Ok, the other day I just got to thinking that if you make a girl consider and then WANT the oppisote, she'll really want to go out with. I actually got this to work the other day. I've known this girl, Katie, for a little while. Then, when we were just hanging out in a hammock together, I just started talking and it came out something like this:

"I don't know if you'd find me really attractive or that I might be somebody that you can feel really close to... because it doesn't happen with just anyone... you know what I mean don't you? That feeling of closeness that allows you to let go and really be with someone... I'm not sure we could have that... But we might have fun finding out and the very least we might be friends... But it is nice isn't it? I mean when that does happen and you find yourself having all those feelings... inside. You know how that feels don't you? I mean when was the last time you felt that way? Really intense... inside... and down below… and as you think about it have you noticed you can get some of those feelings back now! But you know I find you really attractive but I don't want you to sleep with me... I'm not even going to ask you... because its your decision... and any way I'm not sure you can make me want you... but its nice to think about it isn't it? And I'm sure you'll find what you really want... eventually but until then we can have some kind of closeness… because I don't want to sleep with anyone who doesn't really want to sleep with me... . But we can be friends can't we?"

Needless to say, it worked, and we are both quite happy now. By talking about the true meaning of love and closeness and being with someone you care about, it will tell the girl that you are a sensitive, caring, loving person that truly cares for another person's feelings. By doing so, she will think she will miss the opportunity with you, and will surely say yes. But I know there are some guys out there who will just take this and use it to get laid, which is not what I intended it to be used for, and I just want to say something to all those guys who only date to have sex: FUCK YOU.

Yeah I'm with you, on that last thing you said. My friends make fun of me all the time for tellin my girlfriend I love her. Dating isn't all about sex, its about the mutual balance of two peoples feelings that matters most, and keeps it alive. No matter what, people say that they are only with the person to fuck them, but deep down inside there is a burning passion for both of them to have sex, there will always be more than just physical attraction, because if your only with someone so fuck them and sleep with them and go places with them, then there is more than just the physical part, so all of you people that say that shit, think about what I just said and think about how the people have felt that you have told I love you, to, with outactually meaning it, and then left them.

relationships aren't always about sex...it sickens me to see guys who only date girls for sex.

relationships are about caring and understanding...although sex is great aswell!

aww...why can't all guys think this way? Most of the guys I know are horny, insensitive jerks.

Yea!

Bah, I used to think like that.

I gave up after the girl I loved dumped me for a fucking drug dealer.

I don't really care anymore. Every women I see just ends up looking like a whore to me, either through her words or her actions.

That bitch screwed my psyche up BUT good.

This all goes back to how we want what we can't, or think we can't, have.