I've never posted a QUESTION on Totse before, (only replies). But this one (and another one I might ask later)has bugged me for a while. So since all you guys are experts, and I've got you all in one "room", right here, right now, please answer me this: What exactly do you mean when you say "she's a GOOD GIRL', and what exactly do you mean when you say "she's a BAD GIRL"? I'm often called a "Bad Girl" (sometimes worse), and I don't know why!! I don't think of myself as "BAD" at all. What would I have to do to earn the guys' coveted (sp.) "GOOD GIRL" label (IF I should ever actually want it---hee hee)? Sometimes I used to think that guys called a girl "bad" if they knew she had gone down with other guys, but for some reason wouldn't go down with them!! But then some guys call girls "bad girls" when the girl has said "yes" and HAS gone down with them. And to make it all the more confusing, being a true-blue "virgin" doesn't guaranty a girl the "Good Girl" title either......'cause when a virgin won't go down with the guy, he will invariably just refer to her as a "stuck-up Bitch"!! Please help me decode these guy words. Thanks, and Love, Venus.

To me a "good girl" is a girl who doesn't intentionally hurt or undermine my feelings, trusts me and has the same appreciation for me as I have for her.

if you generally act like a slut flirting with every Tom, Dick or Harry you'll probly be labeled 'BAD'...but then again thats the problem w/ ppl. nowadays...they care too much abt other ppl's opinions of them...

Even though I haven't been here for long, I have read many of your posts and you seem like a mature,friendly, responsible and easy going character always ready to offer advice.

So how anyone could possibly label you as a 'BAD' girl seems unfair unless you're a skitzo of some sort...Excuse the spelling

[This message has been edited by Don Corleone (edited 07-14-2003).]

Venus I'm glad you posted this because as you know I've been trying to work this out as well. Before I came to England I think I would have fit into the good girl label but I'm not sure where I fit anymore.

Most of the time I do not care but it would be nice to understand it.

Edit:spelling

[This message has been edited by bangin_hump69 (edited 07-14-2003).]

the bad girl label is applied to just about any girl who likes sex. especially any kind of deviant sex. if a girl outwardly shows herself as a girl who enjoys sex, she'll be a bad girl. in a pair, they could be either dom. or sub., but whichever one they are, they do it cause they get off on it.

a good girl is (go figure) the opposite. a good girl generally will have sex, but wont jump right in, they are usually quieter, and tend to like more common, boring types of sex. in a pair, their usually the submissive one, but only fill the role cause their too shy to dominate a dude.

the good girl label is given if you dont know anything about sex and act totally innocent and never get into a position that may be even remotely sexual. I really hate the idea of the good girl label. I knew a girl who was extremely religious and was the most un-bad person i knew, and she got labeled as a bad girl because a guy was giving her a back massage in public, and rumor spread.

if you really want the good girl label, i think you just about have to go and become a nun (or at least commit your life celibacy...or tell people such). And you cant ever make someone mad or they will spread rumors....i think the good girl label is the female holy grail.

Venus I think we should just apply for the "Good" girl label here. These guys have the power to present us with this great gift.

Guys what do you think can Venus and I earn the glorious "Good" girl title?

What you will get is too things,

1 you will have "bad" guys trying to change you, or try and have sex with you so you will change your outlook on life. or..

2 The guys will leave you alone and label you as prude and not want to spend time with you.

Actually you get called either Bitch or Cocktease not prude. I know this first hand since I was a late starter.

It can suck for a young girl but that's the way it is...

what is in the erotic section? I never really checked it out. Please tell me...

Well Labeled as prude but called all sorts of names, and a piece of advice, never call a girl a cunt, you will get kicked in the nuts slapped and all sorts of girls will hate you.

A good girl is a girl who always gives blowjobs when asked.

quote:Originally posted by Painkillers:

A good girl is a girl who always gives blowjobs when asked.

Bahahaha!

