as you can see i'm knew here, i've been reading the boards for a while and now i need some advice of my own.

i've been going out with this girl for a few months, she's the first "serious" relationship i've ever had. Anyway, the problem is she can't make me cum. she has tried giving me blowjob and a handjob but i cannot seem to cum. its not that she's bad at it, it feels amazing,and its not that i've never cum before because i have wanked and cum before, and this feels alot better.

is there something wrong with me? anything i could do?

she is getting really pissed off with not being able to make me cum andit might ruin our relationship which is something i don't want.

please help,

barr

My first suggestion would be to try and extend the time between your last masturbation session and her trying to get you off. The longer it is, the easier it should be for you. I'm guessing you're a little shaky, a little nervous, which is a major factor for guys in being able to stay hard and/or get off, so make it as easy as possible for yourself. Once you get there the first time, it should snowball into happiness.

Spiffy is right. You just need to try and relax. When your girl is trying to get you off. try not to think so much about cumin and just enjoy yourself. The more you think about it the harder it will be for you to cum.

They say a watched pot never boils. So just lay back and enjoy yourself.

Take Care,

Kangy

Drink lots of water.

Do something to her at the same time she is doing something to you. It will take your mind off it some.

quote:Originally posted by bangin_hump69:

Drink lots of water.



I don't quite get this one.

Anyway I had that problem too but it got solved when my gf by accident learned to give proper blowjobs. It's not the fact that she wasn't good before that, we both just didn't realize that it could be so much better.

And then I came... wooOOOSshhh!

hmm... don't think about what she is doin, or how good it feels. just look at your ceiling or sing a song in your head. kangy was right with the watched pot never boils thing. the less you think about what she's doin the better. the best thing to do, would be a 69, it'll take your mind off of it and she'll like it too.

thanks for the advice everyone, i'll definatly try to be more relaxed. anyways a 69 sounds fun.

thanks, barr

Sixtynine rules... YOU GOTTA try it dude!

this is freakily like the story of a mate of mine, is your name john?

i have never had a girl who can make me cum with a blowjob or handjob.

it's just not the same as full blown sex mate.

relax and while sucking her tit, have her jerk you off. i heard that people come faster if the job is done by yourself. so while making out with her naked, jerk yourself off for a while until you feel it about to blow, then have her finish the job. or have her jerk you off the same time you are doing it. like, you put your hand on top of hers. i remember i did that because my girlfriend did not want to swallow so she gave me a hand job and i still came all over the place it wasnt my house so i dont care

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