70's. As you woould expect everyone was dressed up to the eyeballs. The night went on and i got a bit pissed, my mind was "wavey" i was rat arsed so much so i could've seen a wildebeast. Anyway, so I was on the dance-floor when a beast came upto me and asked if her legs looked big in the dress she had on. My original thought was YES! THEYRE BLOODY HUGE!! but i said 'Bigger is Better'. Anyway, later on i was intrigued and followed a group into the tunnel - the football tunnel, the party was at a stadium -. It just so happened she was in there. We were all joking about and suddenly everyone started running, body started bumping and the next thing you know, we started goin at it like a couple of wildebeast.....was i taken advantage of?

listen man i really need some advice to ease my mind not silly noises like "ummmm" we r not having a sing song...ur jus doin it to get ur posts up and probably have a small penis

Another example of your silly attempt to up your post count

you have hit my pet peeve. people who think claim have been taken advantage of when they were drunk take away from the concern of people who were trully sexually abused. you had the choice on whether or not to drink, and how much you wanted.

Was she drunk too? if so, then no, she took advantage of you just about as much as you did of her. If she wasnt drunk, she was using your drunkness as a way to get sex, but either way, you were not taken advantage of.

if you got that drunk, then no... you weren't taken advantage of. if she kept giving you drinks, maybe... but it was your fault as much as hers.

Yes, Yes you were.

Mr. Drift you are a complete twat, she was a BIG minger.

quote:Originally posted by Painkillers:

Mr. Drift you are a complete twat, she was a BIG minger.

Yes but she was too big and forced him with her sumo wrestling experience

she sounds nice to me

shit, fuck the wildebeast....

im just here for the post count

176 and counting

[This message has been edited by Don Corleone (edited 07-21-2003).]

aloneandbroken, if he is drunk and she uses his drunkenness to her advantage, how is that not taking advantage of him? sure, it's not full-on rape, but that doesn't mean he wasn't taken advantage of. if he were a girl and drunk and some guy used her drunken state to get laid, you wouldn't think twice about saying she had been taken advantage of

geez? so i got raped??

Aloneandbroken seems to be looking at this through rose-tinted glasses, as if no-one would take advantage without assualting someone.

I believe that you were wrong to be so posotive when replying to her earlier..fool

-JUMP-

glitterpunk...i am getting to be angry...and it really takes A LOT to make me angry. i am a pretty calm person. First of all, i think that women claiming that they have been taken advantage of when being drunk has ended up making rape a much more common offense, and it takes the importance away from those who were actually raped. I am the opposite of what you obviously thought i was...i am not a feminist at all, i dont think women should have more rights. a woman who got drunk and had sex with a guy gets NO sympathy from me. I will honestly just loose respect from them.

I would never put myself in that situation. If i am drinking around random people, or even people i dont know well enough to trust, i will not drink enough to get drunk. If you choose to put yourself in that position, then you chose it. If you are a white guy who goes into a black neighborhood with a kkk hood on, youve got good chance of getting shot. If you go and get drunk around people of the opposite sex who you dont trust, youve got a good chance of having sex when you may not really have wanted to sober.

Sorry for making such a long response, but honestly.

I understand your point about rape being trivialised but at what point did 'taken advantage of' mean 'rape' or 'sexual assult'.

Woodrift is a male asking if he was taken advantage of, not a female claiming to be raped. Also the white man in a kkk hood scenario was a bit over the top.

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ummmmmmmmmmmmm

aloneandbroken, i apologize for pissing you off and saying that you would have more sympathy for a chick, but the point still remains that even if it was his fault for getting drunk, he was still taken advantage of. he was drunk and fucked someone he wouldn't have otherwise fucked. she knew, while the fucking took place, that he was not in a position to make a good decision about fucking her. she used this impaired judgement to get laid. she took advantage of his drunken state, and hence, took advantage of him.

So it would seem

This whole debates from peoples definition of the phrase "take advantage" so there is no universal answer.

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you're a guy, and from the sounds of it an Australian or Brittish one. now call me old fashioned, but that means that you're responsible for however shit faced you are and no matter what girl you fuck it's your own fault. if you can't handle your grog then don't drink.

Ok guys, ive got a problem, i saw her the other day, and she says shes pregnant, she says im the only person shes been with but i dont believe her, ive seen her goin around, anyways...its not like we can see the lump...she was a beast...anyways i dont care if it is my kid im not taking care of it, im not wasting my money cos its not mine...WHAT SHOULD I DO...and i'm not paying for that sluts runt.

UnLucky

Most importantly, you need to do some growing up. You saying that if you got a girl you dont like pregnant, you dont care and wont take care of the kid is the worst thing i have read on this board. That is so so wrong. You should not be drinking if you cant take the consequenses. If you knock a chick up, whether or not you were drunk, you did it. If she can prove via dna test it is yours, she can take you to court to try to get money. It really is a bad situation, but you need to buck up and take responsibility.

Get her to take a pregnancy test in front of you. If it is positive, talk to her about what she wants to do. I dont know your opinions on abortion, but it is always an option. As is adoption. As far as i know, you cant know if it's yours or not until it is born, but just in case it is, why not take the initative to solve your potential problem now.

sorry if that came out mean, but i cant think of a better way that i can say it.

Look, i just want all this shit with her to stop, i hardly remember her name, if it isnt mine, im thinking of taking her to court for all the shit this bitch put me through.

Good idea if its not yours I would suggest you sue the fuck outa her.

quote:Originally posted by Woodrift:

geez? so i got raped??

Tear.

Are you someone with money, social position, or at least a job? The cynic in me says to consider the possibility that the lady was already pregnant and wanted a financial figure, I mean, father figure. Figure out the timing.

Unlikely scenario, but possible.

Otherwise, I agree with a&b. You make the trash, you take it out. Folks are rarely taken advantage of without their consent, in some way.

[This message has been edited by deadlycindy (edited 07-27-2003).]

Yes but if she turns out to be some slut then it could be anyones and shes put him through emotion trauma by guessing/hoping that he was the father. If shes the kind girl that takes advantage of you the chances are she is like a village bicycle.

so what are you going to take her to court for? The two of you had sex and shes knocked up. By telling you that, it isnt causing you emotional trauma. It doesnt matter if she is the village bicycle or not, there is always the posibility that you could be the father, and she has the right to inform you of the possibility.

Oh...and i have forgotten to ask all this time, in your drunken state, did you think about protection? If you did wear a condom, did you make sure it hadnt split? Sorry to bring that up, but i am being nosy.

Well if he did wear one he obviously didnt check for a split because if he had (who would) he wouldnt be in this predicament.

Well, you were suddenly fucking like animals, so yeah.