People will assume you're a good girl if you dress modestly.

Everyone thinks I'm a good girl. But that's only until they get to know me, and then they're astonished that their first impression of me was completely wrong, lol.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

Bahahaha!

People will assume you're a good girl if you dress modestly.

Everyone thinks I'm a good girl. But that's only until they get to know me, and then they're astonished that their first impression of me was completely wrong, lol.

i love chicks like you. like a pleasant suprise.

i <3 shattered misconseptions

"never call a girl a cunt, you will get kicked in the nuts slapped and all sorts of girls will hate you."

You got that straight. I hate that word more than any other. Just for the record I would never kick a guy in the nuts or using any form of voilence unless it was self defense.

Ouch. You just don't do that to any man, baby

A good girl doesn't stick with you through an extremely difficult drug quitting only to dump for a dealer of the drug you just quit.

Fucking bitch.

Also, a good girl doesn't get drunk off of her ass and allow me to write on her shaved vaginal area with a magic marker. Sure, it was a fun time, but that was no good girl. As a side note, I urge you to shave. I've had both types, and I far prefer the bare skin, as I'm sure most guys would.

Basically, there's only a few things one must do to qualify as a good girl to me:

1.) Don't get plastered. Everybody drinks, but you don't have to get drunk. Learn some fucking moderation, lest you end up having sex with someone like me.

2.) Don't have sex with just anyone. Keep it as wild as you want to(hell, I 'd like it that way), but also keep it to just your boyfriend.

I like bad girls... mabye I'm looking in all the wrong places but they seem to be pretty damn rare down here

Don't get me wrong, good girls are great, but I've never really been with a bad girl before... well not many anyway.



[This message has been edited by Shadow88 (edited 07-15-2003).]

quote:Originally posted by Shadow88:

I like bad girls... mabye I'm looking in all the wrong places but they seem to be pretty damn rare down here

Don't get me wrong, good girls are great, but I've never really been with a bad girl before... well not many anyway.

[This message has been edited by Shadow88 (edited 07-15-2003).]

You should come to Phoenix. Evry girl here's a filthy whore.

I've been with nothing but 'bad' girls, I'd rather have a good girl. The 'bad' girls get really bloody annoying.

"bad" girls are generally used for one night stands...

"good" girls are generally girlfriend material...

also, "bad" can be loosely defined as punk, kinky, slutty, nasty, 'nasty', etc.

and "good" can be loosly defined as honor roll, virgin, goody-two-shoes, good in bed, etc.

ts

I like kinky... yet to find a girl at all as kinky as me though...

Kikey its not like me to flame someone but if you speak of women like that in the real world it is no wonder you are struggling to find a "good" girl.

I can quess you have been hurt but come on guy take it easy.

quote:Originally posted by Tru_Souljer:

"bad" girls are generally used for one night stands...

"good" girls are generally girlfriend material...

also, "bad" can be loosely defined as punk, kinky, slutty, nasty, 'nasty', etc.

and "good" can be loosly defined as honor roll, virgin, goody-two-shoes, good in bed, etc.

ts

what about a kinky honor roll girl whos punk?

I think you all are missing a important piece of the puzzle. There is not just two basic categories of women, there is THREE:

Good

Bad

Badass

I'll let you all debate exactly what that means

I think a "GOOD GIRL" is nice and polete to EVERYONE, not just ppl who have a good rep. Also, good girls aren't easy to hook up with. They don't cheat or constantly lie about shit and they dont "put out" like a crackwhore. Bein the tall spooky ass person i am tho, they dont come around me which sucks . BAD GIRLS r liers, manipulators, cheaters, and whores.

So for example....

My girlfriend is a good girl, as in the great girlfriend material type of girl. But when we are alone in the bedroom for example, she is a badgirl if you know what I mean.

Dont fuck around.

Dont wear slutty clothes.

Its the people you hang out with, and the shit you do.